What happens when you finally accept the fact that your spouse is a narcissist? You have danced around it for years. You tried to believe it wasn't so. You endure emotional abuse, watched your home be destroyed right in front of you...for years...you covered it up...you helped him get elected...and you found yourself staring at the term "narcissist." What do you do? He has already ruined relationships with his kids. He has aleinated you to basically the point of no return. WHAT DO YOU DO? Leave? I wish. Tell me to. But I don't think it is that easy. Wishing I hadn't married him at all. Except for my son, who wouldn't be here,had I not. I just want to either be with someone who loves my father so much that he loves me like Christ loves the Church, or to be alone. But I am stuck with someone who literally has no emotions until I threaten to leave. I hate being needy like I am here, on this site. I have reached out to numerous local counselors, to no avail. I have started thinking I might be the crazy one. My oldest begged him for years to be her Daddy. He is her father! And all I can think about is how it felt driving away from my crying mother with a 3 day old. He and I weren't even together. But I wanted her to have a dad because I didn't. And I tried to teach him how to be one. But now that it's too late, she's 17.... and she refuses to have anything to with him, he says he "cant do anything about it" and I have to "forgive and let go of my resentment." And I can't. I feel trapped. I live in resentment.