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soco

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This is my first time on any kind of chat so please bare with me. I have a 16 year old daughter and I am heartbroken. I just found out she is going with her dad and that she is not longer pure. Every time I ask her to do something she does the opposite. She wants to be with her dad because she thinks she will be able to do what she wants. He has never had a relationship with her. I asked her why she hated me so much and she could not answer but she did not say that she did not hate me. Her grades are terrible and she shows up when she wants and has run away once already. She will be here for a month and I am having a hard time dealing with her. I need some advice or encouragement. Thank you.
 
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italiansunset

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WOW.... JUST A MONTH AGO I POSTED A SIMILIAR STORY... I PUT MY GIRLS THROUGH CHRISTIAN SCHOOLS, SENT THEM ON MISSIONARY TRIPS, SENT MY ELDEST (17) GRADUATING OFF ON AN ALASKAN CRUISE JUST THIS MORNING, I LOVE MY COMPUTER AND MY 14 YEAR OLD TELLS ME I LOVE IT MORE THAN HER, THEY ARE SO MANIPULATIVE, CAN BE SO DISRESPECTFUL...THEY ARE HORMONALLY CHALLENGED AND SPOILED COMPARED TO HOW WE GREW UP.mY FATHER WOULD HAVE KNOCKED ME INTO NEXT WEEK FOR TALKING BACK, BUT NOT TODAY YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING BARELY WITHOUT THE MINISTRY GETTING INVOLVED...YES, TIMES HAVE CHANGED! MY ELDEST RAN AWAY TWICE CAUSE SHE NEVER GOT HER WAY... TEENS ARE CONFUSING AND THEY LIVE IN A CONFUSING WORLD WITH US PARENTS THAT ARE MORE CONFUSED THAN EVER. I HAD THE POLICE AT MY HOUSE CAUSE I HIT MY DAUGHTER AFTER SHE PULLED MY HAIR??? AFTER WE GOT BACK FROM A FAMILY HOLIDAY WHERE I DID EVERYTHING FOR THEM IN THE CARIBBEAN, THEN IT HAPPENED..."TURBULANCE", BY HEARTLIGHT MINISTRIES....MARK GREGSTON(hE'S ON fACEBOOK IF YOU HAVE IT)... YOU NEED TO CHECK HIM OUT AND THEIR MINISTRY. THEY KNOW IT ALL, HAVE SEEN IT ALL AND DEALT WITH TEENS FOR THE LAST 35 YEARS OR MORE. IT'S CHANGED SO MUCH FOR ME. YOUR CHURCH CAN BRING HIM IN THROUGH FOCUS ON THE FAMILY. HE IS VERY GOOD! FOR THE FIRST TIME I THINK I GET IT AND I CAN TELL YOU, UNTIL NOW I WAS SO DISILLUSIONED WITH EVERYTHING THAT WAS CONNECTED TO THE WORD 'TEEN' YOU WOULD HAVE LOOKED AT ME AND CRIED!... LOOK HIM UP! PLEASE HE IS GREAT. I KOW YOUR FEAR, YOUR PAIN, YOUR HURT, YOUR DESPAIR, YOUR DISILLUSIONMENT CAUSE I AM GOING THROUGH IT TO, BUT HEARTLIGHT MINISTRIES OUT OF TEXAS IS THERE TO ANSWER ANY QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE AND THEY HAVE A WEBSITE AND PHONE NUMBER TO CONTACT THEM AND THEY WILL ANSWER ANY QUESTIONS YOU HAVE THAT OTHERS CAN'T GET RIGHT... BELIEVE ME HE IS A GREAT CHRISTIAN MAN WHO UNDERSTANDS TEENS! YOUR SO NOT ALONE, THERE MUST HAVE BEEN 1000+ PEOPLE IN OUR CHURCH JUST THERE TO HEAR HIM, ALL HURTING AND AT DIFFERENT PLACES IN THERE RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEIR TEENS.ADD ME AS A FRIEND IF YOU LIKE AND MESSAGE ME ANYTIME... I THINK WE AS PARENTS OF TEENS NEED TO SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER!
 
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italiansunset

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GOOD FOR YOU, FOR TAKING THE FIRST STEP! GOD BLESS YOU!
 
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soco

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Thank you so much for the information. I know now that there are people who understand (I am in tears) what I am feeling. My parents would have done the same thing if we were ever disrespectful. I am 39 years old and I still have that respect for my parents, I would have never thought that my kids would talk back to me the way they have and it is hurtful. Your right we need all the support we can get. Again thanks so much!!!
 

iwant2serve

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I hate to answer some things because I am old school. When my son was 14 he would go where he wanted no matter what I told him. My wife and I had been to the Police station a couple of times because he didn't come home at night. Well I told him one day that he could not go over his friend's house and he went anyway. I went and got him, got him home, layed him across the bed and whipped his you know what. He jumped at me and I smacked him across his head, knocked him back on the bed. He threatended to call the cops. Well I dailed the number for him. When the cops came I told them "he is in my house, I feed him, clothe him, and take care of him. If he can raise up to me after I tell him not to do something, I will knock him out every time". The cops told him he was in my house and should do what I told him, and told me I can't hit him upside his head. I told them He can't raise up to me then. I never had to worry about that again till he was 18. The he would try to stay out till 3 and 4 in the morning and sleep all day. After I warned him a few times he kept on doing it, One day he came home and his clothes were sitting on the porch.
 
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seekingtruth

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I will pray that God will help you in your situatition with faith and beliving he will come to you and your loved ones aid, Jesus said; where two agree upon earth touching a thing it will be done by my father in heaven. lets you and I agree right now that God will help you gain again your child unto you, but you must have faith and trust the Lord to intervene. He has for me when many, many times God Bless
 
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soco

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My parents were stricked with us. If she said no she meant no and we did not dare ask again much less do it anyway. Alot of the kids today have no respect for their parents they get away with alot. I appreciate all the support and I know that I need to have faith. I know that I have not allowed the Lord to intervene and I know that I need to step back and let him work his will in her life. Thank you for standing in agreement with me and yes God will work his will.