I pray that you find this helpful. To God's glory and your good.
It is our heart's condition, as we stand before the Lord, that should be the source of HOW we deal with our brothers and sisters. Guard your heart for out of it flow the issues of life.
Our gifts and service to the Lord are to be presented with clean conscience. Without more to go on in your situation the principle set forth in Matthew 5:23-26 is a good example to follow.
- In this passage the responsibility of the reconciliation is on the shoulders of the one who did the wronging and not on the shoulders of the one wronged. And if this wrongdoer has truly grasped the depth of their sin not only against their brother but also against God (hence why they had to leave their gift), THEN they will also grasp how much they have been forgiven and the fruit of such a realization the Bible says will be in how much love is stirred up in the wrongdoers heart.
- That is an important distinction because if it is the other way around and you are the one that has been wronged, then you are not required to go and make the wrongdoer confess wrongdoing but instead to forgive - for love covers a multitude of sin. And you ought in the spirit of Love restore the wrongdoer in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also are tempted.
I hope you will also see that it is not just about getting
past the event but it is about reconciliation and if necessary restitution. It is about Christ and you, as His image bearer in whom dwells the Holy Spirit.
Finally, if you have ears to hear this is an encouraging word...
He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.