Eve gave the fruit to Adam and said 'Eat'.
There are some universal truths about men and women that I've come across throughout the years. And some of them might be controversial, but they're just my learnings. Not necessarily true. But they're true to me, and I just feel like letting everyone in on my psyche a little bit.
Men generally ask very little, and women generally ask very much. Us men don't really desire a lot of things. I want a woman who's loyal and whose eyes I find beautiful. Someone that takes care of her body. That's it really. The rest can come. Women want all these other things. And a lot of men have been programmed to think that we desire all these 'extras' too. But honestly, most guys that I know now just want a women they'd be proud to take home to the folks for her values rather than the amount of makeup she wears and how good her bum looks in those jeans.
But women are very good at being emotionally manipulative and pushing on our buttons, and it's acceptable in our society because men act like they are 'hard', but really we hide the inner depth of our emotions from women, because deep down we just don't trust women to know the real person underneath because her expectations are far too high, her desires are far too unpredictable and her ability to manipulate us because of our love for her is far too great for us to begin to think about even taking a tiny part of that risk.
So we hide our emotions.
I've come across guys who are always saying 'I don't understand women', and I think it's quite simply really; women want what they want and it's foremost in their minds. I don't know what that is exactly, it's different for every woman, but all I know is, in our society, a woman will get what she wants one way or another. I tend to believe women generally only think of themselves in this respect. Before you take that as a horrible insult, read on, I'll explain. I'm not saying there's no such thing as a selfless women, but rather I'm saying that a selfless woman is a selfless woman because selflessness is what she wants. She sacrifices for her man, or she does something for someone, because that's what she wants. Men do things for very different reasons to women in this respect.
And I think, once a woman no longer has that emotional desire for something, that 'want' then it might as well be gone, very soon she'll stop doing it. And that's why a man's love and a woman's love are two very different things. A woman 'wants' and 'desires' (or, as they always say, is IN LOVE with, not just LOVES) her strong, bold man. But a man takes loving compassion toward his gentle, downtrodden, afflicted and fragile little woman.
In his eyes, she'll always be his little woman.
But 99% of the time, our first little woman breaks our heart in a million bits and we never quite get the buoyancy of mind back that we once had, so we just don't bother to open up to that potential for grief again. And most of us men end up going through life misunderstood emotionally.
That's my two cents for now. I'm sure there's more. I'll maybe post a series of these. They kinda vent me out a bit.
There are some universal truths about men and women that I've come across throughout the years. And some of them might be controversial, but they're just my learnings. Not necessarily true. But they're true to me, and I just feel like letting everyone in on my psyche a little bit.
Men generally ask very little, and women generally ask very much. Us men don't really desire a lot of things. I want a woman who's loyal and whose eyes I find beautiful. Someone that takes care of her body. That's it really. The rest can come. Women want all these other things. And a lot of men have been programmed to think that we desire all these 'extras' too. But honestly, most guys that I know now just want a women they'd be proud to take home to the folks for her values rather than the amount of makeup she wears and how good her bum looks in those jeans.
But women are very good at being emotionally manipulative and pushing on our buttons, and it's acceptable in our society because men act like they are 'hard', but really we hide the inner depth of our emotions from women, because deep down we just don't trust women to know the real person underneath because her expectations are far too high, her desires are far too unpredictable and her ability to manipulate us because of our love for her is far too great for us to begin to think about even taking a tiny part of that risk.
So we hide our emotions.
I've come across guys who are always saying 'I don't understand women', and I think it's quite simply really; women want what they want and it's foremost in their minds. I don't know what that is exactly, it's different for every woman, but all I know is, in our society, a woman will get what she wants one way or another. I tend to believe women generally only think of themselves in this respect. Before you take that as a horrible insult, read on, I'll explain. I'm not saying there's no such thing as a selfless women, but rather I'm saying that a selfless woman is a selfless woman because selflessness is what she wants. She sacrifices for her man, or she does something for someone, because that's what she wants. Men do things for very different reasons to women in this respect.
And I think, once a woman no longer has that emotional desire for something, that 'want' then it might as well be gone, very soon she'll stop doing it. And that's why a man's love and a woman's love are two very different things. A woman 'wants' and 'desires' (or, as they always say, is IN LOVE with, not just LOVES) her strong, bold man. But a man takes loving compassion toward his gentle, downtrodden, afflicted and fragile little woman.
In his eyes, she'll always be his little woman.
But 99% of the time, our first little woman breaks our heart in a million bits and we never quite get the buoyancy of mind back that we once had, so we just don't bother to open up to that potential for grief again. And most of us men end up going through life misunderstood emotionally.
That's my two cents for now. I'm sure there's more. I'll maybe post a series of these. They kinda vent me out a bit.
Its great you are trying to understand how relationships work, God Bless you, please read the responses your post will generate with an open heart. Please...a good start would be to not call women ''our little women''. In Christ, we are equal. I am, and never can be what you describe...I am 6 foot!! but i am a little put off by the way you want to put me in a box, limit me, I am a woman so I should be a certain way? not something I read in the Bible at all. I am interested to where do you get your views from? We have different roles yes, but we are equal. Equally valuable, intelligent and able. if you are looking to have a relationship, look to how you can succeed? Do not dwell on ''women's failings' maybe this is the culturally an issue here?...but it was not an issue for Christ. God Bless you. <><
