unhealthy? family doesnt like him?!

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FearlessJesusGurl

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So...how do u know when a relationship is unhealthy? Idk...ppl say that i am not in a good relationship but I dont believe that or see it at all...I undestand that life is different now after high school and definately after my son was born but still I dont get how everyone sees all the negative sides of it...I know that my bf has said things to me and done things that maybe he shouldnt have but hes a great guy and I want my family to see that...but a lot of my family doesnt like him anymore...they really used to...but now he feels bad cuz they dont and he knows they dont...but i try to make him feel better about it...idk...I need a way for my family to like him again..they liked him the first 3 yrs we were together...we have now been together almost 5 yrs...idk...plz lemme know if u have any ideas...
I really need my family to like him...because we want to stay together and maybe one day get married..but as for now i dont want to get married for a long time...

thanks

~B
 
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ariannaaa

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Hey girl, I'm sorry that you're in such a stressful situation. I know it must be hard for the family you love not to like the man you love. I think that what your family thinks of the person you are dating is a very strong indication of how good they are for you. Its true the love can blind, and you know that your family will always have your best interest at heart. Sometimes families are wrong, but if nothing else they should provide you with an indication of at least facets of the relationship that may be unhealthy..

But above all what matters is whether or not your relationship is centered around Christ, and whether God is happy with you and your boyfriend being together. If your relationship is apart of God's will, then I suggest praying that He bring your family around. If you don't feel like your and his focus is on Christ before yourselves or eachother, there probably is a problem with your relationship. Are you praying together? Reading the word together? Going to church together?

Good luck with everything. :)
 
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SamIam

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my advice.. if nobody likes him but you........ theres a problem
 
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Baptistrw

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ariannaaa said:
Hey girl, I'm sorry that you're in such a stressful situation. I know it must be hard for the family you love not to like the man you love. I think that what your family thinks of the person you are dating is a very strong indication of how good they are for you. Its true the love can blind, and you know that your family will always have your best interest at heart. Sometimes families are wrong, but if nothing else they should provide you with an indication of at least facets of the relationship that may be unhealthy..

But above all what matters is whether or not your relationship is centered around Christ, and whether God is happy with you and your boyfriend being together. If your relationship is apart of God's will, then I suggest praying that He bring your family around. If you don't feel like your and his focus is on Christ before yourselves or eachother, there probably is a problem with your relationship. Are you praying together? Reading the word together? Going to church together?

Good luck with everything. :)
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Couldn't have said it any better. If your're a Christian and your boyfriend isn't, it's not healthy. And it there is habitual sin between you two it's not healthy. And like Ariana said, if your family doesn't approve, it's probably a strong indicator.
 
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FearlessJesusGurl

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Thanks for all ur advice...no he is not christian but i am...he used to go to church w me jus so id like him better when we first started dating..but yeah thanks anyways..idk its hard now...it makes it really difficult that we have a son together and that i love him...idk..but i suppose God will help me figure things out i have strong faith in him...

God Bless n Thanks again!
 
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Chico_Zimbabwe

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FearlessJesusGurl said:
I know that my bf has said things to me and done things that maybe he shouldnt have but hes a great guy
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Everybody does and says things "they shouldn't have" but this statement worries me. Women in abusive relationships are often in denial and say, "but he's a great guy". I say end the relationship and get somebody who does things he should do instead of things he shouldn't.
 
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Graybeard

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you have had a child with him and have been together for 5yrs, you don't want to get married yet you are prepared to live in sin with him?....he is an unbeliever, you are not...the Word says do not be unequally yoked.
I would go down on my knees and seek the face of the Lord if I where you
 
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Lindqvist

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I can not speak about how he is treating you and whether that's good or bad. But unless he is abusing you or your child then there's no reason to give up on him. The best way is to sit down and talk with him and your parents. They have clearly liked him before why has that changed? Is there anything you as a family can do about it?

Do not give up on him for his lack of faith. Faith can change any man and he can still find salvation. But if he is mistreating you then get out of there and find someone that will love you with all of his heart.
 
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