Feeling Depressed

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mangreyeagle

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I've been feeling really depressed here lately because there are times that it really feels to me like my wife doesn't really love me anymore. We haven't been married quite a year yet and it seems like she takes every opportunity available to get away from me. When she's around me she seems really unhappy and when I try to get her to talk to me about what is wrong she says she's "just tired" and won't continue on beyond that. There's also the problem with intimacy (not just sex). It's always a fight to get her to hug me or kiss me unless she's leaving for work. It was never like this before we got married, and she actually goes as far to blame it changing on being married. Not long after we got married I did find out that she kept talking to guys on myspace and telling them that "she wants to get to know them better" and she was logging on to dating websites behind my back. Of course she denied everything. I just feel like I'm doing something wrong and I just can't figure out what. I try to be the best Husband I can, but it feels like nothing is workiing. Please Help!
 
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Graybeard

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mangreyeagle I would not like to attempt to try and answer you without really knowing all the facts from both sides, the only real advice I have to offer you is for you to approach your paster(that is if you are fellowshipping at a church, if not then find a local minister) to talk to and if possible to include your wife.
 
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Kite

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Ehehehe...my parents are like that. Pray, pray, pray, ask God about it, ask your wife about as well; maybe it's just hard for the first few years? Don't know...but I'll be praying for you.
 
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Musicfan4ever

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I have to agree with GrayBeard on seeing a pastor about this & if your wife will go have her go also. I'll be praying for both of you.
 
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BLU

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mangreyeagle said:
I've been feeling really depressed here lately because there are times that it really feels to me like my wife doesn't really love me anymore. We haven't been married quite a year yet and it seems like she takes every opportunity available to get away from me. When she's around me she seems really unhappy and when I try to get her to talk to me about what is wrong she says she's "just tired" and won't continue on beyond that. There's also the problem with intimacy (not just sex). It's always a fight to get her to hug me or kiss me unless she's leaving for work. It was never like this before we got married, and she actually goes as far to blame it changing on being married. Not long after we got married I did find out that she kept talking to guys on myspace and telling them that "she wants to get to know them better" and she was logging on to dating websites behind my back. Of course she denied everything. I just feel like I'm doing something wrong and I just can't figure out what. I try to be the best Husband I can, but it feels like nothing is workiing. Please Help!
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Sounds as if she has gone astray, give her the boot and wait on the Lord, he will be back soon. Or if you can afford it hire a P I to get positive proof and make her ashamed of her actions. I know it is difficult to grasp what you cannot believe what is happing to you, but the husband is always the last one to know.
 
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sweet_eyes

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Sounds as if she has gone astray, give her the boot and wait on the Lord, he will be back soon. Or if you can afford it hire a P I to get positive proof and make her ashamed of her actions. I know it is difficult to grasp what you cannot believe what is happing to you, but the husband is always the last one to know.
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really?? I wouldn't give him that advice, you don't really know fully what is going on....eagle I agree with greybeard....trust in God as well!
 
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BLU

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really?? I wouldn't give him that advice, you don't really know fully what is going on....eagle I agree with greybeard....trust in God as well!
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You are right! I shouldn't of said that , He should just sit her down and have her open up to him. Like why did we get married if it is ignoring each other. Then there is the scripture that says treat your wife and your things as if you did not posses them.
 
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1jn32

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Can you imagine how Jesus feels about most of the church who is not faithful to Him, a harlot instead of a bride? You are to love your wife as Christ loved the church in spite of how she acts. Your love and gentleness and prayers could win her to you. Seek God. I have found great fellowship at an online group at www.unleavenedbreadministries.org. Get their free Sovereign God book by downloading the book or audio book or call them and they will send you a free book. Also seek the baptism of the Holy Spirit as that will give you the power to manifest Christ in you.
 
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allforchrist10

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i agree with the people on here go to God or a pastor, cus you cant let the devil see that you are worried about this or he will make it worse for you and make your wife get farther from you but you cant let him get that much power over you!! You have to go to God and jus be in massive prayer and ill be praying for you and your wife also
 
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