Any tips or Advise to remove shyness in meeting people

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missy2shoes

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hahahaha if ya tickled my feet I'd prolly kick ya in da face hahaha.....just a knee jerk reaction...coz I iz ticklish :p :p
 
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ariannaaa

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#45
I agree with the advice thats been given.. to be yourself and go for it.. and also with lamb sort of- just that try not to worry about it too much.

but another note.. don't look at being shy as something thats necessarily bad. i find that endearing when a guy is a little more to himself and isn't always trying to be the center of attention.

at the same time.. i'd never initiate a first date or something like that. i don't think its ladylike and since a man's biblical role is to lead i believe he should ask. so after you become friends with a girl, i think thats the only thing id be careful of.. dont put it off so long that she no longer thinks youre interested. i know thats sort of vague and may be a difficult balance to figure out, but its not an exact science :)

good luck :)
 
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Ancilla

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It's been my struggle to introduce myslef to girls in other churches. I do not know what to say or how to keep the conversation going. Any advice in what to do if you see a girl whom you like to befriend in another church. If I will have a breakthrough on this, maybe it will be easier the next time around...

thanks... =)
I wish I knew what to tell you to start a conversation. I do, however, know how to keep a conversation going. The trick is to ask her about herself. Not super personal stuff, but like where she works or what she's taking in school, and if she likes it, what she likes about it. I always like to ask people what their favourite movie is because I think you can tell a lot about a person by their favourite movie. See, if you ask her about herself, she'll think you find her interesting and that's very flattering... at least in my opinon. The key thing is look for common groud. Try to find something she's interested in that you know something about too.
 

Gojira

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It's been my struggle to introduce myslef to girls in other churches. I do not know what to say or how to keep the conversation going. Any advice in what to do if you see a girl whom you like to befriend in another church. If I will have a breakthrough on this, maybe it will be easier the next time around...

thanks... =)
Sometimes... it's like getting into a cold pool. You just got to jump in. No dancing around. No pussy-footing in. Just dive.

For example, I remember being in a church once and I just decided I was going to go up to people, tell them I was new, and introduce myself. That broke the ice fast. I do not always do this, but doing it has usually turned out to be a good choice.

Another example... I remember, maybe... 9 years ago (Sept 2012?)... I encountered an attractive Filipina in a laundromat (I mention her ethnicity because I have a preference for what I, as a westerner, would call 'exotic'). We had a little rapport going on throughout our time there and decided I wanted to ask her out.

Ask out a stranger, right there, now?!? Just throw myself out there?? Yes. I decided I would do it.

But, I told God I needed an "in". So, as I got ready to leave, I said something along the lines of 'Good night,' and I told her my name (Keith). She said, if memory serves, that she was Brittainy, and that it was good to bump into a stranger who was nice. That's an 'in' if ever there was one.

So, I said, "Would you like to get to know one another a little better?" She looked away, closed her eyes, looked back and said, "I'm sorry, I'm taken." I said, "Oh, alright then," and picked up my basket. But, she said, "Maybe we'll bump into each other again." That made no sense to me. I mean, why even consider that? So I answered, "I hardly ever see the same person twice in a laundromat," and I walked off, clearly with a changed demeanor.

But, I was happy. Why? Because I walked through a door when it was opened. The worst that was going to happen was that she'd say 'no'. I couldn't brush that off? C'mon. Despite the disappointment, it was worth it.
 

Subhumanoidal

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Sometimes... it's like getting into a cold pool. You just got to jump in. No dancing around. No pussy-footing in. Just dive.

For example, I remember being in a church once and I just decided I was going to go up to people, tell them I was new, and introduce myself. That broke the ice fast. I do not always do this, but doing it has usually turned out to be a good choice.

Another example... I remember, maybe... 9 years ago (Sept 2012?)... I encountered an attractive Filipina in a laundromat (I mention her ethnicity because I have a preference for what I, as a westerner, would call 'exotic'). We had a little rapport going on throughout our time there and decided I wanted to ask her out.

Ask out a stranger, right there, now?!? Just throw myself out there?? Yes. I decided I would do it.

But, I told God I needed an "in". So, as I got ready to leave, I said something along the lines of 'Good night,' and I told her my name (Keith). She said, if memory serves, that she was Brittainy, and that it was good to bump into a stranger who was nice. That's an 'in' if ever there was one.

So, I said, "Would you like to get to know one another a little better?" She looked away, closed her eyes, looked back and said, "I'm sorry, I'm taken." I said, "Oh, alright then," and picked up my basket. But, she said, "Maybe we'll bump into each other again." That made no sense to me. I mean, why even consider that? So I answered, "I hardly ever see the same person twice in a laundromat," and I walked off, clearly with a changed demeanor.

But, I was happy. Why? Because I walked through a door when it was opened. The worst that was going to happen was that she'd say 'no'. I couldn't brush that off? C'mon. Despite the disappointment, it was worth it.
You're about 12 years too late on your reply.
 

Lynx

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So? Someone else may benefit.
Heh... you gonna have to step up your game if you gonna make waves.

A couple or three years ago, on Halloween morning (CST) I ran a forum search for every thread with "Halloween" in the title. Then I posted in all of them,

Wooooooo! Halloween zombie thread, back from the graaaaaaaave!
It was fun for a one-off lark, but some people got mad enough to start talking about getting me banned. :whistle:

It wasn't funny enough to do every year though. Maybe in another five years I'll do it again one Halloween.
 

Gojira

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Heh... you gonna have to step up your game if you gonna make waves.

A couple or three years ago, on Halloween morning (CST) I ran a forum search for every thread with "Halloween" in the title. Then I posted in all of them,



It was fun for a one-off lark, but some people got mad enough to start talking about getting me banned. :whistle:

It wasn't funny enough to do every year though. Maybe in another five years I'll do it again one Halloween.
If they get that upset over something so stupidly trivial, that's on them, not you.
 

TabinRivCA

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Sometimes... it's like getting into a cold pool. You just got to jump in. No dancing around. No pussy-footing in. Just dive.

For example, I remember being in a church once and I just decided I was going to go up to people, tell them I was new, and introduce myself. That broke the ice fast. I do not always do this, but doing it has usually turned out to be a good choice.

Another example... I remember, maybe... 9 years ago (Sept 2012?)... I encountered an attractive Filipina in a laundromat (I mention her ethnicity because I have a preference for what I, as a westerner, would call 'exotic'). We had a little rapport going on throughout our time there and decided I wanted to ask her out.

Ask out a stranger, right there, now?!? Just throw myself out there?? Yes. I decided I would do it.

But, I told God I needed an "in". So, as I got ready to leave, I said something along the lines of 'Good night,' and I told her my name (Keith). She said, if memory serves, that she was Brittainy, and that it was good to bump into a stranger who was nice. That's an 'in' if ever there was one.

So, I said, "Would you like to get to know one another a little better?" She looked away, closed her eyes, looked back and said, "I'm sorry, I'm taken." I said, "Oh, alright then," and picked up my basket. But, she said, "Maybe we'll bump into each other again." That made no sense to me. I mean, why even consider that? So I answered, "I hardly ever see the same person twice in a laundromat," and I walked off, clearly with a changed demeanor.

But, I was happy. Why? Because I walked through a door when it was opened. The worst that was going to happen was that she'd say 'no'. I couldn't brush that off? C'mon. Despite the disappointment, it was worth it.
Bravo to you for giving it a go, like you said you'd never know if you hadn't asked. To me that's so much better than someone afraid to open a dialogue then sit alone single when they really want to meet someone. My advise, keep doing that, as the Lord leads, and He will bless you with the right one.