Most, if not all, of the time, we form our opinions based on what we’ve seen/heard/read/experienced. I’m guessing you’ve seen women being controlling. A woman who lives in your area may say the same about men.
It all comes down that we all need Jesus. I may not be a controlling woman, but I still need the Lord to help me be a good, selfless wife. I can’t be one without the Holy Spirit. My husband is not a controlling man, but he also needs the Holy Spirit to help him be a good husband.
We all need the Lord.