Girls, would you try to change your the way you are when you see that your partner

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LoVeRoFmYsOuL

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has some difficulty to adjust himself to it?

When you love someone, the last thing you want to do is hurt him/her. I myself am trying to change the way I am, so I can adjust to the situation. I pray so I could change my ways to fit in, But sometimes it is too much to handle. She said, she wont change the way she is, cause thats how she is. I respect that but sometime I think she doesn´t respect me. Telling her would make her furious. What should I do?
 
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LoVeRoFmYsOuL

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Any advise
 
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I don't understand the question.
 
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iraasuup

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LOL me either. Maybe it's just an Aussie thing?
 
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Remmy

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hello..i too dont quite understand what you are trying to say but here's what i can say. i dont know what exactly the situation between the 2of you is but a relationship is about accepting each others flaws and strengths and it is also about compromising.it should come from both sides tho so keep trying to talk to your gf because communication is the key.tell her what you feel and that she need to respect you and not get angry.just keep praying about so God can give you wisdom...believe me HE will show you what to do,keep dping your part,respecting her,loving her,and keep praying about it.
pray that God will open her heart so she can talk about the situation without getting angry,so you can know why it botheres here so much..it could be a bad experience in her previous reationship..i dont know..just rely on God and he will help you.

God bless!
 
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mete

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i dont think u should generalize
 
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LoVeRoFmYsOuL

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Remmy said:
hello..i too dont quite understand what you are trying to say but here's what i can say. i dont know what exactly the situation between the 2of you is but a relationship is about accepting each others flaws and strengths and it is also about compromising.it should come from both sides tho so keep trying to talk to your gf because communication is the key.tell her what you feel and that she need to respect you and not get angry.just keep praying about so God can give you wisdom...believe me HE will show you what to do,keep dping your part,respecting her,loving her,and keep praying about it.
pray that God will open her heart so she can talk about the situation without getting angry,so you can know why it botheres here so much..it could be a bad experience in her previous reationship..i dont know..just rely on God and he will help you.

God bless!
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Hello guys,

Iam sorry for not being clear enough, and Mete you`re right.

Is what Remy replayed. Exactly that. Sometimes I do think Iam too foolish to talk about these thing with her. On the other hand Iam trying to except just the she is. Iam trying to change MY ways so there would be no conflicts, but I think that she`s just the way is want to be.

Some while ago we argued and I told her about some things Iam not comfortable with, but that turned to be like pouring oil into the fire. And once she said that she wouldn`t change the way she is. I was a very shy guy and with her in my life Iam trying to be more as a "talker". And Ive changed.
I pray a lot about it. I love her and dont like seeing her being hurt. Iam a little bit worried or shouldn`t I?

I would like to know if Iam doing wrong or bad, Is there someone in a similar situation who knows what to do? I dont want to be the guy that do things in a wrong way. Its my first and only relationship I have (I want to stay that way) and like to know what other christians do or think. I would very well appreciate every advise.

Thank you guys...............GOD BLESS!
 
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sorry

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my ex girlfriend was the same way she to dident want to change her ways even though i tried to change mine in every possible way i could think of, ways that should have rubed off on her i did things the right way for a while and she dident get any of it. i took everyones advise and tried to make it work. my best advise i will say to you about this is that if you want things to be better than you and her both have to make changes for the better. most of all remember you should not be afraid of your partners actions if you where ment to be together and one with god.
 
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Meridoc

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You have to be willing to change a bit, but at the core we are who we are and if the other person demands you change who you are, then it might be time to move on.
 
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