God was putting us it their lives and them in our lives, Iron sharpenth iron situation, my girlfriend was a born- again christian who never new how to live for God, and she was an abused woman from her past, I knew what was right and wrong but still could relate to her by our life experiences, she was outgoing party girl and I was stornched and withdrawn, because i was marvelling at all this we both had boyfriends now husbands who had the same name, my husband, with my agreeing was kind in giving money help when they needed it, she was a compulsive spender, flirtatious, drank alot, controlled her household anxiously and failed miserably to the point that they lost the family home to pay the banks of from the credit card spending only to spend that too and still be in debt with the banks, whom her husband had to go bankrupt, and was contantly hocking things,she had been unfaithful to her husband twice,her husband was weak, and was coming onto our border as well, I had to learn tough love with her and patience, whist i was away visiting my parents for 3 weeks, her family moved in to our home, her , her husband and 4 of 8 of her children, she flirted with my husband, as always, the thing is I trust my husband, a man of integrity discipline, eyes for me only, so she can try what she wanted but never get anywhere with her advances,I didnt give a great deal of care because I was hurting from my past wishing tthat he would cave in because it was hurting me to have a husband and deal with the pain caused a couple of years before, and didnt give a great deal of worry to the situation, but with that he was proving his love to me which was needed for my healing,but because I know what God expected of me I vowed never to act out of control but always kept seeking God, after they moved out the friendship dwindled not long after, when they came to borrow the lawn mower they put it in hock that was annoying but what the real problem was that they tried to cover it up ad kept lyiing to us, eventually they returned it but they went to great lengths to cover it up which i felt really sad because after four years of friendship they still had no faith in our friendship, my husband turned his back to them, and i didnt handle it like the way God wanted me too, so we lost alot,in blessing had we kept on with our friendship with them, after that we moved to my parents but I still sometimes hope that she and her husband by the grace of God and that she will pull together and heal in her heart and peace and that she will settle into Gods way of basic standard of moral living, maybe i shouldve showed her the simplicity of the ten commandments, for starters, but tryed to help her where God has his finger on I hope this helps, in your scenario
