Born into the wrong family?

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Lanolin

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Does anybody feel they were born into the wrong family before they got adopted into Gods one?
Or are most christians already born into the 'right' family. And what even makes it right or legit?

Just wondering...if there are actually any perfect families out there.
 

Dino246

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Does anybody feel they were born into the wrong family before they got adopted into Gods one?
Or are most christians already born into the 'right' family. And what even makes it right or legit?

Just wondering...if there are actually any perfect families out there.
Romans 8:28.

God's will isn't found in the circumstances of our unsaved past, but in His use of our past for His purpose and glory. It shapes who we are. God uses who we are.
 

Lanolin

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food for thought.
some people seem to think they are saved by virtue of being middle-class, or being 'normal' or being married, or hard work.

It is only by the grace of God we are here.
I have often wondered about people who pronounce judgements on children saying 'he/she will never amount to anything'. what does that even mean.
 
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Does anybody feel they were born into the wrong family before they got adopted into Gods one?
Or are most christians already born into the 'right' family. And what even makes it right or legit?

Just wondering...if there are actually any perfect families out there.
There are no perfect families.

Since I was extremely unplanned there were a lot of skeletons so to speak in the closet when I grew up. Mostly I didn't know about it as a child, but figured it out as an adult. It was very painful when I found out. Also relief bc I always knew there were issues as a kid. I could feel the pain of others a lot and it gave me a lot of anxiety as a child. I use to get stress hives when the tension was too high as well. I looked for love in the wrong places, for many years.

I was very lonely as a child as well bc I didn't have any siblings growing up with me. I learned to be very independent from a very early age. I was always around adults.

I use to be angry about it and the unfairness in it. However I still have loving parents, they were just flawed like every person. I don't live the same way within my own family. I respect my husband and he respects me. We have the typical bickering, but nothing like I witnessed growing up. I didn't realize how unnatural it was until I was married.
 

Lanolin

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I think of Jesus and how he was kinda unplanned (to Mary, and to Joseph especially he was a complete surprise) but actually planned by God. The Messiah wasnt born into a wealthy or noble family at all as you might expect. And he grew up in Nazareth and Galilee, not in Judea where he was born at the time of the census.
So people doubted his claim to the throne.

People said 'what good can come out of Nazareth?' as if they werent expecting anyone of note to come from there, like it was a hick-town or something.

I also wonder a little about Jesus siblings, whether he was seen as especially different or set apart. He did hang out with adults more and was quite independent if the incident when he was 12 in Jerusalem was anything to go by.

often this may affects the firstborns more than the secondborns but then the second borns have a different set of circumstances to contend with and feel like they are 'extra' or unwanted if they are not the right gender. I mean how many sons and daughters are you meant to have to be the 'perfect family' anyway?