Praying to be healed

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LadyShirley

LadyShirley

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hi bros and sis!

recently i have rejoined this online community in the hope of building up that mutual support, as desired by Jesus Christ.

so in short, my parents have, finally, got divorced. it is REALLY a long story but the main point is our family have endured a roughly 11 year financial instability and verbal violence. ever since i was in junior high, the biggest driving force for my doing well academically is because i want to be financially independent, LEAVE and start a new page with mom. well, it's not like dad has ever physically harm me n mum, but it's not unlikely to happen when sb loses control of tempers and uses all kinds of harmful words to deny our relationship.
it may seem shocking to you but i am actually the one who encourage my mum to get divorced.*
but guess what? now i feel contradicted. yes i once felt relieved when mum n i moved out. but i realize i still need to be healed.*
and i still wonder, what does He want to do with my life?*
*thanks for reading such a long thread btw
 
stonesoffire

stonesoffire

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When I was much younger, I asked the Lord what I could do as a vocation. My children were in school and I wanted more then. He asked me this..."what have you always wanted to do?".

That is what I pursued.

But, even more than this, I can tell you that your healing and the healing of both your parents too is more important. Wholeness is found in the person of Jesus. Relationship...as Your Father who will care for you all your life, and never refuse you entrance into His Presence.

This healing will guard you in your choices of life.
 
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LadyShirley said:
hi bros and sis!

recently i have rejoined this online community in the hope of building up that mutual support, as desired by Jesus Christ.

so in short, my parents have, finally, got divorced. it is REALLY a long story but the main point is our family have endured a roughly 11 year financial instability and verbal violence. ever since i was in junior high, the biggest driving force for my doing well academically is because i want to be financially independent, LEAVE and start a new page with mom. well, it's not like dad has ever physically harm me n mum, but it's not unlikely to happen when sb loses control of tempers and uses all kinds of harmful words to deny our relationship.
it may seem shocking to you but i am actually the one who encourage my mum to get divorced.*
but guess what? now i feel contradicted. yes i once felt relieved when mum n i moved out. but i realize i still need to be healed.*
and i still wonder, what does He want to do with my life?*
*thanks for reading such a long thread btw
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A. Boy! You must really read short stories, if you think this post was long. lol

B. Welcome back.

C. Why did you intrude on your parent's marriage?

D. Why are you still living with either parent?

It was their marriage that hit the dust. But it didn't really start happening until you were 17, which is a year before you were of age, so I really don't get why you're still in this battlefield?

My parent's marriage went bad when I was in secondary school, (high school for us Americans.) It got worse, before it got better, (Mom died before she got her much-coveted divorce papers), but by the time the dust had settled, I was off to college, then living the single life.

I love both parents, understand the gist of what went horribly wrong, saw it happen to Dad twice, (he married a woman specifically because she looked and acted like Mom, and yet she was not Mom), but that was their problems. Mine was growing up and going off on my own.
 
John_agape

John_agape

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Depleted this is so sad. That you have no understanding of what family relationships are like.

Are you a troll?

If you have nothing encouraging to come with, why do you write such absurd things.

There is nothing wrong or strange if a person over 18 supports a parent who is going through a traumatic time. There is nothing wrong or strange if a person over 18 shares a home with a parent.
 
tourist

tourist

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John_agape said:
Depleted this is so sad. That you have no understanding of what family relationships are like.

Are you a troll?

If you have nothing encouraging to come with, why do you write such absurd things.

There is nothing wrong or strange if a person over 18 supports a parent who is going through a traumatic time. There is nothing wrong or strange if a person over 18 shares a home with a parent.
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She has written thousands of posts but she is certainly not a troll. A little blunt sometimes perhaps but she says what is on her mind. I don't agree with some of what she writes either but a lot of it I do. She certainly has a way of expressing herself that sometimes rubs the wrong way but that's OK. I don't think that there is anything wrong with a person over 18 years old sharing a home with the parents and trying to be supportive either.
 
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John_agape

John_agape

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LaryShirly, healing can take some time. Healing from an abusive relationship is difficult.

If your father was abusive as you described, then a separation was necessary. Don't take the blame for his abuse.

Verbal abuse is as serious as physical abuse. The old saying> "Sticks and stones can hurt my bones, but words can never harm me," is not true. Words can harm deep in the soul.

I'm praying for you and your family.
 
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