How do we withstand Loneliness?

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maxima

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Loneliness is a challenge someone of us face daily, especially single parents, single men and womeb. How can we overcome loneliness?
 

danja

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We have a best friend who is Jesus. We are never alone
 

Lafftur

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On purpose, be thankful. Set a timer for 3 minutes and do nothing else but think of ONLY things you are thankful for. Stay focused. Don't let your mind wander off.

Speak them out loud and give thanks to God. It's really quite fun, after a while! Enjoy! :D(y)
 

oldethennew

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often Christ asks us to separate ourselves in order to be ONE with Him, if you are mature enough
to do this, then you have definitely taken yet another 'step-up' His Heavenly Ladder...
 

TabinRivCA

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Loneliness is a challenge someone of us face daily, especially single parents, single men and womeb. How can we overcome loneliness?
For me I have a few favorite shows I watch and also some on TBN or other Christian TV stations. I have an on-line church, a black Pastor Bill Winston, who deals with many issues in his Chicago area and re everyday challenges they face. I go to a Bible study and volunteering stuff. And you have us here at CC, God bless!
 

TM19782017

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I think this challenge is the biggest almost anyone can face in life.......We have a desire to not be alone but have yet to see the promise........Out of all life's virtues, I believe patience is #1.......We live in such a fast paced world that waiting for anything seems to be too much effort.
I believe that there is someone who is right just for you....Constantly trying to control your feeling of loneliness on your own, can result in the lack of faith required to see who is just right for you.
 
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I've felt lonely alot in my life. Even at times now in a marriage. When you think about it every day is the same. It's a rut. Work eat sleep repeat every day. No friends. All you can do is know that Jesus is there with you so then you could think about your reward in heaven.
 

Locoponydirtman

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Get a hobby. People with solid hobbies make friends, people with friends aren't obsessed with their loneliness. Besides;
Unless you have interests out side of trying to get a woman there is no reason for a woman to be interested in you.
 

Jan7777777

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I find that keeping busy, gets rid of loneliness…...I put 'station's ' in different parts of the house.... one is for bible study.....I go there and do bible study or just read my bible,......later go to one that has crocheting I am doing at the moment for relaxing....another is for drawing, all drawing aids in one place makes it easier....writing and editing my novel is another station, and just writing for fun. …… reading is another station, I love a good book.
 

CharliRenee

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There are seasons of loneliness, single or not. I understand that. I think we all do. Sometimes we need connection with others. I think God has given us one another to help with that. I know that Im talking beyond just romantic connections because I think loneliness can speak loudest to me when I am not seeking His fellowship enough, not because of my relationship status.

I will say as a single mimi/mama, I understand having to face moments of ache due to periods of isolation or loneliness. Moments where I feel all alone. I believe, though, that the ache you feel in the corridors of your heart and mind, can ONLY truly be filled, comforted and soothed by Him. I say that, but sometimes I get away from where I need to be, at His feet. However, He, Praise His Holy Name, is so faithful to His people that He loves us enough to get us back in fellowship with Him, first and foremost. I know though that it isn't easy. I pray He fills your cup, because He is our portion.
 

oscar98

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On purpose, be thankful. Set a timer for 3 minutes and do nothing else but think of ONLY things you are thankful for. Stay focused. Don't let your mind wander off.

Speak them out loud and give thanks to God. It's really quite fun, after a while! Enjoy! :D(y)
Wow that's excellent! Another good suggestion is to set an alarm every 2 hours and fall on your knees in thankful worship.
 
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As a man who's recently separated, I'm extremely lonely. The pains of both feels crushing on my thoughts and soul. I know the Lord is with me and His Spirit comforts me. Still, the reality of my existence is unescapable and the enemy has a field day with me.
 

LuvforGod83

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Loneliness is a challenge someone of us face daily, especially single parents, single men and womeb. How can we overcome loneliness?
Even the married people. For I've never been so alone before. Trying to give it to Jesus. I know I am under attack and the enemy is using my husband.
 

PaulNew

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Stop dwelling on loneliness.
Do the work of belief in Jesus Christ
And get out whenever you can, bus-rides, stores, cafes, public places, this web-site, and whoever you meet, tell them about your King.
He's a really good King to choose for yourself!
He washes OUR feet. That's who He is. Man, I love Him!
 

PaulNew

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As a man who's recently separated, I'm extremely lonely. The pains of both feels crushing on my thoughts and soul. I know the Lord is with me and His Spirit comforts me. Still, the reality of my existence is unescapable and the enemy has a field day with me.
I really feel for you brother. I know what its like a bit.
Almost 5 years ago my wife decided she didn't want to be married to me anymore and so we separated and then divorced.
My children were still young, 6, 7 and 10.
Emotionally I wanted to run to mum to 'make it all better', to free me from the pain.
For the first 6 months I walked between 5 and 10 miles every single day, I think to try to keep my mind off it.
I felt so very, very frustrated that because my wife 'said so' I could no longer be a 'proper' dad to my children.
And time after time, until about 6 months ago maybe, I often felt utterly crushed by loneliness. I have no friends, I rarely see any family apart from my mum (although I can see my children whenever time and money allows), I have no car, I live in a little flat, I have no savings and live pay-check to pay-check. I have lost count of the number of times I have thought about ways to kill myself. Thankfully those thoughts seem to be gone altogether now.
And now I feel like I have peace with these things.
I am sure God Loves me and knows what He is doing, and must know that enduring great pain sometimes is important for our growth in Love.
I'm sure He Loves you too, and no-one falls off His radar.
Keeping as busy as I could was the biggest help. I would play Minecraft for 5 and 6 hours at a time. And I learned and played free poker on the internet for hours on end because it meant, although I was alone in my flat, I was virtually sat at a table with 8 or 9 other real people. I wish I'd discovered this web-site sooner too!
Do the best you can to look after yourself properly - diet, fresh-air, get out and about, etc.
And, of course, do what you can to keep your flame of faith burning bright.

