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carpetmanswife

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:mad: Ok so im gonna rant for a bit..ive seen it time and time again and one more time someone i care about and am close to is caught cheating on their spouse. This person is ,was, who even knows at this point ...a christian . now im not sayin that we dont fail and fall of course we do..but ppl puhleeze!! i keep seein this same pattern over and over , in the church , ministering the gospel in some form or another , proclaiming their christianity yet walkin..living out this sinful ,knowingly sinful life!! it makes me sick. i can imagine how it makes God feel . the ppl that are hurt and the damage that is done is enormous! Do ppl even get it , what are they thinking??? Let alone draggin the christian faith thru the mud, to me its like spitting in Gods face.My heart aches:(im done now...for a bit anyway. think ima go cry now
 
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carpetmanswife

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*rant continues* what? do they think that God does not see? are they playin church?? are we a sincere ppl , are we real?or is our faith just a socialy accepted 'thing' to do:rolleyes:
 
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SamIam

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I have something to say on this.... A sexual addiction can be a powerful thing, Most people that cheat on their spouse have one. That is no excuse what so ever! but You can try as hard as you may to stop this behavior but at the end of the day its an addiction. You dont know how the other person is feeling the one that cheated., sometimes its 10 times worse than the one they cheated on, because no matter how much they want to stop doing what there doing... its just not enough...... if it was a woman that cheated they are more likely to commit suicide over it than a man. I would be very careful since you know these people.. .. i would pray for the one that cheated. He or she might need it more than the one that was cheated on.
 
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thefightinglamb

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I agree on praying for the one that cheated...as the one that didn't cheat is obviously still holy, and not in danger of falling into a life of sin...given this moment does not cause their heart to become hardened towards God...but I cannot agree that any addiction is stronger than the Lord...if someone is a Christian, then in whatever sin there is is a choice...they are no longer bound to be slaves after whatever sin...but they make choices to follow Christ or to sin...I do not see how it could be anything other than a lack of love of Christ...To have sex, very specific things have to happen...even before clothes are taken off...and through all those moments there is consent or prayer and a turning to the Lord...It is truly disheartening that this seems to be the norm everywhere...I hear about this happening in soooo many churches...and the church is suppose to not even tolerate the mention of sexual vice...but here we have become entrenched in it somehow...

If the church does not cling to holiness...it will become as filthy as this world...

But yes, deep prayer has got to be done for both of these people...and may the Lord convict and strenghten them both in and through His love

tony
 
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NoahsMom

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YUP...agreed, much sincere prayer is a needed thing, and I also agree with what was said about before about specific things taking place. Choices,have to be made, and yes Cmw, God does see, and it breaks his heart also.
 
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ariannaaa

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my campus pastor told me that he was on a plane last year flying to cali to see family.. and he decided to strike up conversation with the man sitting next to him on the plane. He asked why the man was flying to cali, and the man said it was a national retreat. my pastor asked for what, and the man said he was a Satanist, and it was a meeting for a national organization of them to congregate. My pastor asked what the reason for the meeting was.. and the man said that he and all of the Satanists in the organization were fasting, and praying that men in Christian leadership would fall and experience sexually immoral temptation.

i thought this story was amazing and it convicted my heavily! i know that there is spiritual warfare, but to think that there are people out there actually praying that our pastors fall into sin?? blows my mind. and makes me realize how much MORE i need to pray for pastors and men in leadership all across the country. theyre tempted constantly and always a target for satan. they need to be in our prayers on a daily basis.
 
