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J
Wow you have lived a lifetime already. God is going to use you in some manner as you mature spiritually.
There are some trying days ahead for Christians. We need to learn how to deal with those who oppose us.
I am pleased to see you are allowing the bullying 'roll off you, like water off a ducks back.' This is most
needed lesson we all need to learn to do. It has been difficult for some of us to not let things hurt us.
Thank you for sharing your experience, which has been more than I ever heard one person experience
at one lifetime. God bless you and may you be healed of all hurts and good come from what you have
shared with us. ~ J~ K~ 2
J
Lamentation 3:
[SUP]13 [/SUP]He made the [SUP][a][/SUP]arrows of His quiver
To enter into my [SUP][b][/SUP]inward parts.
[SUP]14 [/SUP]I have become a laughingstock to all my people,
Their mocking song all the day.
[SUP]15 [/SUP]He has filled me with bitterness,
He has made me drunk with wormwood.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]He has broken my teeth with gravel;
He has made me cower in the dust.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]My soul has been rejected from peace;
I have forgotten [SUP][c][/SUP]happiness.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]So I say, “My strength has perished,
And so has my hope from the Lord.”
[SUP]19 [/SUP]Remember my affliction and my [SUP][d][/SUP]wandering, the wormwood and bitterness.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]Surely my soul remembers
And is bowed down within me.
[SUP]21 [/SUP]This I recall to my mind,
Therefore I have hope.
[SUP]22 [/SUP]The Lord’s lovingkindnesses [SUP][e][/SUP]indeed never cease,
For His compassions never fail.
[SUP]23 [/SUP]They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.
[SUP]24 [/SUP]“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
“Therefore I have hope in Him.”
[SUP]25 [/SUP]The Lord is good to those who wait for Him,
To the [SUP][f][/SUP]person who seeks Him.
[SUP]26 [/SUP]It is good that he waits silently
For the salvation of the Lord.
[SUP]13 [/SUP]He made the [SUP][a][/SUP]arrows of His quiver
To enter into my [SUP][b][/SUP]inward parts.
[SUP]14 [/SUP]I have become a laughingstock to all my people,
Their mocking song all the day.
[SUP]15 [/SUP]He has filled me with bitterness,
He has made me drunk with wormwood.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]He has broken my teeth with gravel;
He has made me cower in the dust.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]My soul has been rejected from peace;
I have forgotten [SUP][c][/SUP]happiness.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]So I say, “My strength has perished,
And so has my hope from the Lord.”
[SUP]19 [/SUP]Remember my affliction and my [SUP][d][/SUP]wandering, the wormwood and bitterness.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]Surely my soul remembers
And is bowed down within me.
[SUP]21 [/SUP]This I recall to my mind,
Therefore I have hope.
[SUP]22 [/SUP]The Lord’s lovingkindnesses [SUP][e][/SUP]indeed never cease,
For His compassions never fail.
[SUP]23 [/SUP]They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.
[SUP]24 [/SUP]“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
“Therefore I have hope in Him.”
[SUP]25 [/SUP]The Lord is good to those who wait for Him,
To the [SUP][f][/SUP]person who seeks Him.
[SUP]26 [/SUP]It is good that he waits silently
For the salvation of the Lord.
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S
I'm still made fun of haha. In James it says, "blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because having stood the test , that person will receive the crown of life that The Lord has promised to those who love him." I really try to look at life's difficulties like this.....every good attribute that the good lord wants to ascribe to us is like a muscle, it must be exercised to increase in size and strength. To do this it must be stressed to the point that the fibers in it tear. This human experience is about stress and recovery stress and recovery because the great I AM is preparing us for life with Him in heaven. Stress on your character is designed to make it stronger and more like Jesus'.
J
Sirk; Very well said. My experience initially I started out with was high school days.
I agree with you about the growing phases we go through as we mature into adults.
If we do not learn from these 'tough times' as adults, there is something wrong.
Some people get stuck in a certain age and can't grow past that. I have heard of
one person who is stuck at age twelve. Oh, they grow in to adults, and mentally
they grow in knowledge, it is the active issue that stays alive inside them that causes
reactions at the age they were traumatized, etc.
