Hello all my husband almost died !!

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jenniferand2

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I have spent the last week in and out of hospitals my husband had three or not heart attacks. Finally after checking out of the hospital two times against medical advice. He stayed the last time and had a angiogram they placed a stent in his right main artery. The surgeon said his next heart attack would of killed him. I am kind of in a state of shock. I don't honestly know what to feel. I have had my feelings shut off for a long time for him then this happens. I was in despair I was scared he might actually die. I guess for now I am going to obviously take care of him. Maybe this event will change how he treats me. Only time will tell. I do still love him I just don't love anything about his attitude. For now I am just going to take it one day at a time.
 
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He checked out of the hospital two times against medical advice. Doesn't that strongly suggest he is the same guy, even after these scares?

And, whoa! You love him? I don't think I've ever seen you say that before. His attitudes are part of who he is, so what do you love about him? (Real question, because I didn't think you loved him before.)
 

jenniferand2

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I love parts of him we do have some good times. Maybe it is the old him that I love am unsure. I say I love him maybe it is just care what happens and I am confusing it..
Yes he left the hospital two times he got real aggervated I also think he was scared and also maybe thought it was not as big of a deal I don't know his mind set. But like I said I will take care of him for a while here and take it one day at a time. If he goes back to the mean obnoxious crap he was I will still work on separation. I also could be just still be having a sworn of emotions that are not exactly straight right now too.this was very much a toll on me I had 3 hours of sleep in 4 days i was exhausted and a wreck so that very well could have played a part in it all. I have been with him my entire adult life. I can't help but have a little love there but not the love like it should be if that makes sense.
 

Joidevivre

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Jennifer, I will pray that God will use this situation to bring about a new love for each other. I've learned that the more we give thanks for a person, something changes in our hearts, and the other person feels it too. God is in the "heart turning" business.

I pray for comfort and peace to your husband. It sounds like he often comes from a place of fear and anger. I will also pray for a special measure of grace be given you to endure and deal with the care of your husband. I know it is not easy.

God bless.
 

notuptome

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God is above all merciful. There is yet time for him to come to Christ

For the cause of Christ
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I love parts of him we do have some good times. Maybe it is the old him that I love am unsure. I say I love him maybe it is just care what happens and I am confusing it..
Yes he left the hospital two times he got real aggervated I also think he was scared and also maybe thought it was not as big of a deal I don't know his mind set. But like I said I will take care of him for a while here and take it one day at a time. If he goes back to the mean obnoxious crap he was I will still work on separation. I also could be just still be having a sworn of emotions that are not exactly straight right now too.this was very much a toll on me I had 3 hours of sleep in 4 days i was exhausted and a wreck so that very well could have played a part in it all. I have been with him my entire adult life. I can't help but have a little love there but not the love like it should be if that makes sense.
How did you pull that off? The first day with John's heart attack, I stayed way pass when I should have gone home, but I had to do something I felt guilty over. After his stents, they came to tell me he lived, and they were taking him up to ICU, and would come and get me when he was settled in. I couldn't. I had to go home, and I did. I didn't even take my phone to the bedroom for fear I'd get The Call in the middle of the night. (I didn't want to be woken with that, and there was nothing I could do anyway, so just didn't.)

On the really serious days, when I needed to sign papers, (or get a damn doctor to answer my questions), I could make it for three hours, but usually I can't do more than an hour and a half. My pain kicks in. Sounds like you were with him most of the time. How did you do that with your spine?
 

Desertsrose

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I have spent the last week in and out of hospitals my husband had three or not heart attacks. Finally after checking out of the hospital two times against medical advice. He stayed the last time and had a angiogram they placed a stent in his right main artery. The surgeon said his next heart attack would of killed him. I am kind of in a state of shock. I don't honestly know what to feel. I have had my feelings shut off for a long time for him then this happens. I was in despair I was scared he might actually die. I guess for now I am going to obviously take care of him. Maybe this event will change how he treats me. Only time will tell. I do still love him I just don't love anything about his attitude. For now I am just going to take it one day at a time.