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carpetmanswife

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my campus pastor told me that he was on a plane last year flying to cali to see family.. and he decided to strike up conversation with the man sitting next to him on the plane. He asked why the man was flying to cali, and the man said it was a national retreat. my pastor asked for what, and the man said he was a Satanist, and it was a meeting for a national organization of them to congregate. My pastor asked what the reason for the meeting was.. and the man said that he and all of the Satanists in the organization were fasting, and praying that men in Christian leadership would fall and experience sexually immoral temptation.

i thought this story was amazing and it convicted my heavily! i know that there is spiritual warfare, but to think that there are people out there actually praying that our pastors fall into sin?? blows my mind. and makes me realize how much MORE i need to pray for pastors and men in leadership all across the country. theyre tempted constantly and always a target for satan. they need to be in our prayers on a daily basis.
yes maam u r so right thanks for responding btw :)
 
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become_the_generation

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my campus pastor told me that he was on a plane last year flying to cali to see family.. and he decided to strike up conversation with the man sitting next to him on the plane. He asked why the man was flying to cali, and the man said it was a national retreat. my pastor asked for what, and the man said he was a Satanist, and it was a meeting for a national organization of them to congregate. My pastor asked what the reason for the meeting was.. and the man said that he and all of the Satanists in the organization were fasting, and praying that men in Christian leadership would fall and experience sexually immoral temptation.

i thought this story was amazing and it convicted my heavily! i know that there is spiritual warfare, but to think that there are people out there actually praying that our pastors fall into sin?? blows my mind. and makes me realize how much MORE i need to pray for pastors and men in leadership all across the country. theyre tempted constantly and always a target for satan. they need to be in our prayers on a daily basis.

I know this isn't what this is about but...this fires me up to stay pure!!! Bring it on satan! We have more power and strength through Christ than any demon or spirit or opression on satanic prayer can bring. They are fasting the fast of death. The are praying for us to fall because they ARE SCARED OF WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN AND THE REVIVAL THAT IS GOING TO TAKE PLACE WHEN, NOT IF, WE DON'T FALL! So comon guys, let this ignite a fire and a passion inside of you to stay even more pure in our thought life, because the reason why they are praying against this is cuz they know, and satan knows, when men are staying pure, Jesus is gonna rock somebody, and lots of somebodys, lives. So I say, bring it on satan, you can't touch an entire fellowship, and you can't even use an entire fellowship to touch one man that is living pure for you!!! God Bless everybody!
 
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carpetmanswife

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I know this isn't what this is about but...this fires me up to stay pure!!! Bring it on satan! We have more power and strength through Christ than any demon or spirit or opression on satanic prayer can bring. They are fasting the fast of death. The are praying for us to fall because they ARE SCARED OF WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN AND THE REVIVAL THAT IS GOING TO TAKE PLACE WHEN, NOT IF, WE DON'T FALL! So comon guys, let this ignite a fire and a passion inside of you to stay even more pure in our thought life, because the reason why they are praying against this is cuz they know, and satan knows, when men are staying pure, Jesus is gonna rock somebody, and lots of somebodys, lives. So I say, bring it on satan, you can't touch an entire fellowship, and you can't even use an entire fellowship to touch one man that is living pure for you!!! God Bless everybody!
thats exactly what this is about ..thats so much for posting! :)
 
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:mad: Ok so im gonna rant for a bit..ive seen it time and time again and one more time someone i care about and am close to is caught cheating on their spouse. This person is ,was, who even knows at this point ...a christian . now im not sayin that we dont fail and fall of course we do..but ppl puhleeze!! i keep seein this same pattern over and over , in the church , ministering the gospel in some form or another , proclaiming their christianity yet walkin..living out this sinful ,knowingly sinful life!! it makes me sick. i can imagine how it makes God feel . the ppl that are hurt and the damage that is done is enormous! Do ppl even get it , what are they thinking??? Let alone draggin the christian faith thru the mud, to me its like spitting in Gods face.My heart aches:(im done now...for a bit anyway. think ima go cry now

It true we fight not with flesh and blood but let as christians learn to take responsibility of our actions and not keep blaming the devil as an excuse.
No one is perfect but that not an other excuse to sin but an opportunity to ask for Gods grace to carry as through.I know your are hurting and i pray that God will give you His wisdom to sort the issue as you pray for this person.
 