We could have quite a discussion about spiritual growth. So many people have
hang ups. God bless ~
S
Amen. The bible admonishes us to...Philippians 3-13: forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead to press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
To the op.... Your father in heaven takes great pleasure in you and heaven celebrates for even the tiniest of your victories over the flesh.
To the op.... Your father in heaven takes great pleasure in you and heaven celebrates for even the tiniest of your victories over the flesh.
W
I was bullied every week (often every day) from fourth grade and throughout seven years of school (at three different schools).
I have ADHD. The first year I guess they thought it was fun to make me angry. I eventually learned to ignore them, but that didn't make them stop. Teachers didn't believe me, and if I tried to retaliate in any way, they yelled at me. My mother knew about it, and I think she was fighting just as desperately as me to have the teachers realize what has happening, to no avail. I was told I was ugly, I was stupid for believing in God, I wasn't eating the right spreading with my lunch (!), all sorts of silly things. Some even silly enough to make me laugh in the middle of it all.
I quit my current studies (back couldnt handle walking kitchen floors all day), and tried something else. Finally I was left alone. After the two years there, I took a "add on" class (basically with stuff like math, language, history etc), and for the first time since second or third grade I felt like I was part of the class. I never made friends with the people there out of school, but I am still thankful for the wonderful year I spent with them
it took me years to forgive the bullies, and to be honest I don't think I would have been able to if I had not gotten away from it all.
I have ADHD. The first year I guess they thought it was fun to make me angry. I eventually learned to ignore them, but that didn't make them stop. Teachers didn't believe me, and if I tried to retaliate in any way, they yelled at me. My mother knew about it, and I think she was fighting just as desperately as me to have the teachers realize what has happening, to no avail. I was told I was ugly, I was stupid for believing in God, I wasn't eating the right spreading with my lunch (!), all sorts of silly things. Some even silly enough to make me laugh in the middle of it all.
I quit my current studies (back couldnt handle walking kitchen floors all day), and tried something else. Finally I was left alone. After the two years there, I took a "add on" class (basically with stuff like math, language, history etc), and for the first time since second or third grade I felt like I was part of the class. I never made friends with the people there out of school, but I am still thankful for the wonderful year I spent with them
it took me years to forgive the bullies, and to be honest I don't think I would have been able to if I had not gotten away from it all.
J
Thank you for sharing your experience. I think you are wise in completing your schooling.
It is really amazing how many people get hurt by words. We have a quote here in USA since
I was a child, I have never forgotten:
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can not hurt me.
We know that is not true. I thought as I read your testimony, it is the people who made it
difficult for you who really had the problem.
I think you are to be commended for forgiving those who hurt you and with that knowledge,
you can help another person learn how important it is to forgive.
God bless you and again thank you so much for sharing ~
It is really amazing how many people get hurt by words. We have a quote here in USA since
I was a child, I have never forgotten:
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can not hurt me.
We know that is not true. I thought as I read your testimony, it is the people who made it
difficult for you who really had the problem.
I think you are to be commended for forgiving those who hurt you and with that knowledge,
you can help another person learn how important it is to forgive.
God bless you and again thank you so much for sharing ~
M
Forgiveness is a CHOICE, not a feeling. When one keeps returning to the offense of being bullied? Here is what scripture says:
Proverbs 26:11(NASB)[SUP]11 [/SUP]Like a dog that returns to its vomit
Is a fool who repeats [SUP][a][/SUP]his folly.
CHOOSE to forgiven...because they knew not what they did...and move forward. To keep repeating the folly of going back to the offense is self-defeating, unproductive, and...sin.
Maggie
Proverbs 26:11(NASB)[SUP]11 [/SUP]Like a dog that returns to its vomit
Is a fool who repeats [SUP][a][/SUP]his folly.
CHOOSE to forgiven...because they knew not what they did...and move forward. To keep repeating the folly of going back to the offense is self-defeating, unproductive, and...sin.
Maggie
J
Hi Maggie. Are you speaking of the person being bullied ? Or the person doing the bullying ?
