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I was married over 25 years and was suddenly without. I dated but being in my 50's every man I dated had a problem with me having kids still at home. (As if I needed a babysitter for almost-grown children) The last man made me feel like having kids at home was a plague or something and I lost all confidence in ever finding a man who could possibly care for me and my children. It is a very lonely and hopeless feeling. I have gone deeper into the Word and in spending time with the Lord. He is enough for me, nobody else can fill that empty spot. I have learned to get back into things I love (for me, knit and crochet) and enjoy my time without somebody. There is a lot one can do for others with the free time of being single. I still have lonely days. I've watched other people around me date and marry and I feel left out, but I have to get my focus back on Who is really taking care of me and meeting all my emotional needs.
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I've been there... it was at its worst when I was married and still felt that.
(so much baggage in so few words)
I stay active in a weekly ministry that meets Every Friday night (unless the roads are impassable or there is a tornado). These people are Seriously family to me. I also do work up at the church with a group *most* Monday nights. stack that on attending church 3x's a week and I don't have much time for lonely.
...but when it sets in, I know it is of the devil and I fight it as best I can. Sometimes, though, it takes owning the emotion for a while to work through it.
God's given me more reasons to be out and social lately, and that is a blessing indeed!
(so much baggage in so few words)
I stay active in a weekly ministry that meets Every Friday night (unless the roads are impassable or there is a tornado). These people are Seriously family to me. I also do work up at the church with a group *most* Monday nights. stack that on attending church 3x's a week and I don't have much time for lonely.
...but when it sets in, I know it is of the devil and I fight it as best I can. Sometimes, though, it takes owning the emotion for a while to work through it.
God's given me more reasons to be out and social lately, and that is a blessing indeed!
Have you seen this as being jealous?
You feel lonely because you are somewhat "left" and you wish (ed) to go with those who went on somewhere.
I don't know what your physical situation is but, the hermit me, have found solace in being alone inside crowds or alone, my tiny house (but I like more my house).
I wouldn't dislike to know why you felt alone when those went away with those who picked them out. That sounded, to me, as childish, as if you were really younger, like a teenager and probably you are alone when you're left alone your place, your room, whereever you are.
I'm just sharing this as my impression. I don't want to hurt you by any offense, but I liked this as something good I can "see" inside you pouring out for recognition (I could be wrong, but I don't mind being wrong all the time, and alone).
You feel lonely because you are somewhat "left" and you wish (ed) to go with those who went on somewhere.
I don't know what your physical situation is but, the hermit me, have found solace in being alone inside crowds or alone, my tiny house (but I like more my house).
I wouldn't dislike to know why you felt alone when those went away with those who picked them out. That sounded, to me, as childish, as if you were really younger, like a teenager and probably you are alone when you're left alone your place, your room, whereever you are.
I'm just sharing this as my impression. I don't want to hurt you by any offense, but I liked this as something good I can "see" inside you pouring out for recognition (I could be wrong, but I don't mind being wrong all the time, and alone).
It might spare you a couple of things but, being almost a true hermit, I know I have missed a couple of things out.
If you have a look on this "story" I wrote, you could see some few important things I was missing, because LIFE does not spin around people's selfishness or hurt ideas, we all need a balance (and, by time, we all are going to be left all alone sometime).
If you have a look on this "story" I wrote, you could see some few important things I was missing, because LIFE does not spin around people's selfishness or hurt ideas, we all need a balance (and, by time, we all are going to be left all alone sometime).
I can relate, Abbey. Actually, in my case, many are married... It's kind of strange and a long story on my part, but all that aside, I can relate. Romance movies do the same thing to me, actually. It's sort of sweet and wistful at first, but then the contrast and memories/old feelings come back to haunt me. It ends up being sad and a bit painful, so I try to avoid such movies, lol.
Anyway...that was cheerful. ^^0 Hang in there, Lady. Everything's gonna be alright.
[video=youtube;Ty57Lghld8Y]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ty57Lghld8Y[/video]
Anyway...that was cheerful. ^^0 Hang in there, Lady. Everything's gonna be alright.
[video=youtube;Ty57Lghld8Y]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ty57Lghld8Y[/video]
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