Hey, I was wondering if you guys ever read that book "Dear John", by Nicholas Sparks? He is also known for writing "The Notebook", "A Walk to Remember" among a list of others, which have been transitioned to the Big Screen. "Dear John" will also be coming out in theaters in Feburary, and will include lead role actors like Channing Tatum, and Amanda Seygfried....... I personally thought that the book was melancholy, and full of emotional strain. It was a good read, short, but good. Basically a guy named John, is on his first leave from the army in the summer, and falls in love with this mild Christian girl named Savannah. Well, somewhere in the book John finally meets her parents, and I was shocked when they offered him beer, mind you they were supposedly church going. And later on she ends up having pre-marital sex with John....... it was kind of a bummer, because in the begining she sticks to her beliefs of keeping sex sacred, but ends up giving in after all. I'm not one to judge, but I think waiting is till marriage is not only right, but it really makes it more special. What do you guys think? Did this story make the cut, or was it a downer? I don't know, I'm a guy, and I have been in relationships where my other half at the time would pressure me, but I just thought it to be more pure if I were married before I shared myself with someone...... a relationship has to be based on more than just the physical excersise part of it, LOL. Do you guys think that people are giving in more easily today?
God blesses any marriage that waits till after marriage before having sex.
You are right about it being more special to wait. If you have been with several, your wife/husband
is just another sex partner. Many think they need to sample things before committing to their
potential mate. But this can be hurtful since it means you are no longer pure if you sleep with
your potential mate and things go wrong and marriage doesn't take place.
It is amazing that many just can not understand that if your mate is your first, you will be free to
enjoy them and they you without the visions in your head from previous other partners. Your mate
will be exciting to you simply because they are the only one you have known. So your full attention
is on them and not them with visions of things you liked about someone else more.
Those that have had sex with two or more partners have robbed themselves and their future mate
of their happiness. No one woman/man can compare or measure up to the 3 - 5 things you liked
about others you had been with. This creates the illusion that your mate is boring and you picked
the wrong mate when in reality it is you who robbed them. By having multiple partners, you will
never focus on who they are or how much they try to please you. Your focus will always be what
they are not doing that a previous partner did that you liked and you won't notice how hard
they try to please you because you overlook their devotion as you focus on how they are not
like a previous partner instead of appreciating them for who they are as a person or their merits.
Anyone thinking they need to have sex with their partner prior to marriage is self centered. They
are looking out only for their needs with no regard to keeping the person they say they love pure
till marriage. Sex has never kept any marriage together. But if you listen to those that say we
need to know if we are compatible, this is a cop out. They aren't even married and are expressing
their unbelief in the potential for the success of the marriage based on only a sexual pleasure
that can only get better as you trust and love your mate deeper and not because the two of
you had good sex before marriage. Sex is not marriage. It is a part of marriage. Yet many today
marry for sex then wonder why their marriage broke down. If your relationship does not have
emotional bonds to hold it together without the need for sex all the time, then you would be better
off to wait till you find someone who appreciates you and sees sex as a way for each of you to
enjoy and please each other because of your emotional bonds and not inspite of the lack of them.
Waiting till you get married is a blessing that no words can describe. But having sex before marriage
will have a destructive effect on your marriage that no words can describe.
