Girl needing encouragement...

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voiceoftruth

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I have been interested in this guy for a very long time now and i am getting to the point where i just want to hang out with him all the time. I have had some conversations with him in person but i found that most of our conversations are over facebook and since he went on a trip for a very long time we grew really close over facebook messages and I am feeling like he may be the one for me. But now that i have talked to him so much online i am having hard time approaching him in person. I wanna get to know him better before i decide to go any farther or anything like that. Also i feel like sometimes it is destracting me from God soo i wonder if it is even right to think about getting into a relationship. Because i think the guy should iniate the relationship so i won't ask him out although sometimes i wish i could.. He is a really sweet guy and we have been talking about God on our facebook messages and when i talk to him i feel like i wanna get closer to God in a way... i am not sure. i feel like i am thinking and acting way younger then I am.

I also tried to not like him anymore it didn't last long.
I could probably say a lot more though.

So i am wondering should i get to know him better?
Should i tell him how i feel when i get to know him better?
What should i talk about when i am with him?
What should i do with him? as in hang out, ignore, pray ect... I donno
any other advice or bible verses that could help directing me.

I am really frusterated and i really just wanna get it out.. so here is goes...thanks for listening :)
 
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goth4god

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I think that you should hang out with him and talk to him more in person. dont necessarily make it a date, you could even bring some friends along. but i think you should get to know him better. I dont think you should tell him how you feel just yet, wait a while and see what he does about it! I really dont know what you could talk about, but look back at your messages and see what you talked about on there and maybe expand on some of that stuff.
I think that most relationships will be distracting from God at one point or another, and its good that you realize he might be keeping you from God so that way you can try and balance it all out.
so yeah, I think you should grow in friendship with him and see what happens!
 
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become_the_generation

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Hey! well i am kinda in the same boat...except im the guy. and the whole facebook messages part i got over. just ask him sometime if he wants to go do something. even if he doesnt have feeligns in that way for you, he proly will as long as hes not busy. i know it can be hard, but just trust God. if you feel God saying he is the one, then you need to test that by talking to him more and getting to know him more in person. you ned to pursue that relationship, even thought you sholdnt be the one to initiate it, if this guy sees that you are showing feeligns towards him he will start to ask God questions and then try to figure it all out. just my bit of wisdom haha. have an amazing day!!!
 
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Londonguy

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Name of Authors - Sunil and Janeene Chothi.
 
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voiceoftruth

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Sorry London guy but i can't afford books right now...


thank you goth4God- yes tonight i am going to phone him and see if he wants to hang out because he emailed me yesterday and he did mention that we should get together with some of our other friends. So i decided instead of emailing back i need to get more comfortable with talking to him in person so i could reply the email with the phone instead. Because that is a stead up from online right anyways.. yes i hope to make some plans and get to hang out with him some more in person. I will have other friends there too. yes i like the idea of looking back on the messages :) thanks that is very helpful advice

Thank you to become the generation, What do you mean you are in the same boat except your the guy? You mean that you like a girl but you talk to her mostly online... and you just stoped? Or you talk to this girl and she seems to like you? or both? I just want to understand a little more . Thats true since he is a good friend he probably will hang out with me... do you think we should go in groups or just me and him? or a bit of both? anyways get back to me Thanks again :)
 
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goth4god

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you are welcome and i hope all goes well! ^_^
 
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voiceoftruth

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Hah i phoned no one answered... must have not been there... oh well. some other time
 
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goth4god

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aw, i hate when that happens!
hopefully he will pick up next time! ^_^
 
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voiceoftruth

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I know.. yeah I will try again tomorrow maybe... Thanks :D
I will let you know how it goes alright :)
 
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become_the_generation

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haha sorry for not claryfying. welllll there was a time when we couldnt get ahold of each other than just talking on facebook so we had to. but i hate doing important convos online. soooo eventually we jst hung out everyday. alone and in groups. but the alone part should proly come after awhile in groups. maybe a couple weeks to a month. just my opinion. make sense now? have an amazing dayyyyyyy! :D
 
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voiceoftruth

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Thank you

so before you hung out with her lots then?
or just after

I did hang out with him a bit before but i am gonna try hanging out more starting in groups :)
 
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become_the_generation

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what happened with us two was crazy. we have been through things that friends normally go through throughout a long friendship of 4 years. so we still hang out a ton. we also do things in groups, but dont really talk a lot in those settings because of how much time we have outside of those settings to hang out. so we always hang out, go to walmart, go get icecream...whatever. lol. its all fun just kinda go with it and you will have an amazing time. have a super awesome weekend! :) God Bless ya'll!
 
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voiceoftruth

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Hey soo i finaly hung out with him with my friend and his brother also. it went pretty well. I hope to do it again.
 
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goth4god

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thats awesome! ^_^
 
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incorporatestreet

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voiceoftruth said:
I have been interested in this guy for a very long time now and i am getting to the point where i just want to hang out with him all the time. I have had some conversations with him in person but i found that most of our conversations are over facebook and since he went on a trip for a very long time we grew really close over facebook messages and I am feeling like he may be the one for me. But now that i have talked to him so much online i am having hard time approaching him in person. I wanna get to know him better before i decide to go any farther or anything like that. Also i feel like sometimes it is destracting me from God soo i wonder if it is even right to think about getting into a relationship. Because i think the guy should iniate the relationship so i won't ask him out although sometimes i wish i could.. He is a really sweet guy and we have been talking about God on our facebook messages and when i talk to him i feel like i wanna get closer to God in a way... i am not sure. i feel like i am thinking and acting way younger then I am.

I also tried to not like him anymore it didn't last long.
I could probably say a lot more though.

So i am wondering should i get to know him better?
Should i tell him how i feel when i get to know him better?
What should i talk about when i am with him?
What should i do with him? as in hang out, ignore, pray ect... I donno
any other advice or bible verses that could help directing me.

I am really frusterated and i really just wanna get it out.. so here is goes...thanks for listening :)
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if youre thinking about this person more than god, then it isnt of god. plus, you should feel comfortable around him in person and not get all shy and quiet. its very important to be able to be yourself around him in person, otherwise it wont work. PRAY about it and ask God if this is of him, and when he tells you, listen. take things slow and just be his friend until God gives you that clearity.
 
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italiansunset

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hmmmm... I'm not one to really give advice, but I have always been told that telling the truth is the best policy. Just tell ghim what you're really feeling and thinking, but also make sure you are steering in the direction of a Christ Centered relationship or you will find God may be the reason your relationship isn't headed that way. To thine own self be true. What do you REALLY want? and more importantly is it what GOD wants for you? Good Luck I will pray for you in your quest on your journey to find fulfillment in all the right places.
 
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Webber

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I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about it. Trust God. What will be will be ... you know?
 
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binod

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Dear ,
Greetings to his holy Name !
hoping my this e-mails meets you all well over there.I want to make you very close friend.What do you think about that?
Listen to know from you soon.
With Love & Prayers,
Binod
 
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JenRN25

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There is also a book called Lady In Waiting and it was amazing! I would totally suggest you check it out. Best of luck :) P.S. now im married to the man i wanted
 
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