Hard to find worthwhile dates?

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Jordan9

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Perhaps it's just my town, but I find there is a real shortage of worthwhile girls.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to disparage the girls in my town. They're lovely and nice, but most of them are into flings, drunken pick-ups, one night stands, etc. It's extremely difficult to find a single girl who has a shred of morality.

Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places, or need to be more patient. But it's rough. Sometimes I wish I was down with "picking up." But I just can't, because I'm too in love with Jesus.

I'm reminded of Peter in John 6.

"You do not want to leave too, do you?" Jesus asked the Twelve.
Simon Peter answered him, "Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life." (6:66-67.)

Sometimes, being a Christian and being moral is rough, and I sometimes wish I could leave... Lol but as Peter said, Jesus is the truth, where can I go?
 
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Meridoc

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Relax be patient, God will bring the right girl at the right time.
 
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iraasuup

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Meriodic I love that Kitty.

Soooo cute!
 
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Meridoc

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hehe yea he is adorable
 
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BellaFlor

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Jordan9, just keep on waiting for God. You have nothing to loose. Many others at your age does a lot of things they truly regret for later, and that might also hurt and be painful for the one they meet to be their wife/husband in life. Those who waits upon the Lord will also be even more blessed. You might feel like you are a stranger and weird for many in the world, and also many Christians has started living like in the world, sadly...

But also keep in mind Psalm 119, 9: Where withal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed there to according to thy word.

Being Christian and Young isn´t a easy life, but think about how much harm and destructiveness you will avoid when you keep on walking with God and waiting patiently for His Timing? You win more by doing so, and also, you will become more blessed by waiting too. So many young people happen to fail and stumble away from God and the Truth, because they start wanting to get what the world has to offer, and they get lost in their youth´s law that is in this world.

Many thinks that while they are young they should have as much fun as what the world can offer, and once they become older they can get back to God. That´s just a pure lie from satan, and it still grieves me how much destruction satan can do to us and our most loved ones, even before meeting them, spreading out lies, and trying to deceive... To some faith is very low and it just happens to them, and with God´s Mercy they get free´d out and healed once they turn back to God and repent in time. To others faith is very high, and those of us that have that should still keep it high up! That way we earn our rewards made in heaven, for beleiving in and trusting in God the most.

So keep on going on in the Path God has for you, no matter what everyone thinks and says to you, what matters the most, it´s what God thinks and says! Keep the Faith, and walk on to Everlasting Glory! God bless you! :)
 

eugenius

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Perhaps it's just my town, but I find there is a real shortage of worthwhile girls.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to disparage the girls in my town. They're lovely and nice, but most of them are into flings, drunken pick-ups, one night stands, etc. It's extremely difficult to find a single girl who has a shred of morality.

Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places, or need to be more patient. But it's rough. Sometimes I wish I was down with "picking up." But I just can't, because I'm too in love with Jesus.

I'm reminded of Peter in John 6.

"You do not want to leave too, do you?" Jesus asked the Twelve.
Simon Peter answered him, "Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life." (6:66-67.)

Sometimes, being a Christian and being moral is rough, and I sometimes wish I could leave... Lol but as Peter said, Jesus is the truth, where can I go?
Young women everywhere are pretty much like this now a days. Not just your town. I already tried someone like that once. What a piece of work she turned out to be. She is now married and doesnt care about her child and is flirting with men other than her husband, and doesn't even hide the fact from him.

If you look for Christian girls you will filter out 90% of people like that. But of course I mean real Christians. Like the people at this site. Christians should not date non-christians. We expect too much morality from our partners and non-christians just cannot provide it.
 
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dustyzafu

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I imagine that, even though you're in love with Jesus, you've had dark times. If your perfect woman were to see you at your lowest, would it be right for her to permanently write you off as not worth her time? That's uncompassionate, legalistic, and faithless. In the Bible, God worked with all sorts of people - do you really think he can't handle the sexual proclivities of a weekend nympho?

The real problem is that you've put women into two classes: #1) potentially mine and #2) not good enough for me. I'm not saying sleep with them. I'm saying get off the pedestal and stop assigning people worth. It's not your job and it won't get you anywhere good.

Your bride will come. In the meanwhile, treat people like people, not cattle at the market.
 
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Jordan9

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I imagine that, even though you're in love with Jesus, you've had dark times. If your perfect woman were to see you at your lowest, would it be right for her to permanently write you off as not worth her time? That's uncompassionate, legalistic, and faithless. In the Bible, God worked with all sorts of people - do you really think he can't handle the sexual proclivities of a weekend nympho?

The real problem is that you've put women into two classes: #1) potentially mine and #2) not good enough for me. I'm not saying sleep with them. I'm saying get off the pedestal and stop assigning people worth. It's not your job and it won't get you anywhere good.

Your bride will come. In the meanwhile, treat people like people, not cattle at the market.
No, not at all! Lol I'm sorry, I must have been too vague. I am good friends with most of these girls (how else would I know what they were looking for? Unless I was assuming.) I don't think I'm sorting them into classes prior to meeting them or anything. I think I'm just being realistic, like eugenius said, "We expect too much morality from our partners and non-christians just cannot provide it."
 