One day at a time, brother.
 

blueluna5

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Loneliness is a challenge someone of us face daily, especially single parents, single men and womeb. How can we overcome loneliness?
People are not meant to be alone. It's perfectly normal to feel lonely. The best thing to do is distract yourself. Dive into God's word, hang out with family/friends, take up a hobby.

When you get really close to God it definitely helps a ton. Think about "heavenly things" especially before sleep. I started meditation and during the same time had lucid dreams... Another great distraction.

In the end love is the only thing that is real.
 

Didymous

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used to feel lonely when I was alone; now I enjoy the solitude of being alone. Also, when I'm alone, that's when I have my best conversations with God.
 
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I really feel for you brother. I know what its like a bit.
Almost 5 years ago my wife decided she didn't want to be married to me anymore and so we separated and then divorced.
My children were still young, 6, 7 and 10.
Emotionally I wanted to run to mum to 'make it all better', to free me from the pain.
For the first 6 months I walked between 5 and 10 miles every single day, I think to try to keep my mind off it.
I felt so very, very frustrated that because my wife 'said so' I could no longer be a 'proper' dad to my children.
And time after time, until about 6 months ago maybe, I often felt utterly crushed by loneliness. I have no friends, I rarely see any family apart from my mum (although I can see my children whenever time and money allows), I have no car, I live in a little flat, I have no savings and live pay-check to pay-check. I have lost count of the number of times I have thought about ways to kill myself. Thankfully those thoughts seem to be gone altogether now.
And now I feel like I have peace with these things.
I am sure God Loves me and knows what He is doing, and must know that enduring great pain sometimes is important for our growth in Love.
I'm sure He Loves you too, and no-one falls off His radar.
Keeping as busy as I could was the biggest help. I would play Minecraft for 5 and 6 hours at a time. And I learned and played free poker on the internet for hours on end because it meant, although I was alone in my flat, I was virtually sat at a table with 8 or 9 other real people. I wish I'd discovered this web-site sooner too!
Do the best you can to look after yourself properly - diet, fresh-air, get out and about, etc.
And, of course, do what you can to keep your flame of faith burning bright.

One day at a time, brother.
Paul, I apologize for not responding sooner. I'm taking a break from CC to press in on having an intimate relationship with my Spiritial Father, but the thought came to check here.

From the last time I posted my pain, now I don't recognize that person anymore. It's hard to believe only 3 weeks ago I felt that way.

Paul, you are a different person because of what He's done for you and my heart rejoices. You speak about His love and I KNOW His love truly conquers everything and anything we battle against. Every struggle, pain, fears, worry, offenses, oppressions, afflictions, anger, depression, etc. I don't deserve His love, but He freely gives it. Thank you for the encouraging hopeful words. It pulls on my heartstrings.

I try to get out learning who I am as a person in the outside world. It feels foreign to me. I rather be in my house worshipping and connecting with God.

The closeness I have with Him, the outpouring of His love, speaking Truth into my life, teaching me, molding me into the man, Servant, husband and father I'm meant to be. Has been such an experience no words can describe. I am in awe of who He is in my life!

God bless you brother! My prayers are with you, your wife and children! HEBREWS 10:35
 

PaulNew

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Paul, I apologize for not responding sooner. I'm taking a break from CC to press in on having an intimate relationship with my Spiritial Father, but the thought came to check here.

From the last time I posted my pain, now I don't recognize that person anymore. It's hard to believe only 3 weeks ago I felt that way.

Paul, you are a different person because of what He's done for you and my heart rejoices. You speak about His love and I KNOW His love truly conquers everything and anything we battle against. Every struggle, pain, fears, worry, offenses, oppressions, afflictions, anger, depression, etc. I don't deserve His love, but He freely gives it. Thank you for the encouraging hopeful words. It pulls on my heartstrings.

I try to get out learning who I am as a person in the outside world. It feels foreign to me. I rather be in my house worshipping and connecting with God.

The closeness I have with Him, the outpouring of His love, speaking Truth into my life, teaching me, molding me into the man, Servant, husband and father I'm meant to be. Has been such an experience no words can describe. I am in awe of who He is in my life!

God bless you brother! My prayers are with you, your wife and children! HEBREWS 10:35
Brother, thank you so much for the update. It is such an encouragement for me to hear of how things have changed.
Sometimes I forget the immense power of prayer, even though I know personally the difference it has so often made in my own life when others have prayed for me. I can tell when people are praying for me by a sudden, unwarranted boost in faith and closeness to God.

And thanks for the scripture, its very good advice (obviously, lol). ( I really need to read Hebrews again soon. Tonight maybe!)

I read a sermon this morning and so strongly felt the Lord wanted me to meditate today on the fact that I am OK with Him not because of my own efforts but because He Loves me (and each of us) and has already made payment for my sin through the sacrifice of Jesus. And this seems to fit nicely with the scripture you have given me this morning. We should have great confidence in this!

My prayers are with you and your family too, brother. :)
 

AuntieAnt

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Jesus was lonely and familiar with grief. Our precious Lord had no place to lay His head. He understands our situation and cares.

Since my husband passed away, I no longer have my earthly companion to go on all the adventures we once did. It can be heartbreaking if I allow myself to dwell on that. However, the Lord Jesus has become more than my Companion, He is LIFE to me: my joy, my peace, my fellowship, my rest. Christ Jesus is teaching me to reach out to others who may be lonely and I'm compelled to talk to people wherever I go. For me, walking closely with Jesus while focusing on others is freedom from loneliness. :giggle: