Dating... With Children.
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I agree that we should forgive people. But I don't see how someone who has lost their virginity or had kids has sinned against me. They have done nothing to me that would require me to forgive them. I get your point that people leave their old life behind when they come to Christ, but that doesn't mean I can't refuse to date them. Its not about forgiveness, its about being comfortable with who you're in a relationship with.
Poor Sharp. lol
Ok, for what its worth....I have children (so hence obviously not a virgin), and I take no offence to Sharps stand on what he wants in a relationship.
I think half the battle is figureing out what you truly want...and then not compromising on it.
If you are truly seeking after God...and following the holy spirit in your life when He guides.....and if the Lord directs you to somoeone that is not of those things then I believe you will follow what the Lord is asking of you. Otherwise, stick to your convictions and be true to yourself.
If I knew a good single guy to hook you up with, Musical... I would definitely tell him you're worth overlooking any emotional scars or nightmares...
But I might tell him you're a little leary of buffet restaurants because of... the obese assassins that might hang out there. (Fried chicken night!! Yum!!)
But I might tell him you're a little leary of buffet restaurants because of... the obese assassins that might hang out there. (Fried chicken night!! Yum!!)
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i compare this with my right not to date someone with four arms or say two foreheads..... i gotta be comfortable in my relationship with the person like you said... and i definantly wouldnt be comfortable not knowing which hand to hold or which forhead to look at!
If I dated a single person with no children, hed have no responsibilities towards my child unless we got married. Then Id expect him to care about her, and to be a good role model. The same way if I met a single person with child/ren. Id get to know them if we were getting serious but I wouldnt be obligated to support them financially etc until theres a ring on the finger.
But I think most men and women who care enough about the person they are dating, are willing to get to know the kids early on because they are part and parcel of the single parent.
Now that I think of it, my former sister in law had kids to my brother. They got divorced and she met a new guy. He told her to let the kids go to my brother so she can be with him. They ended up getting married but she was so torn between her kids and the new husband that it not only destroyed her 2nd marriage but also damaged her kids.
But I think most men and women who care enough about the person they are dating, are willing to get to know the kids early on because they are part and parcel of the single parent.
Now that I think of it, my former sister in law had kids to my brother. They got divorced and she met a new guy. He told her to let the kids go to my brother so she can be with him. They ended up getting married but she was so torn between her kids and the new husband that it not only destroyed her 2nd marriage but also damaged her kids.
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was interesting readong some posts above on the virignity side.
I dont care about a womans past. only today matters and tomorrow
but always fasiniating lisitening to men talk of how they want to marry a virgin , but never raising the issue of themselves not being virgin.
IF both partners are virgin i think that is great. but once you have had sex. no point holding out for a virgin. Just forget the past . love them for who they are now.
I dont care about a womans past. only today matters and tomorrow
but always fasiniating lisitening to men talk of how they want to marry a virgin , but never raising the issue of themselves not being virgin.
IF both partners are virgin i think that is great. but once you have had sex. no point holding out for a virgin. Just forget the past . love them for who they are now.
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