Comitment fobia ones???

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saltnlight

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Hi everyone:

Maye the grace of God be upon you.I want to share my dating experience so far...maybe someone can help me figure out what i did wrong and where do i fail???:confused:
I was raised in a pentecostal church, and my parents were ministers at church.When i go the age of finding a Godly man, there were NONE;) available ones...it happens thati started to date non christian,but of course, i understood fast it would NEVER work...so i become alone and single again.
I am 36 now.When i was 31 i met a guy online, christian, and we dated for 3 years, long distance relationship..it happens he didn't knew what he wanted for his life, so he never wanted to comit with me actually, finnaly i was exhausted of waiting and we broke up.Now this last year of 2008 i met a 38 old single christian guy...we did get along pretty well and everything was going greatly...i met his family ad we ge along fine... until last november he told me he was feeling doubts about us:eek:...and there was i again, the same part:rolleyes: i have been performing before and the same movie:(.
why do i just feel atracted for these kinda guys?or why do atract them?i pray and pray and keep praying for a decent guy to come into my life...
so to end this story(still didn't ended:cool: actually)i gave my recent boyfriend sometime and told him for us to pray about it...now we are talking better again and i think he is getting closer to me again...we are focusing on prayer, fellowship and i'm leaning on God for futue...this is a rough test for me...
but i also believe God can operate in people's heart and i have seen God working in my boyfriend heart.
I believe in happy relationships and happy marriages..i will not settle for less...my heart is in peace.And i want to encorage every single girl/boy to wait for God's best...i will share about the end of my story with my actual comitment fobia boyfriend...:pLet us see how God will guide us...any advice is welcome
God bless you all!
 
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saltnlight

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GOSH no one post any comment here....i am feeling like an alien :D...does this only happened to me?:rolleyes:
any advice or shared experiences are welcome!:)
God bless you all!
 
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Kyra

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When it comes to commitment and men, it's all about knowing when to jump ship.

Bottom line, if someone wants you, they will make the relationship a priority and work to hit a higher level of commitment. If they don't, they.....
- have major issues
- are not that into you
- are complacent because they have *all* that they want. ( i.e. the guy who has a live in girlfriend )

Whatever the case, none of them are your fault, and when men get phobic, jump ship. Personally I suggest a general time line, depending on the decision involved. If the guy doesn't make the decision in the allotted time, move on.

You are worthwhile and so is your time. There are good guys out there who are not phobic and love the Lord. Don't waste your time with the "non-commitment" men. :)
 
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saltnlight

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Hi there:
thank you for your reply.You are right about everything you say...though sometimes, things are not so white/black...our situation is more on hold for now, because we are in a long distance relationship, of his health problems and other things...the bible says there is a time for everything...i am trusting the Lord...maybe i wanted things to move too fast and sometimes one of the partners is not YET ready to move forward...but he didn't say he didn't wanted to comit...just not the right time...
I will post more when we make a final decision!God bless you and thanks!
 
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saltnlight

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Ok everyone...my boyfriend is now ex...we broke up.I came to the conclusion we are not spiritual equal, he needs to convert.
Besides that the Lord is good to us!
God bless you all!
 
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Leilaii425

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I dont have a commitment phobia, i just dont like staying for people with long periods of time.
 
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OreoSoleil

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Something i've learned lately is-- maybe I have been attracted to the wrong things and that has directed my choices in men. That maybe I am the one who God needs to change and have a better relationship with him. Just something to think about : )
 
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