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Ive never dome this before so I apologize if this sounds weird or isnt organized properly! But if this is a "sexual addiction" why not share that addiction with your SPOUSE?? Part of what irritates me about this is why do you need to have sex with someone other than your spouse. Maek Sanford in SC is a good example of this. Guys (and girls) just need to learn to keep their pants on! :(
 
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chachita

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I think overall men or women cheat for different reasons. Loneliness, Sexual addiction, diffent experience etc. What ever the reason may be... We all know satan is here to destroy. And what better way to do it, is to break-up families ( relationships).
 
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whench

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I think overall men or women cheat for different reasons. Loneliness, Sexual addiction, diffent experience etc. What ever the reason may be... We all know satan is here to destroy. And what better way to do it, is to break-up families ( relationships).
break up families?
 
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Lauren

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my campus pastor told me that he was on a plane last year flying to cali to see family.. and he decided to strike up conversation with the man sitting next to him on the plane. He asked why the man was flying to cali, and the man said it was a national retreat. my pastor asked for what, and the man said he was a Satanist, and it was a meeting for a national organization of them to congregate. My pastor asked what the reason for the meeting was.. and the man said that he and all of the Satanists in the organization were fasting, and praying that men in Christian leadership would fall and experience sexually immoral temptation.
Wow, just wow. Just wow, wow, wow....oh and yikes!

