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The problem with being "just friends" is that over time one or the other or even both might develop feelings. If the two spend a lot of time together, getting to know one another for years, it's likely that the attraction would built up. There do need to be boundaries.
For example, I don't think it's right for a married man to be best friends with another female. Same thing with a married woman. Attraction can build up and it's just setting yourself up for a heartache. I think people can be friends with others of the opposite sex but they shouldn't be best friends together.
By best friends I mean filling emotional, sexual, or spiritual needs that you should be getting from your spouse.
A couple that goes to my church are best friends with each other. His co-workers asked the husband if he would ever go out without his wife and just some male friends. He answered "no, why would I? She's my best friend and I want her to experience everything I do." I think that's what marriage should be like.
Fromdomlove, if you don't feel comfortable being friends with other women, then by all means don't. I think some men might handle it well, but others cannot. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. So don't worry so much about it, brother. You just gotta do you.
For example, I don't think it's right for a married man to be best friends with another female. Same thing with a married woman. Attraction can build up and it's just setting yourself up for a heartache. I think people can be friends with others of the opposite sex but they shouldn't be best friends together.
By best friends I mean filling emotional, sexual, or spiritual needs that you should be getting from your spouse.
A couple that goes to my church are best friends with each other. His co-workers asked the husband if he would ever go out without his wife and just some male friends. He answered "no, why would I? She's my best friend and I want her to experience everything I do." I think that's what marriage should be like.
Fromdomlove, if you don't feel comfortable being friends with other women, then by all means don't. I think some men might handle it well, but others cannot. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. So don't worry so much about it, brother. You just gotta do you.
C
Not best friends but just friends (in a group setting) is possible with some. I had one collegue who was a real good friend and single when I was married. They asked if we had something. He was the only normal one. He later got a girlfriend and I hung out with them both. She was even more fun. Another one who was also married, I thought well he's married so I can just talk to him during the break with others. He's now divorced and lately asked me to come over and bring my tooth brush with me. Then it was also not possible to be just friends. He got mad if I didn't want to go to the cafe after work. No I don't. I'm married. I was boring lol.
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I wonder , can I be friends with women or men and work at close qurters with them , well seems I can and how do I get along with them , well at camp I know some 250 people and I get on well now one of my friends who we chat about all kinds of things and clothes = garb Renaissance , we talked about how I interact with others and both male / female now I very friendly and for myself touch feel,e kind of person so how I interact withothers is very = I express myself in my emotions body expressive and talking I,m alive and I am exited so maybe I,m just expressing all of myself , we hug each other or some come behind me and put their hands on my shoulders so we are free in how we express our selfs to each other ,
Okay so alls okay , well my friend said as we talked about this ,I was flirting , I thought ...what ....OH ...NO....so that pulled me up real quick , I don't know how I should see this or do I have to change how I interact with others,
Most of the men are married and most of the women its no different with in our other groups so your looking at some 2000 people and I know them all and have done for many years , they know what I'm like they know I'm just noeleena whos a little different who express,s her self with a joy of we get on so well , have fun and some we sling off at each other and have a friendship that is there for all to see ,
My friend was not putting me down plus she also said she would like me to dress in a way that would be more lovely and have some more feminine garb = clothes and I thought ....oh ...no ....I dress quite plain and have done because of my more masculine facial features so yes I get embarrassed with how I look so to dress more feminine sort of floored me some what , I know my photo does not give you much of an idear of how I look , so look on facebook use my name ,
So I'm dreading some what what she will have idears on for myself and what I should or will be designing and making yes I do my own clothes . so there you are a dileamer what ever ....
Oh , Age , that for myself is good because I wont have men wonting to go out with me because I,ll tell them if you do you need glass,s and I'm not going any where with you . and with in our groups it has never come up or will , so I'm safe to be around and others know this ,and trust goes a long way in friendship.s .
...noeleena...
I wonder , can I be friends with women or men and work at close qurters with them , well seems I can and how do I get along with them , well at camp I know some 250 people and I get on well now one of my friends who we chat about all kinds of things and clothes = garb Renaissance , we talked about how I interact with others and both male / female now I very friendly and for myself touch feel,e kind of person so how I interact withothers is very = I express myself in my emotions body expressive and talking I,m alive and I am exited so maybe I,m just expressing all of myself , we hug each other or some come behind me and put their hands on my shoulders so we are free in how we express our selfs to each other ,
Okay so alls okay , well my friend said as we talked about this ,I was flirting , I thought ...what ....OH ...NO....so that pulled me up real quick , I don't know how I should see this or do I have to change how I interact with others,
Most of the men are married and most of the women its no different with in our other groups so your looking at some 2000 people and I know them all and have done for many years , they know what I'm like they know I'm just noeleena whos a little different who express,s her self with a joy of we get on so well , have fun and some we sling off at each other and have a friendship that is there for all to see ,
My friend was not putting me down plus she also said she would like me to dress in a way that would be more lovely and have some more feminine garb = clothes and I thought ....oh ...no ....I dress quite plain and have done because of my more masculine facial features so yes I get embarrassed with how I look so to dress more feminine sort of floored me some what , I know my photo does not give you much of an idear of how I look , so look on facebook use my name ,
So I'm dreading some what what she will have idears on for myself and what I should or will be designing and making yes I do my own clothes . so there you are a dileamer what ever ....
Oh , Age , that for myself is good because I wont have men wonting to go out with me because I,ll tell them if you do you need glass,s and I'm not going any where with you . and with in our groups it has never come up or will , so I'm safe to be around and others know this ,and trust goes a long way in friendship.s .
