Not going to address 1-3 because the thread would go in a very strange tangent.
Let's focus on 4.
So if we had a family reunion would the woman be allowed to speak, according to your beliefs garee?
I would offer. It’s not just speaking but Pastoring the flock represented by man in respect to Christ our husband, the chief Sheppard of our souls, not seen.
I am not aware of any female sheppards of the sheep. Female prophets yes, Pastors no.
According to my beliefs if more than one husband was there, the woman or women would honor the ceremonial law, a sign for the angels who long to look into salvation seeing they are not subject to the gospel. In the end it has to with the hidden glory of God revealed by faith. If the woman does not honor it, both her and her husband will be held responsible just as it was in the garden in the beginning.
The husband was held responsible for the usurping of the head which again represented the man who represented the spiritual head of the church, Christ.
Again it is a ceremonial law and therefore not subject to judgment like the Sabbath laws.
Let no man therefore judge you in meat, or in drink, or in respect of an holyday, or of the new moon, or of the sabbath
days:Which are a shadow of things to come; but the body
is of Christ. Let no man beguile you of your reward in a voluntary humility and
worshipping of angels, intruding into those
things which he hath not seen, vainly puffed up by his fleshly mind, Col 2:16
Eve voluntarily worshipped the angel, the father of lies rather than walking by faith.(the unseen eternal one)