 
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iki

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hi, wow i m thankful to hear this or kind off. im embarresed for what i have to say but hopping some one to say this. im so embarrased n out of words. i myself a girl cheated at my husband not so long ago. i want to die. i dont want GOD to forgiveme for iwhat i did. giving me hope when i need it most. all i can say im afarid to feel HIM.i dont even want my husband around me cause im in pure. im hurt on how can someone love or still be with me for all of what ive done. im not at peace. i ask GOD to forgive me but im still not at peace. most of the time i wish something bad would happen to me.but even with this scaryness in my heart, i kind of dont want GOD to help me out,just to let me haveit. for i deserve it. my heart, feelings had die. i dodnt want to love, nor be loved, nor talk to like i desrve it. i hate my self.n i hate going to church cause how can i ask for forgiveness, when i myself made d choice. not caring, not concern of the pain. just concern of d pleasure n satisfying my needs. now im scared of the life of my kids once they find out n the life they will live.
i can imagine there sadness n the trust all fall away.from us, but mostly from me. i can say how sad i am for doing this. all i hear constantly in my body."leave your husband. all the time. " im scare of leaving him,because of my kids, of what GOD would want me to do. al the time i ask and c myself without my husband.i find my self at peace.knowing taht he would hate me at somepoint or feeel sorry for me but withoput me knowing it or seeing it. thats what kills me the most. i dont even want to taste something sweet, or c love stories or couple cuddling eachother because it makes me mad n even furious.
i dont have any excuse for what i did. i would be crazy to find one. ill i new i had to say it cause GOD wanted me too. if i wanted to be saved. im even ammazed on how things went when i told my husband what i did.he didnt kick me out of the house, nor hit me, or curse me out.my mother in law was hurt devastated she didnt want to c me for days. his sister wanted to attack me but she control herself.out of her heart she spoke out loud wanted me to hear and understand what was going out inside of her. my mom was so confused. not knowing what to say. she ask for forgive in behalf of me. my sisters cry for what i did.not knowing what would happen to my kids n me. those days where awfull. until we reached a certain day to talk all headhouse holds about htis problem my husband n i stay together.during the time i ask GOD to help me put on what to do. that i didnt want to make another mistake, a terrible one for my kids. my husbans coo-workers found out. my husbanb girl-friend for more than 3 years found out from which i didnt know anyhting at all.
during the talk i held inside my heart lots of things that where said n theywerent true. but i thought to my self now is not the time to fight for this things, since i the most condemm on this.but im not at peace. later during the time pass by. my husband told me some things that hurted me so much so i thought to my self. then what am i doing here. what am i. if he never loved me all this time. if he only wish i had been his other pass girlfriend the one hes been waiting for all this time. that he did it because of the kids. n other stuff. that hurt me so much n makes me not ot belive that he loves me or wants me back. just wants me to explode n get it over my self. so he can say i was the one.
i know it sounds like im the victim now n for u to judge him n say. so hear comes the problem. no just let me speak my mind. i havent talk to one for a long time about whats going inside of me. then let GOD judge me n take control over this. i feel like i have no word or what so ever to say.i sometimes ask that the wall or things would come n hugg me ,let me cry n say is okay. everything is going to be ok.forgive me for saying this but sometimes im mad at GOD for letting this happen tp me. not for what i did. but for my husband staying quiet about all this feelings for this whole time. i believe on him i trusted him.even in the bad times he was my husband the untouchable, the one who would never think of another or wish he was with pass or future girl. but it was the opposite. n now i hate my self sometimes for letting him know how i felt, how i did it, who n where everything happen. everything about my life i told him cause i thought he would understand. not knowing that he was human too. taking all things tahat he did to me taht tehy were all right. but when ever i pray to GOD. i would cry out i dont want to be here. cause i feel so alone thta i had to do everything n not knowing anything. thats how he always seen me. that i dont know anything, dont know how to have a political conversation, bible conversation, cleaning, cooking,hoew to take care of kids or the intamacy. it came to a point where he complain about my body how fat n ugly, but with this hatefull word taht at some point i thought he was joking. because he liked to joked around. it someimes made me think that it got me lost of myself my belief n my strenghts for what little i had from GOD. but still i might be wrong. u know that when your in pain n hurt u think of things n someone to blame off. just to feel at peace and find a reason. i still say i had no excuse. now he hates my family, even though he doesnt say it the way he expresses of them shows it. i get really sad. cause if before i didnt talk or visist them taht often now is worst. i even ask my mom not to call me when hes here, nor to come to my house cause he doesnt want to c them at all.althoug when the few times they come he acts like is not true n hurts me.but what can i expect. perfectness no.
now im more saddder then ever. i thought i was ttrying hard enough to llok for GOD.by fasting, praying, beegiing for forgiveness n still dont feel nothing. but to be honest im afraid of failing again, of feeling the purity of HIS love n that maybe im not sincere enough with HIM>. n here i am wanting to talk to someone about htis. looking n asking where to go. n i found you guys. cause GOD said."Arent there any children of GOD to go to counsel for u to go to out side world so they could say where is your GOD." yeah too late for that jah. well imsorry but i do refused to go to counseling to someone who doesnt know about GOD> i heard that some of them give the wrong information or medicine to deal with it. the GOD that i know is not like that. HE heals n it heals. HE says n is said.the GOD that i know is powerfull . i get sad i again.im not worthy of saying this speciall words to u. but thank u for hearing n praying for people like us.
but my biggest prayer that i ask of al to pray that GOD heals his pain(husban n all of yours n family). im so hurtfull for causing u shame n pain. i dont know how to take it awy. if with life(death). sacrifice. or just staying away with out saying anything at all.
as for my husband his singging at church once more n now he even satrted preaching. the few times ive ben ther with him i feel so ashamed unworthy for carriing this shame on him n family.not knowing sometimes if i should go or stay, sing or pray, say that im free, or alive. n also if i should pass to sign to GOD or not for letting me live until this day in HIS presence undesrveving presence.
not only that but it grew a big jeouslousy to this girl who seeks GOD trully but is also to closed to my husband. n he talks to her just as he talk to me when we were starting going out. sometimes i guess that the will be my husband pay for tolerating all of my things n me taking GOD for granted like him.there is no excuse for all my doings in my life. but if im not a true christian in front of GOD sadly but true HE HIMSELF can cast me out. no matter what i say or do.

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