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LostLamb

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My wife of 6+ years and I have been arguing since June, and now have come to the end of our relationship.I found out that she has been having an affair since July and has just today admitted that she is also having a sexual relationship with him. I know that I definately took her for granted and freely admit it. But because of that she denies that she has done anything wrong, not to mention she has brought him around our kids who don't completely understand what is going on. I have known about this affair for somewhile now, and with each passing day my heart fills with more anger and hate
and I have no control over it. My mother told me that God has a plan, to which I told her that God has nothing to do with this. I can't get rid of the anger and hate inside of me, and often ask myself where is God. Thing that hurts the most is I still love my wife, yet she can so easily toss her husband, and family aside. I can't sleep at nights anymore because my mind races constantly over my dilema.I'm starting to lose everything including my faith. Any support, prayers, suggestions would be greatly appeciated.
 
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loveschild

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I'm sorry I will pray for you. Sometimes we don't know what goodness we had until we loose it. Don't blame God. You say you took your wife for granted. All you can do is ask her to forgive you. Can you forgive her? I know it's all hard. We are told to love. Maybe it will work out that you both try loving each other like you should have been doing all along. God bless you and your family,love
 
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ariannaaa

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wow lamb im so sorry for your situation. all i can say is try not to blame God for the mistakes of God's people.

but i understand that that is easier said than done. i will pray for you.
 
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Ronny

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Have you heard of the love dare? If the marriage isn't completely finished (maybe even if it is) give it a try. This book was taken from the movie "fireproof". It has brought me closer to God. It didn't help me with my relationship but it did help with other things. Never give up on God. He hasn't given up on you. When all else is said and done...look around...the only One that is there is God. He will never leave you. Fight the demons with everything you have. Rely on your pastors and friends from church to help you along with your troubles or go to a therapist, preferably a Christian one but not nessisarily. Keep reading your bible and doing your devotions. Show God you're not giving up on Him and He won't give up on you.

Bless you my brother

Ronny
 
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Sunnie82

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I know what you are going through. I have been there with all of the same emotions. It is okay to feel the way that you do. God knows your heart and your pain. I lashed out to God and I was so angry and betrayed. Everything that I had believed in was falling apart. My husband had lead me to the Lord, and now this! I felt that he had just fed me to the wolves. I cried until my eyes were so swollen that I couldn't see anymore. Every time I closed my eyes, I saw him in the act and it made me sick and angry. So I started singing my fav. hymn "great is thy faithfulness" I don't know why I did that, but I just needed something to get my mind off of it. And sure enough after the 50th time of singing it, I would fall asleep right away.

I remember asking God why? and I was trying to explain to Him my pain, but there were no words to explain that kind of pain and betrayal. You know what the Lord told me....... He said "there is no word for what you are going through, because affairs are not supposed to happen. I didn't create that, that's why you can't describe your pain!" I found a bit of comfort in that. But I am an extremely stubborn person and I was not going to lay down and die, and I was not going to let this this...animal (lack of a better word) come into my life, and steal my husband from and and my children!!! I fought hard, and I fought back. I remember finding her ipod in my house and taking a hammer to it and smashing it until it was all dust!

As much as pain we are in, it's not too late to save your marraige. If you still want to be with her, then don't sign that divorce paper, start couples counselling and make sure that she has no contact with that person.

we are all going through this together, your pain is my pain, and mine yours.
I am praying for you and your kids and your wife.

may you find comfort today,

Sohayla
aka Sunnie82
 
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