Great Expectations

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LittleMermaid

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As singles we sometimes encounter those who have a list of qualities they are looking for in a partner. It is wise to have a list, especially if those qualities are founded on Biblical virtues.

But what are some of the most bizarre or unfair expectations you've heard of people asking for?

This thread idea came because I was talking to my friend earlier and she told me her father-in-law is looking for a lady. This man is about 60+ and is looking for a woman younger than 40. He wants to have more kids. :ROFL: He also doesn't want her to know how to drive. LOL this is so bizarre to me. But I will say this man lived in Iran most of his life. So he's not really accustomed to American women, I suppose?

Ladies, if you wanna go out with this guy and live near me, let me know. Make sure you meet his qualifications though! :ROFL::ROFL::ROFL:
 

Zan

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You can make a list if you really want. I don't think it's wise to expect everyone to live up to every detail on it, however. People have flaws and problems, some just hide it better than others. The smart thing to do is probably to decide what you are willing to compromise on and what you are not willing to compromise on and work from there.

More likely is that you will find someone that you are willing to accept their imperfections, just like they may have to compromise on what they want with you.
 
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LittleMermaid

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I've heard of guys that won't date taller women or women who make more money than them. Also the opposite, women not dating shorter men or men who make less than they do.

Some of the most unfair expectations I've heard of is when the guy wants a virgin and he isn't one himself. Also, the guys that are divorced with kids and don't want a woman with kids. It's like why are you demanding something that you yourself cannot offer? :rolleyes:
 

Zan

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Well, you can't force someone to change what they want in their decisionmaking processes. The best thing you can do is save yourself the time of getting involved with someone who doesn't fit what you need.
 
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LittleMermaid

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Zan, brother, this isn't a complaining thread of me being upset for people having lists.
This is a fun and silly thread where we laugh at all the crazy expectations people have.
 

theanointedwinner

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Ruby123

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A woman at a church I once went to had a three page list of the characteristics and traits she wanted in her potential partner. To this day she is still single!!
 

Lynx

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Well of course she is! There's just too much competition from all those women who have only two requirements pages. :whistle:
 

17Bees

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Well of course she is! There's just too much competition from all those women who have only two requirements pages. :whistle:
HA! I'm not even a one pager. I"m more like a to-do list.
 

JustEli

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dang, I really want to say something witty, oh well, maybe later.
 
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LittleMermaid

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I do now. Sorry to waste your time.
I didn't mean it in a bad way, brother! I just wanted to explain a little more that the thread is supposed to be fun and not serious. More like laughing at the silly lists people make up. I'm sure you've seen some lists or demands people have that seemed bizarre.
 
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Hamarr

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Most of where I have seen this is in dating profiles. Usually something along the lines of "take me as I am" followed by a very long list of that they expect in a partner. I did see one the other day that was very particular. It was obvious this lady wanted to travel to a specific country, so her entire profile was setup around either finding a guy who is from this country, or wants to travel there. I don't think I have ever seen something that specific in a profile before.

I do see some of those "I'm x and deserve this list of 10-15 things in a future partner" posted on Facebook occasionally, too.
 

Godsgirl83

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This man is about 60+
He wants to have more kids. :ROFL:
Abraham was an old man (I think around 100) when he fathered Issac........ and don't give me the whole "people lived longer in those days, "blah blah lines because I personally know a few men who are in their 50's and 60's WHO ARE still fathering children (they are good christian men too, not just some guy running around womanizing.....)
 

Dino246

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A woman at a church I once went to had a three page list of the characteristics and traits she wanted in her potential partner. To this day she is still single!!
I recall seeing a Steve Harvey Show clip where a guest (female) had a very long list of non-negotiable requirements for a potential mate. I don't remember the details, but some of them were ridiculous, and SH made it clear he thought so.
 

TabinRivCA

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I have a friend who I suggested online dating to. She goes on a date and for some reason thinks the guy is instantly her boyfriend. Then she gets me involved on the phone asking him if he's her boyfriend. I like her as a friend, but had to take a break from being her pr person.
 

Subhumanoidal

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This thread idea came because I was talking to my friend earlier and she told me her father-in-law is looking for a lady. This man is about 60+ and is looking for a woman younger than 40. He wants to have more kids. :ROFL: He also doesn't want her to know how to drive. LOL this is so bizarre to me. But I will say this man lived in Iran most of his life. So he's not really accustomed to American women, I suppose?
Believe it or not, a year or two ago my 60 year old cousin married a 'early to mid-20's' Pakistani woman (they didn't have age records so her actual age is unknown). And, she's pregnant.
But in this case, he wasn't seeking that out, he was actually set up by others haha.

As far as having a list, i'd say have some things be requirements (no smoking, drinking, etc) and the rest? Well...
 

love_comes_softly

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Someone I work with literally won't date anyone that doesn't live by the beach or that won't cook for her.

It's kinda sad because she was told that she'd meet someone that filled those expectations, so she won't consider anyone if he doesn't meet those expectations.

I'm always amazed at how materialistic people's expectations and "lists" are. I would have thought hers would have been more realistic given she is 50.

To each their own.
 
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Stranger36147

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I just find it sad and unrealistic when people set their standards too high and want someone who looks super good looking. Like model good looking.


Don't get me wrong, I'm sure you want to be somewhat attracted to your partner at the very least. I completely understand that. But there's a lot of moderately attractive people or average looking people with great personalities and qualities who you might miss out on because you're too focused on outward appearance.


That's all I'm saying.