A gift is only a gift because you have not asked for, once you ask for, it ceases to be a gift. If you ask and is given, then the other person complies to some instruction which came in the form of asking- it is compliance, not a gift.
This is just English (and i'm not even an English speaker)- there's no English dictionary that was based on what you and your parents did. All those things that your parent bought for you voluntarily without you asking were gifts but the others were compliance to your instructions.
Biblically- God is God, He doesn't comply to instructions. He has given us free will so that we can actually ask in prayer and it would appear that He complies but it is not so- He already knows what we need before even ask and the answer was ready before we were even born. Again, it is the will of God that happens every time.
About 1 Cor 12/13/14
1 Cor 12:
7Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good.
8To one there is given through the Spirit a message of wisdom, to another a message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit,
9to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by that one Spirit,
10to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues,
a and to still another the interpretation of tongues.
b 11All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he distributes them to each one, just as he determines.....
15Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body.
16And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body.
17If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be?
18But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.
19If they were all one part, where would the body be?
20As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
So your desire for greater gifts can not change the will of God, it is still the will of God that is done.
Luke 11:13
So if you who are evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him!”
Holy spirit is a promise to believers and a promise is never asked but is fulfilled. The context of the word ask here is not in the sense as to request just like the gifts are never requested but given. The context of the word ask here is with regards to 'need'. In another passage, we see Jesus say that the Father already knows what you need before you ask- so He gives the holy spirit because the believers need the HS.
If you think the word ask applies only to physical request, then what about the numb & deaf- don't they have place in the kingdom of God. But if it is a need (in the mind), then the promise will just come in automatically as long as they believe.
Do you understand this verse:
John 16:
23In that day
you will no longer ask me anything.
Very truly I tell you, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.
24 Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.
In that day, they will no longer ask because anything they ask the Father will give them.
It is clear here that the ask is a need, they won't need anything in that day because their needs will be met before they raise a question. And this is how gifts are issued.