Do any of you so called Christians met this level ??

[seekingg]

This is what i got from Divorce care today.... Realy are there any women out there that could meet this standard??? Or do you know any? She would be a miracle . May God bless her whoever she is? I have been worried about the day i tell a woman No sex before marriage at the risk of her calling me a fag.... This already happens a little bit because My wife left 4 years ago but i am still married. My friends say go here and go there to this and do that(sex).
I guess It is part of not denying Christ. Some facts ---Yes, i tried every thing to save the marriage. Yes, if God wants me to take her back i would. Yes,- we have kids. The divorce will be final next month.
Thanks for listening.

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Establish Boundaries
Day 284

“It is important that you establish guidelines right up front,” says Sabrina Black. “You do not want to compromise your beliefs. You need to let the person you are dating know that sex is not an option for you. Sex is reserved for marriage, and until you are married, there will be no sex, and there will be no foreplay that leads to sex. There will be no fondling; there will be no touching. You can’t afford to allow yourself to go too far.”
Bonnie Keen says, “When I went out with my (now) husband on our first date, he was a gentleman. I said to him, ‘I want you to know that I’m not going to sleep with you—I don’t know what you’re thinking, but I’m not sleeping with anyone until I’m married again.’ He honored every physical boundary every step of the way because he wanted to honor God, and I am so grateful. It made me love him even more. You have to set your own boundaries, and you have to be with somebody who will help you keep them.”
You may think that it would be impossible to find a person who is this honorable. Perhaps past experiences have caused you to become somewhat biased about the opposite sex. Godly, upright people do exist, and you can be one of them!
“Just because something is technically legal doesn’t mean that it’s spiritually appropriate. If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with, I’d be a slave to my whims” (1 Corinthians 6:12 Msg).
Holy Savior, I want to honor You with my thoughts, actions, and decisions. I, too, want to be honored by the other person in any new relationships. Amen.

 

[ChristIsGod]

Sorry to hear about your wife wanting a divorce and for the children's sake as well. Will be praying for you all.

Jesus was human, Paul was human and I've read of and know of others that remained wife-or-husband-free and didn't die from a lack of sex. The way some people talk, you'd think that they think that they will.

I know far too many Christians that are doing just fine, without any problems, since they've given the whole of themselves & their lives to Him. There will always be mockers until He returns. Eternity will be more than worth putting up with the mockers a little while longer. I think we need to weigh everything against eternity. This life will seem like it was just a blink of an eye - time wise - once we step foot into our Forever.

 

[NewWine]

I sincerely wish parents still taught children the value of virginity.
Our bodies are the only thing that we can give our spouses that no one else can give, or has been given. It's the only true "gift" of marriage. Other people can care for my husband, but no one else can give him me. Other men could care for me, but no one else can give me him. That is our choice, and it should be our desire. Unfortunately it's a sign of the times that this kind of thinking is considered "old fashioned" or something odd. The world teaches that young men should gain experience to please a woman, and young women see that a woman's worth is found in her sexuality.....how sad is this? The fact is, true sexual pleasure comes from intimacy, and intimacy is gained through commitment and trust (at least from a woman's point of view).
I taught/teach my children the value of virginity, and I pray they hear, but the pressure is high......

 

[kaylagrl]

This is a difficult topic.It use to be that Christians believed in saving sex till marriage but thats not necessarily true anymore.So it makes it harder to abstain if you want to be in a relationship.But if this is what you feel is right to do then you let the other person know up front what your expectations are. Anyone who would say you are gay because of that is pretty immature.
As far as the article you posted I think it's up to the individual how they deal with boundaries.For teens there has to be boundaries but for adults that is up to each couple to decide whether they want to kiss or touch.That is no one elses business.If a kiss would make you go too far then be all means dont do it.But as an adult that is a private decision IMO

 

[jogoldie]

There is a reason God wants us to wait for marriage.........because if you do...when you are joined in marriage.....the love you make is spiritual......meant to be better than any sex you can have.......
Then its not an act......or activity......its a true union.........jmo
From what I've been told.......best ever......I've been waiting 15 years.......and I will continue to
wait in case Gods plan is for me to remarry......no....I don't suffer.....and no....it is worth the wait.....