I have to say when my Mom would get pretty nasty with me and hurt me in the latter years, I had
to stay away for maybe 4 days or so until I healed. She had a good mind, but held a grudge against
me for reasons I have posted in past. Forgiveness of our elderly parents, mate, or anyone who has
hurt us is a must for our sake. What is the saying ? The person we can't forgive goes on living like
nothing ever happened, and we who can't forgive are a prisoner to them.
Thank you for the scripture. God bless, ~J~K~2
J
Not so much when I was a kid and if anything was said I paid no mind to it. I had my groups I hung out with and one that I actually settled with until we graduated into high school. Towards the middle-end of middle school there were these girls that kept bothering me and I was a little bit more confronting back then, but alas they still tried to bother me when they hung out.
Most of it I've dealt with was in high school. That's when what I had left of whatever confidence/self esteem just went down the drain. Many that are still fresh wounds, one that I probably will have stuck with me for years to come. To think that certain people should 'know' better, but apparently many don't and I was proven of this fact many times over. But this one stuck. I'll get back to this thread if I ever actually can share it, otherwise I want no further questions asked... Only one person knows about it and when they found out they wanted to go off, haha.
I've took my share and took it out on people and gave the impression that I was so up-tight (which I was). I regret many of the things I've done/said no matter the situation. I'm slowly trying to improve as to what I say, who I say it to and how I go about it. All in all, I took what ever hurt I had and used it in many wrong ways, so I 'lost' when it came to overcome with it.
Most of it I've dealt with was in high school. That's when what I had left of whatever confidence/self esteem just went down the drain. Many that are still fresh wounds, one that I probably will have stuck with me for years to come. To think that certain people should 'know' better, but apparently many don't and I was proven of this fact many times over. But this one stuck. I'll get back to this thread if I ever actually can share it, otherwise I want no further questions asked... Only one person knows about it and when they found out they wanted to go off, haha.
I've took my share and took it out on people and gave the impression that I was so up-tight (which I was). I regret many of the things I've done/said no matter the situation. I'm slowly trying to improve as to what I say, who I say it to and how I go about it. All in all, I took what ever hurt I had and used it in many wrong ways, so I 'lost' when it came to overcome with it.
Toska, I was lucky like you. Or, the Lord had his hand on me, even when I was a child. Maybe the prayers of my Christian grandmother?
I hate bullying, and always did. I remember standing up to my whole grade 8 classroom, who were bullying one boy. He was smart, but kind of dumpy. He also had a different last name, not a WASP. One day I got up and told the whole class off, and told them if they ever bullied him again, they would hear from me!
Now, I guess I had enough respect from my classmates, coupled with a bit of fear. They never bullied that boy again, and he gave me a thank you card. My only wish, is that I had done it earlier.
My brother was bullied mercilessly and is a disturbed person to this day. He was much younger than me, we were never on the playground at the same time. I wish I could have had at a few of those terrible bullies that destroyed my brother.
I think this issue is important, because Jesus expects us to love one another. But please don't go hunting down someone you bullied 10, 20 or 30 years ago. My brother had almost forgotten the bullying in his 20's. He had started a new life, when a newly born again Christian phoned him to make amends. He really was just going through the motions. He didn't try to become his friend, or do things with him. It was the point where my brother broke, and told my parents about his miserable childhood he had been too embarrassed to tell them about. Confess your sins to God, and do not use the 12 step program, which is really not Biblical, to erase your sins.
And I am so sorry for those who were bullied, and not able to stand up for themselves, whatever the reason. I was just too stubborn to let anyone push me around. Seriously! (Maybe you have noticed it sometimes in this forum? LOL)
I hate bullying, and always did. I remember standing up to my whole grade 8 classroom, who were bullying one boy. He was smart, but kind of dumpy. He also had a different last name, not a WASP. One day I got up and told the whole class off, and told them if they ever bullied him again, they would hear from me!
Now, I guess I had enough respect from my classmates, coupled with a bit of fear. They never bullied that boy again, and he gave me a thank you card. My only wish, is that I had done it earlier.
