-
Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.
If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!
To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
My wife helped love me into the kingdom of God. She showed me His love without condemning me. It's the live of God that draws men. Fear is a poor persuader though the fear of God is a wise thing.
You can by the word divorce this man. My wife of 50 years was married to such an unfaithful one and divorced him. She was blameless and not sinning in God's sight. So would you be.
Without the word opinions mean little.
1 Corinthians 7:10-17 NASB
But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband [11] (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife. [12] But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. [13] And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. [14] For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. [15] Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. [16] For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? [17] Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let him walk. And so I direct in all the churches.
You can by the word divorce this man. My wife of 50 years was married to such an unfaithful one and divorced him. She was blameless and not sinning in God's sight. So would you be.
Without the word opinions mean little.
1 Corinthians 7:10-17 NASB
But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband [11] (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife. [12] But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. [13] And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. [14] For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. [15] Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. [16] For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? [17] Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let him walk. And so I direct in all the churches.
Last edited:
"But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery"
Your husband has committed sexual immorality and broken the covenant between you too. You can leave him if you choose.
Forgive him in your heart but you are not bound to stay with him.
Your husband has committed sexual immorality and broken the covenant between you too. You can leave him if you choose.
Forgive him in your heart but you are not bound to stay with him.
I would've walked away the minute you were betrayed by your husband's infidelity. A man that loves his wife does not even think about cheating on her let alone actually doing such a despicable thing. I'm sure that God would certainly understand if you were to walk away. Personally, I would run away. Biblically, you have grounds for ending this sham of a marriage. My advice is to immediately separate from your husband if possible and then consult a divorce attorney. There are others on this site in similar situations in this ultimate form of marital abuse so please know that you're not alone. I have prayed for God to give you clarity of thought on how to proceed and the means to do it. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
Lynn already covered this, but I will say it again. But f you want to know God's will in this matter, pick up the Bible and read it every day. Underline the parts that apply this time and/or write the verses in a book, or the back of your Bible if you have a place. Then you will know the answer from God's Word, instead of asking people who may give you contradictory advice.
If you read 3 chapters of the OT and 1 of the NT every day, you will have read through the Bible in a year. You could be on your second time through. But that is ok, now is the time to start!
Regardless of what happens in your marriage, your relationship with God has to be #1. Keep reading the Bible daily for the rest of your life, and God will bless you richly.
PS If this happened to me, I would be gone. Of course, it has not, but the whole idea of taking back an adulterer, maybe a serial adulterer just disgusts me, But that is just me!
If you read 3 chapters of the OT and 1 of the NT every day, you will have read through the Bible in a year. You could be on your second time through. But that is ok, now is the time to start!
Regardless of what happens in your marriage, your relationship with God has to be #1. Keep reading the Bible daily for the rest of your life, and God will bless you richly.
PS If this happened to me, I would be gone. Of course, it has not, but the whole idea of taking back an adulterer, maybe a serial adulterer just disgusts me, But that is just me!
Your husband defiled your marriage when he cheated, so your not walking away from it, he did.. God does not forgive the unrepentant, and I don't think your obligated to do so either... There's a limit to God's patience, and after a year of enduring infidelity and lies, I think its time to put patience on a shelf and leave that uncommitted cheater.. Its enough already.. jmo
When I found out my ex-husband was having an affair I prayed diligently and literally never quit reading Scripture. I loved my husband, I hurt, and just wanted him to stop. I did not want a divorce. Then one-day G-d gave me a Scripture 1 Corin. 5:5 hand this man over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, so that his spirit may be saved on the day of the Lord. I called the person who’s the best Christian I know, if anyone has a walk with Messiah that is close to perfect it would be her, and advised her of what I believed the Lord gave me and she confirmed she believed it was Him and not just me.
It took me about a month or so after that because I have never threatened divorce before, I do not believe people should because once you go there where else do you have to go; so if you make the threat you better be able to back it up. I went to him and told him to stop having an affair, get Christian marriage counseling with me or I am getting a divorce. He told me get a divorce. The next day I went down and filed for and 1 mo. Latter we were divorced.
I say all of that to say this. Yes, even Y-shua said we can divorce for adultery. But it does not make the pain go away. Only G-d will heal that pain and the pain of divorce on top of it. You will always feel like you must justify why you are divorced in the Christian community. It has always made me wonder, does the adulterer tell the truth and say they are divorced because they committed the adultery or what they say. I kind of feel sorry for them because of their shame… but this is a rabbit trail…lol… this I can promise you, G-d does heal the pain and makes us whole again. I wish G-d would have chosen to heal my marriage and change my ex-husband. He did not. Today I am very, very grateful I am a free woman and healed.
I promise you G-d will direct you, run to Him. Who knows maybe G-d wants to heal your marriage
It took me about a month or so after that because I have never threatened divorce before, I do not believe people should because once you go there where else do you have to go; so if you make the threat you better be able to back it up. I went to him and told him to stop having an affair, get Christian marriage counseling with me or I am getting a divorce. He told me get a divorce. The next day I went down and filed for and 1 mo. Latter we were divorced.
I say all of that to say this. Yes, even Y-shua said we can divorce for adultery. But it does not make the pain go away. Only G-d will heal that pain and the pain of divorce on top of it. You will always feel like you must justify why you are divorced in the Christian community. It has always made me wonder, does the adulterer tell the truth and say they are divorced because they committed the adultery or what they say. I kind of feel sorry for them because of their shame… but this is a rabbit trail…lol… this I can promise you, G-d does heal the pain and makes us whole again. I wish G-d would have chosen to heal my marriage and change my ex-husband. He did not. Today I am very, very grateful I am a free woman and healed.
I promise you G-d will direct you, run to Him. Who knows maybe G-d wants to heal your marriage