not yet. I’m seeking wisdom before I do so I can address it logically with biblical reasoning and to be firm yet understanding. Honestly She gets a might bit defensive when conversations get serious and tends to over react emotionally at even the slightest bit of confrontation and I want to approach this at an angle to minimize all that. Hate walking on eggshells but Been down the direct approach road before on other issues and those conversations have quickly ruined weeks of peace for the entire family and we didn’t get anywhere. I’m evidently not very skilled at controlling my tone of voice which put her immediately on the defensive and she shuts down. Last time it was a simple question about her blood pressure medicine so I’m seeking to tread lightly into this as possible even though confrontation is inevitable with this. I still want her to listen. Cause when she gets that way you can’t logically have a serious conversation period and you have one shot to converse about it.
Scripture says for a woman to submit to her husband but that word submit means “to be gently persuaded.” Emphasis on persuaded. Make your case but keep in mind that your words should be filled with grace. How you say something is equally important as what you’re saying because it determines how it is received. Very much like correction, if said too harshly it can harden a person. Have you ever seen a street preacher insulting pedestrians? The Gospel is good, their delivery is not.
I think it will be important for you to express your understanding of the situation it puts her and you in. Together. You don’t want to negatively impact your relationship with her family. Relate to that concern, as it is very real. “I know this puts
us in a predicament…” Tell her why you feel that you guys cannot compromise on this issue. And I don’t mean to feign sympathy, but be genuine in what you’re saying and realistic in the consequences of you two, together, making this decision (of not attending).
Now, if you have compromised in other areas, be forewarned, this may be a hard sell. Lol “But husband, you go and get drunk with the guys at the pub!” You can’t be selective in your ideals and expect to have any weight in your opinion. This is why you need to be consistent in your walk.
Definitely aim for peace, and ask her to check her own heart if she truly believes it is right, in accordance with her beliefs. If need be, suggest that she ask her Bible study group for what to do in this situation so her sisters in Christ can encourage her in making a good decision. You don’t have to be the only voice of reason.