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I am not a man.. sorry, BUT I do have some serious personal experience with this one.... just because you CAN fall in love with someone does not mean that it is an appropriate relationship to pursue. Even at 17 or 18 someone 9 years older is NOT okay! If they care about you even half as much as you care about them right now, as the older person, the one who has seen the other side of teen years and knows the consequences of decisions made during those years they would not get involved with you anyway - because it is bad for you! Bad for you socially, bad for your emotional and spiritual growth! If they can talk themselves (and you) into getting into a romantic relationship with you despite this they are not nurturing you the way God means for us to nurture our mates! I hate to sound harsh, but like I said I have been there, and because of my situation have know several other people who have been there. Also if you really care for them it is illegal. Even if you are at the age of consent or there is no sexual involvement there is encouraging the deliquency of a minor and a half dozen other charges that could be brought against them. Even if they didn't get caught, God tells us to obey the law of man and they will have to answer to the creator!
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Yes I agree with this. Although I am beginning what people would call a relationship (or sorts) with someone who is nearly 12 years older than myself - It would have been deemed highly innappropriate if I were currently a teen and he in his mid to late 20s. Its life experience that make a relationship between a teenage boy and an older woman innappropriate. And while one is still at least in highschool and under the protection of their parent/s, they do not the the knowledge nor the emotional aptitude to understand the kind of 'being in love' with simeone who is simply going through a different life stage as them.
I would look at your motives for seeking this relationship, as well as her motives. Allow yourself to ask all those hard questions. Sure you may feel theres passion but more importantly is there compatibility? On a side note I think in this 'relationship' the roles would be slightly messed up.
I would look at your motives for seeking this relationship, as well as her motives. Allow yourself to ask all those hard questions. Sure you may feel theres passion but more importantly is there compatibility? On a side note I think in this 'relationship' the roles would be slightly messed up.
well; First, you must understand true love is not a feeling it is something you do. and if you are going off what you feel about a person, as we all know feelings change, so you must ask yourself, " what can I do for this person" and what can they do for me. talking is good, but can we relate? sex is so deceptive; we think that it is love, but it is only ment for reproducing and pleasure. not away to say, " I love you" ask yourself can I provide for this women as her husban.. do I have the abilities to catch her spiritually, emoyionally, and physically? As we all know that we "feel" good about someone and thats love, but as we get to grow and know more and more about eachother there will be some things about them that don't make us "feel" good at all. and then the thoughts of wanting to leave or end it come to mind. so young man if it is how you "feel" about anyone younger or older. then you need to relook at why you say you love them. it will save you from a world of heart-ache.
can we add on to that person's life or will we just be apart of their life?
I tell you us woman are so damanding, and sometimes can make a grown man cry....we mean no harm but most of us can do some damage if the man is not strong enough to handle a women who knows what she want and can't settle for less... we will give it a try.. anything! young, old, out of shape, to tall, too short,,, not good looking, too good looking. you name we will try it for a relationship. but if there are too many of those, Not all thats" in the relationship we women will withdraw, and get angry at you men for not being what we really wanted. and we all know what happens after that......
so I said all this to say, look ahead... try to see a future beyond where you are and considering everything!!! and ask yourself with no pride, (because pride will tell you that you can walk to the moon if you really tried,( get it) ) but humble yourself and it will open your eyes to reality, and then say can I be the MAN to give this women all it takes to get her through the rest of her life no matter how she or I change... can you SEE that. you must see something even if it don't happen that exact way, can you do it no and can you do it till death do you part?
can we add on to that person's life or will we just be apart of their life?
I tell you us woman are so damanding, and sometimes can make a grown man cry....we mean no harm but most of us can do some damage if the man is not strong enough to handle a women who knows what she want and can't settle for less... we will give it a try.. anything! young, old, out of shape, to tall, too short,,, not good looking, too good looking. you name we will try it for a relationship. but if there are too many of those, Not all thats" in the relationship we women will withdraw, and get angry at you men for not being what we really wanted. and we all know what happens after that......
so I said all this to say, look ahead... try to see a future beyond where you are and considering everything!!! and ask yourself with no pride, (because pride will tell you that you can walk to the moon if you really tried,( get it) ) but humble yourself and it will open your eyes to reality, and then say can I be the MAN to give this women all it takes to get her through the rest of her life no matter how she or I change... can you SEE that. you must see something even if it don't happen that exact way, can you do it no and can you do it till death do you part?
