What to do when you are about to lose patience?

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tryingtofindhim

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Hey,
I really need some advice. I'm really good at giving other people advice but I can't seem to help myself. My friend just moved in with me and its causing problems but if it weren't that I convinced my parents to take her in she'd be on the streets. She doesn't listen very well and does not act very well. There's always been a barrier between my parents and it because of some past stuff and she's not helping. I didn't know she'd be acting like this or I wouldn't have asked my parents to take her in but now their yelling at me talking about how I always raise hell in the house. I've been going through depression and now there's this and I have no idea what to do. Any ideas? BTW the whole pray to God answer isn't really working for me; I've tried.
 
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Mordred

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Hey girl, you need to talk to your parents about your situation. And your girl friend, don't worry about it,
even the birds are taken care of.
 
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charisenexcelcis

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I have been in similar situations--as a parent rather than as a child. I've noticed that often people, for various reasons, will try to sabatoge a good situation. Even when they are provided with shelter and food and a safe and caring environment, they push the limits. Sometimes this is just a behavior problem that need to be confronted. Sometimes it is from their own low self esteem. Other times they are purposefully testing the limits to see the how much love will take. I suggest that you sit down with your friend and go over the problems. Seek to discern the source of the problem. Then meet with your parents, discuss your conclusion and pray together for what should be done. If your parents are prejudiced toward your friend, having them pray for him or her is the best way to overcome that prejudice.
 
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greatkraw

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Hey,
I really need some advice. I'm really good at giving other people advice but I can't seem to help myself. My friend just moved in with me and its causing problems but if it weren't that I convinced my parents to take her in she'd be on the streets. She doesn't listen very well and does not act very well. There's always been a barrier between my parents and it because of some past stuff and she's not helping. I didn't know she'd be acting like this or I wouldn't have asked my parents to take her in but now their yelling at me talking about how I always raise hell in the house. I've been going through depression and now there's this and I have no idea what to do. Any ideas? BTW the whole pray to God answer isn't really working for me; I've tried.
That is a hard one. I will pray.
 
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tryingtofindhim

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I have been in similar situations--as a parent rather than as a child. I've noticed that often people, for various reasons, will try to sabatoge a good situation. Even when they are provided with shelter and food and a safe and caring environment, they push the limits. Sometimes this is just a behavior problem that need to be confronted. Sometimes it is from their own low self esteem. Other times they are purposefully testing the limits to see the how much love will take. I suggest that you sit down with your friend and go over the problems. Seek to discern the source of the problem. Then meet with your parents, discuss your conclusion and pray together for what should be done. If your parents are prejudiced toward your friend, having them pray for him or her is the best way to overcome that prejudice.
Thanks for the awesome advice I know its probably hard for the prayer part because my dad isn't a Christian but I guess I could ask my mom.
 
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worldlover

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just ask her what's wrong until she opens up then , the next thing you should do is to approach her parents and talk with them about their daughter maybe that's better.
 
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Just made me think why the friend wasn't at their own home. It's nice that you are wanting to help someone. Sometimes it's hard enough for us. I agree with talking to your parents. We learn everyday and we make mistakes all the time. God bless you and hope it all turns out fine.
 
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tryingtofindhim

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thanks for the advice everyone!
 
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greatkraw

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An important lesson to learn is that sometimes we can do nothing to help a situation(even if we helped bring it about); we need to let it sort itself out.

Ever hear of the War of the Roses? The house of York fought the House of Lancaster over 100 years. The winner, in the end was neither, history simply moved on. Like sectarian viloence in Northern Ireland.
 
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Speaking of patience, I don’t always have the patience (or time) to read the posts that precede mine, so maybe you’ve already solved your problem. Otherwise, maybe you should talk to your friend and let her know she has to behave herself if she is going to continue to live in your home.
 
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