Does familiarity breed contempt

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Lanolin

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Is this true, even for Christians? Just wondering..whether you start hating your family cos its your family. After all you know what they are like, whereas with friends you dont see them everyday or are obligated in the same way family is.

Of course all domestic violence happens in families. Probably you are more likely to be hurt by a family member than a random stanger who doesnt know you.
 
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“Familiarity breeds contempt”. I have always thought that this is a harsh saying. Contempt is a strong word. However, I have also found that there is a lot of truth in this. At the very least, familiarity often leads us to take things for granted. At the very worst, we can ignore or become blind to the things that are right in front of us. It seems like the more we know something, the more we find faults and dislike things about it. Familiarity can stop us from respecting people, and simply dismiss them or their opinions. The Bible has an amazing story to tell on this topic.

Mark 6:1-6 says:

Jesus left there and went to his hometown, accompanied by his disciples. When the Sabbath came, he began to teach in the synagogue, and many who heard him were amazed. “Where did this man get these things?” they asked. “What’s this wisdom that has been given him? What are these remarkable miracles he is performing? Isn’t this the carpenter? Isn’t this Mary’s son and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas and Simon? Aren’t his sisters here with us?” And they took offense at him. Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honour except in his own town, among his relatives and in his own home.” He could not do any miracles there, except lay his hands on a few sick people and heal them. He was amazed at their lack of faith.​
 

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This varies from people to people.
Personally I have never felt this and I am blessed to be surrounded by wonderful extended and close family.
‘So, I am grateful.
 

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I think familiarity may breed "contempt" if one feels shackled in some way to an unhealthy relationship, and the individual feels doing something different is beyond his/her control. the more accurate word may be resentment. Like say, if someone is lazy and the rest of the family feels burdened to make up for the laziness. Or if one person loves to be outdoors but the other person is chill and netflix type, etc., and there is no compromise. Or, if someone has a bad trait (temper, etc.) and the rest of the family has to put up with it.
 

MsMediator

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I think even minor issues can cause "contempt", like burping or farting loudly all the time, things which can usually be controlled.
 
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Mark 6:1-6 ................ I. We have here unbelief born of familiarity, and its effects on Christ {Mark 6:1 - Mark 6:6}.
 

Lanolin

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Jesus was closer to his cousin (John the baptist, Aunt Elizabeth and Uncle Zechariah) than his brothers and sisters. Also not much is said about Jesus grandparents. Maybe they died when he was little?
 
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Jesus was closer to his cousin (John the baptist, Aunt Elizabeth and Uncle Zechariah) than his brothers and sisters. Also not much is said about Jesus grandparents. Maybe they died when he was little?
MacLarens' Commentary
THE MASTER REJECTED: THE SERVANTS SENT FORTH

Mark 6:1 - Mark 6:13.

An easy day’s journey would carry Jesus and His followers from Capernaum, on the lake-side, to Nazareth, among the hills. What took our Lord back there? When last He taught in the synagogue of Nazareth, His life had been in danger; and now He thrusts Himself into the wolf’s den. Why? Mark seems to wish us to observe the connection between this visit and the great group of miracles which he has just recorded; and possibly the link may be our Lord’s hope that the report of these might have preceded Him and prepared His way. In His patient long-suffering He will give His fellow-villagers another chance; and His heart yearns for ‘His own country,’ and ‘His own kin,’ and ‘His own house,’ of which He speaks so pathetically in the context.

I. We have here unbelief born of familiarity, and its effects on Christ {Mark 6:1 - Mark 6:6}.

Observe the characteristic avoidance of display, and the regard for existing means of worship, shown in His waiting till the Sabbath, and then resorting to the synagogue. He and His hearers would both remember His last appearance in it; and He and they would both remember many a time before that, when, as a youth, He had sat there. The rage which had exploded on His first sermon has given place to calmer, but not less bitter, opposition. Mark paints the scene, and represents the hearers as discussing Jesus while He spoke. The decorous silence of the synagogue was broken by a hubbub of mutual questions. ‘Many’ spoke at once, and all had the same thing to say. The state of mind revealed is curious. They own Christ’s wisdom in His teaching, and the reality of His miracles, of which they had evidently heard; but the fact that He was one of themselves made them angry that He should have such gifts, and suspicious of where He had got them. They seem to have had the same opinion as Nathanael-that no ‘good thing’ could ‘come out of Nazareth.’ Their old companion could not be a prophet; that was certain. But He had wisdom and miraculous power; that was as certain. Where had they come from? There was only one other source; and so, with many headshakings, they were preparing to believe that the Jesus whom they had all known, living His quiet life of labour among them, was in league with the devil, rather than believe that He was a messenger from God.
 

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Yes
 
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Is this true, even for Christians? Just wondering..whether you start hating your family cos its your family. After all you know what they are like, whereas with friends you dont see them everyday or are obligated in the same way family is.

Of course all domestic violence happens in families. Probably you are more likely to be hurt by a family member than a random stanger who doesnt know you.
Jesus was, it seems, was particularly looked upon with contempt in his hometown.
 

Lanolin

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well the Jewish families were always squabbling, even going back to the 12 patriarchs -the sons of Jacob.
 

Lanolin

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Theres also the story of the Prodigal son, his brother didnt like him lol
 
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Is this true, even for Christians? Just wondering..whether you start hating your family cos its your family. After all you know what they are like, whereas with friends you dont see them everyday or are obligated in the same way family is.

Of course all domestic violence happens in families. Probably you are more likely to be hurt by a family member than a random stanger who doesnt know you.
I grew up in the RCC so my answer may not qualify as 'Christian' is specified in your question.
 

Dino246

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Of course all domestic violence happens in families. Probably you are more likely to be hurt by a family member than a random stanger who doesnt know you.
It happens in relationships, not necessarily in families.
 

Lanolin

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I grew up in the RCC so my answer may not qualify as 'Christian' is specified in your question.
Im interested in all perspectives.
I think if you are unequally yoked though, its gonna be tougher.
 

Lanolin

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Mary vs Martha lol

Im sure they got on after they got past their differences....
 

Cameron143

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Mary vs Martha lol

Im sure they got on after they got past their differences....
I'm not so sure they did. My research shows Martha was so embittered against Mary at Jesus' rebuke she turned to a life of crime, was in and out of prison...oh, wait...that was the Gospel according to the Onion. I'm gonna keep digging. I'll get back to you.
 

Lanolin

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Ok how bout Jacob and Esau...they didnt have Jesus back then...mum was no help...
 

Cameron143

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Ok how bout Jacob and Esau...they didnt have Jesus back then...mum was no help...
Well it could be argued that Jesus was the one who was wrestling Jacob. Some say the issue was to get a blessing. Others say he was wrestling to see who had to go meet Esau.
You already know some of my sources are questionable so use some discernment.
 

Lanolin

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I wonder why Isaac just didnt bless Esau and Rebecca could have blessed Jacob why did it have to be only one son could be blessed by the dad?

Why didnt Rebecca do a blessing? Or are mothers not allowed to bless their sons?