My brother was bullied mercilessly and is a disturbed person to this day. He was much younger than me, we were never on the playground at the same time. I wish I could have had at a few of those terrible bullies that destroyed my brother.
I think this issue is important, because Jesus expects us to love one another. But please don't go hunting down someone you bullied 10, 20 or 30 years ago. My brother had almost forgotten the bullying in his 20's. He had started a new life, when a newly born again Christian phoned him to make amends. He really was just going through the motions. He didn't try to become his friend, or do things with him. It was the point where my brother broke, and told my parents about his miserable childhood he had been too embarrassed to tell them about. Confess your sins to God, and do not use the 12 step program, which is really not Biblical, to erase your sins.
And I am so sorry for those who were bullied, and not able to stand up for themselves, whatever the reason. I was just too stubborn to let anyone push me around. Seriously! (Maybe you have noticed it sometimes in this forum? LOL)
I am still being bullied. I never knew my Mom until I was almost six when she came storming in the house where I lived, she announced she was my Mom, would take me out of state, and would change me. I had never heard of her before. She always told me I was unacceptable. I was probably a bully to her, too, I thought she was sunburned, skinny, and sour looking. I was the darling of an entire community where the women were plump, with very white skin, and loved fun. When I found out one woman who didn't like me much had control of me I was shocked.
I got a letter a year ago when I asked my Sis to please speak to me that she had never seen anything in me worth speaking to. I have always shown her love, painted her pictures, sewn her clothes, knitted her sweaters with a blessing in each stitch.
We are given these things to learn. I watch for times I can help someone who is bullied know that they are created by God for a good purpose, they belong to God, and no one has a right to say God is wrong. They have a right to be just as God created them it is good. We can all look for the good in ourselves and build on that, God will show us the way. Bullies can not do that for us, they have no right even if they are our parents and family.
I got a letter a year ago when I asked my Sis to please speak to me that she had never seen anything in me worth speaking to. I have always shown her love, painted her pictures, sewn her clothes, knitted her sweaters with a blessing in each stitch.
We are given these things to learn. I watch for times I can help someone who is bullied know that they are created by God for a good purpose, they belong to God, and no one has a right to say God is wrong. They have a right to be just as God created them it is good. We can all look for the good in ourselves and build on that, God will show us the way. Bullies can not do that for us, they have no right even if they are our parents and family.
I was bullied from 3rd grade until 6th. After 6th it got so bad my life became endangered.
I wasnt bullied for my looks, what I liked or anything like that.
I was bullied for my bone disease I was born with. This disease makes my bones break like crazy (297 and still counting)
In 3rd grade I had to tell everyone in my grade and the older grades about my O.I.
The teachers thought it would be good if everyone knew that way people would be more careful around me. But all it did was make me a target.
Kid's started pushing me down to see if the could break my legs or arms. Some called me names. And one kid even pushed me down and jumped on my back to see if he could snap my spine. (I was 90 LBS and he was around 180 LBS)
By the time I got in 6th grade people would push me against the wall and punch me in the ribs to see if the could snap them in half. Well one kid did and I was rushed to a hospital because they were scared*that I had internal bleeding. After that happened I had to be homeschooled for fear next time they try to hurt me they might just kill me.
Its hard to live being bullied all the time and I feel for anyone who has and still lives a life of being bullied.
I wasnt bullied for my looks, what I liked or anything like that.
I was bullied for my bone disease I was born with. This disease makes my bones break like crazy (297 and still counting)
In 3rd grade I had to tell everyone in my grade and the older grades about my O.I.
The teachers thought it would be good if everyone knew that way people would be more careful around me. But all it did was make me a target.
Kid's started pushing me down to see if the could break my legs or arms. Some called me names. And one kid even pushed me down and jumped on my back to see if he could snap my spine. (I was 90 LBS and he was around 180 LBS)
By the time I got in 6th grade people would push me against the wall and punch me in the ribs to see if the could snap them in half. Well one kid did and I was rushed to a hospital because they were scared*that I had internal bleeding. After that happened I had to be homeschooled for fear next time they try to hurt me they might just kill me.
Its hard to live being bullied all the time and I feel for anyone who has and still lives a life of being bullied.