Hi Jennifer,

Wow, so sorry to hear about your husband.

I'll be praying for you both and I so hope that God uses this in his life to draw him to God and to you and that you both can be reunited to one another in love.

All things are possible with God. I'll be praying for your husband's salvation. :)
 

Chidiano

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Thank you for your love for him even at the point of death, because of your kind words, I pray that God forgive him and heal him for your sake.
 

jenniferand2

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How did you pull that off? The first day with John's heart attack, I stayed way pass when I should have gone home, but I had to do something I felt guilty over. After his stents, they came to tell me he lived, and they were taking him up to ICU, and would come and get me when he was settled in. I couldn't. I had to go home, and I did. I didn't even take my phone to the bedroom for fear I'd get The Call in the middle of the night. (I didn't want to be woken with that, and there was nothing I could do anyway, so just didn't.)

On the really serious days, when I needed to sign papers, (or get a damn doctor to answer my questions), I could make it for three hours, but usually I can't do more than an hour and a half. My pain kicks in. Sounds like you were with him most of the time. How did you do that with your spine?
Hey depleted sorry just saw this. My spine was a massive wreck I ate pills like tic tacs I stayed with him 90 percent of the time yes. After his stent was put in I left actually about 3 hours after. I had to get home and get out dogs fed and out. I think my pain as horrible as it was was the least of my worries I think auto pilot kicked in and with such little sleep I just did what I had to do. I am still in massive back trauma from all the hosptial walking sitting etc... lol. I basically was a zombie the day he got his stent.
 

servingHimmb44

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Sounds as ifyou’re doing the right thing. He has away of getting us through the tuff times too. May God bless you and your family.
 
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Pray for your husband.God please heal Jennifer's husband.
 

Desertsrose

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Hi Jennifer,

How is your husband doing? And how are you? Will he be going to therapy or will he go straight home from the hospital.

~Praying for you both~



 
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If you have a prayer request you should make a thread of your own, not encroach on another's thread.
Maybe she's shy about starting threads. She only has 8 posts, after all. Sheesh lapeesh.
 

Godistheone26

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Idk why that person is always commenting onmy stuff o_O
 

SuZQ154

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Dear Jennifer, you have hope for your marriage and it sounds like you are willing to forgive your husband. Have you been able to talk to your husband since he has been home?

When people go through traumatic situations, they are more likely to be open to changing. Praying for you to have the opportunity to talk "deeply" with him and be able to encourage each other, look back on your past with fondness and admiration, and continue to plan a "new life" that looks much different than the one you have been experiencing for some time. The book Love Dare has some good advice for how to try in a Godly way to make a marriage work after many hurts and poor behaviors. You might want to check it out. You sound like you have been trying to hang in there for some time. I believe marriages are worth fighting for. Praying for you marriage today and for you to have direction on how to help your marriage, your husband and you.
 

jenniferand2

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Hi Jennifer,

How is your husband doing? And how are you? Will he be going to therapy or will he go straight home from the hospital.

~Praying for you both~




My husband is doing pretty well he is on a strict diet of course and he tries to walk around about ten minutes at a time several times a day. He does still get really out of breathe when he walks they actually sent him home the day after they put his stent in. Thank you all for prayers and concern. I am hanging in there as well. The first week he was home which ended yesterday today has now been a week and a day. It was very tough as I am used to him helping me with the dogs and stuff it was pretty hard on me to have to do everything but I managed. He also has been pretty good with his behaviors and attitude but he has been good for several weeks before and then went back to being a miserable crank. I just continue to pray that he leaves that old obnoxious person behind. But I am also pretty sure the old him will come back so I am on guard. I am trying very hard to not let my mind get wrapped up in him acting all nice right now seeing how all past attempts at changing his behaviors have failed. I can only pray that he sees the errors of his past and corrects them with this life changing event he had but like i said I am very weary. Thank you for all the support and prayers.