...noeleena...
J
I have 90% male friends in my life. I CANNOT say that a lot of them wish for more, however it doesn't mean that is my desire and that it will happen. In fact I make it very clear! I get a long with men much better as there is less drama and they tend to not be so BLAH...BLAH...BLAH...BLAH talking my ear off all day about non-quintessential stuff. They also do not look at me and say, wait are you going to wear that? They accept me, simply for me. That being said, typically when they get in a serious relationship the woman makes them chose, as usually the woman is insecure.
Your also definitely going to get a few of these in the 'can men and woman really be just friends..' scenario.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HGzkRFm_Zwk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HGzkRFm_Zwk
These links echo my feelings about this topic...
Biblical Dating: Just Friends | Boundless
Are Opposite-Sex Friends Okay? | Today's Christian Woman
Pure Intimacy - Not Your Buddy
Married with Opposite Sex Friends - Love and Relationships
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201304/can-men-and-women-be-just-friends
Can Men and Women Just be Friends?
My thoughts regarding this topic....
Biblical Dating: Just Friends | Boundless
Are Opposite-Sex Friends Okay? | Today's Christian Woman
Pure Intimacy - Not Your Buddy
Married with Opposite Sex Friends - Love and Relationships
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201304/can-men-and-women-be-just-friends
Can Men and Women Just be Friends?
My thoughts regarding this topic....
- There has to be upfront communication from both parties.
- Both parties need to be in the same book as well as on the same page regarding the friendship.
- Group activities
L
I have male friends and I'm very careful who my male friends are. My male friends and I have the utmost respect for each other, we are comfortable with each other and I feel safe with them. Male friends who are married I would never leave a private message via text or email because I honor their marriage. Male friends who are dating I try to meet their gfs and respect their relationships, I don't spend any one on one time out of respect for their gfs. Going out in groups is best. Drama free friendship is my goal 
A
I'm friends with both girls and guys. Even my two ex boyfriends. I'm friends with people in their 70s and people in their tweens. I don't really see it as an issue being friends with the opposite sex because I know myself. I'm not going to pursue someone who is in a relationship. I probably will not even pursue someone who is single, for the simple fact that I could care less about dating at this current point in time. I'm much more concerned about my relationship with God at the time being. But If I find someone I like, I may (Big maybe there) pursue them distantly but only them. So in light of that, I'm not doing anything wrong. I made a vow to God to stay sexually and emotionally pure, and so I will. It's not really a big deal unless you treat it as one. If you feel desperate for a relationship, pray to God to give you peace so that he can use you in your season of singleness. After all, your season of being single is the best time for serving God because you can devote everything you have to him without worry for another human being.
In the absence of any romantic interest, all that's left is friendship.. My best friend today is female. So yes, you can be friends with someone of the opposite sex. My only problem with female friends is that every time something breaks, they'd call me to fix it . However, I must admit that in my 20's, I had a one track mind and would always try to advance a friendly relationship to the next level. It just seemed like the natural thing to do, and people say its a good thing to marry your best friend.
. However, I must admit that in my 20's, I had a one track mind and would always try to advance a friendly relationship to the next level. It just seemed like the natural thing to do, and people say its a good thing to marry your best friend. 
I have male friends and I'm very careful who my male friends are. My male friends and I have the utmost respect for each other, we are comfortable with each other and I feel safe with them. Male friends who are married I would never leave a private message via text or email because I honor their marriage. Male friends who are dating I try to meet their gfs and respect their relationships, I don't spend any one on one time out of respect for their gfs. Going out in groups is best. Drama free friendship is my goal
C
hahahahahahaha
Oh my once on another forum I posted messages on another guy's wall who just spoke to everybody, nice man your age, married, we just posted gospel songs. Hey did you hear this one? Awesome! We had the same music taste.
Lol then he said: Can we keep meeting each other here? What will the people think? Wot?
Oh my once on another forum I posted messages on another guy's wall who just spoke to everybody, nice man your age, married, we just posted gospel songs. Hey did you hear this one? Awesome! We had the same music taste.
Lol then he said: Can we keep meeting each other here? What will the people think? Wot?
i have guy friends i've known for 20+ years. they are my good friends, and in all the years we have known each other, none of them have tried to make it more than friends. same goes for me lol.
one of them is married, and once he got married, i knew our friendship would change a little bit. i try to talk more with his wife, who is also my friend
one of them is married, and once he got married, i knew our friendship would change a little bit. i try to talk more with his wife, who is also my friend
C
I wouldn't go lunch with one alone either, but neither with a single guy.
It's smart. I went to a sail week with my brother in law when I was single and young and my sister couldn't go, they just had a baby and he didn't want to go alone. Not smart. He drank beer and asked me what kind of guy I wanted. I said: someone like you. Because he's nice, not because I was attracted to him hahahahahahaha, but that was a very stupid thing to say. He tried to kiss me and I never told my sister.
It's smart. I went to a sail week with my brother in law when I was single and young and my sister couldn't go, they just had a baby and he didn't want to go alone. Not smart. He drank beer and asked me what kind of guy I wanted. I said: someone like you. Because he's nice, not because I was attracted to him hahahahahahaha, but that was a very stupid thing to say. He tried to kiss me and I never told my sister.
L
I have to say its possible if both parties accepted it to be just that... A normal boy girl friendship. I had a friend for about 6 years. We were best frienda and everyone thought we belonged together. And i fell for him in the end. But he never wanted me in that way. So it broke our friendship apart. Wr keep in touch but its never the same. Therefor its needed that in the beginning of a friendship it should be stated clearly thats just it.u