Sharp

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The real problem is that you've put women into two classes: #1) potentially mine and #2) not good enough for me.
I don't see a problem with seeing people of the opposite gender this way (i.e. people that you're looking to get to know with the intent of starting a relationship).

We are under no obligation to choose a spouse based on any criteria except that which we come up with ourselves, and also that the person be a Christian, not unequally yoked.

Yes we should love the sinner, but that doesn't mean we can't be 'exclusive' in terms of who we will date or marry. The idea that electing not to pursue relationships with people who live wordly lifestyles is 'uncompassionate' as you say, I find to be highly objectionable. I don't think the obligation for a Christian to show compassion extends to dating and marriage. In this regard, I don't see a problem with "sorting" people into those which a person would marry and those which a person would not. You're choosing the person you will spend the rest of your life with, so I think a bit of selectiveness is in order.
 
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dustyzafu

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I don't see a problem with seeing people of the opposite gender this way (i.e. people that you're looking to get to know with the intent of starting a relationship).
My point was that people are people primarily, dating material second. If your first thought when seeing a woman is to evaluate her as a potential romantic partner or not worthwhile, I think this is problematic. That's what I sensed in his original post.

The idea that electing not to pursue relationships with people who live wordly lifestyles is 'uncompassionate' as you say, I find to be highly objectionable.
That was not my contention. My problem here was that he seemed to be judging people as worth his while based on whether or not they satisfy his dating criteria. A relationship with a woman shouldn't be solely about whether or not she's dating material. He's since responded to clarify that he doesn't write the person off completely, as it first seemed, so my objection has been satisfied.

Also, I made it clear that I wasn't suggesting that you be romantic with these folks; i.e. I'm not sure why you're arguing for selectiveness when I didn't argue against it.
 
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Dude be patient and keep yourself in one piece. God has some one for you!! Thats definitely a gal or you r intended by God to remain single!! Which is a gift.
 

eugenius

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Actually I think the only way you can know that God intends for you to remain single is by trying to date and seeing that it doesn't work out no matter what. If you do nothing you will never know. Thats my opinion.
 
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kiwi_OT

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I imagine that, even though you're in love with Jesus, you've had dark times. If your perfect woman were to see you at your lowest, would it be right for her to permanently write you off as not worth her time? That's uncompassionate, legalistic, and faithless. In the Bible, God worked with all sorts of people - do you really think he can't handle the sexual proclivities of a weekend nympho?

The real problem is that you've put women into two classes: #1) potentially mine and #2) not good enough for me. I'm not saying sleep with them. I'm saying get off the pedestal and stop assigning people worth. It's not your job and it won't get you anywhere good.

Your bride will come. In the meanwhile, treat people like people, not cattle at the market.

Hear hear!!!
 
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bruthanextdoor

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A pastor once said that dating is investigating the other person and another said that dating is practicing divorce.
 
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bruthanextdoor

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Serve in the local church and serve God. You will get to know a lot of folks and they will see you as a servant of God. Go about doing our Daddy business. He will provide for you and never forsake you like humans.
 
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buckeyegirl700

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Sometimes I feel like there are not a lot of whorthwhile guys to date where I live. Either I meet a guy who is caught up in living life without God, or I find a Christian guy who is arrogant, judgemental, and has high expectations for dating women. I am not saying that all Christain men are like this I am saying that the ones I meet are like this. I used to get all wrapped up in trying to find a perfect Christian boyfriend. Now I have came to the conclusion that if God wants me to be in a relationship, when it is time he will put that person in my life when I am ready.

Maybe God wants to prepare you, or your future girlfriend for each other.
 
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Dread_Zeppelin

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I find it ironic that if I walk into a classroom or a bar, guys are all over me. The minute I go to a church, I am ignored. Christians= very very picky.
 
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shrone

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jordan9..you are just 19. dont worry God will get you the right girl
 
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Matthew

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Perhaps it's just my town, but I find there is a real shortage of worthwhile girls.

Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places, or need to be more patient. But it's rough. Sometimes I wish I was down with "picking up." But I just can't, because I'm too in love with Jesus.

Sometimes, being a Christian and being moral is rough, and I sometimes wish I could leave... Lol but as Peter said, Jesus is the truth, where can I go?
I get that, I live in booze britain and your something close to a social oddity if you don't see the fun in getting wasted and having a one night stand with someone you wouldn't recognise if you saw them on the street the next day.
When I was young I wished I didn't feel the way I do because then I wouldn't be alone and I'd get along with so many more people, it's harder to be as we are, but it's also better.

I find it ironic that if I walk into a classroom or a bar, guys are all over me. The minute I go to a church, I am ignored. Christians= very very picky.
I was in a youth group when I was younger when I began to attend a different church with my only christian friend, it was more of a low church and so I expected it to be more relaxed and easier to make friends, but even though I was more like-minded with the young people there than any others I had ever known I really struggled to get to know anyone and it was hard to become involved because no-one really paid me any attention and didn't really respond when I tried to engage them.

I don't know if it's something to do with the character type of christians but I think it's odd that they were less sociable than everyone else when one of the main points of the group and the faith itself is to engage other people.