How Do you Cope with Anxiety of Being Single ?

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I was wondering if anyone had the anxiety or has faced the loneliness of being single and ageing more ?
 

Tinkerbell725

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Acceptance, contentment and delicious food are the ways to cope with anxiety of being single.
 

Lynx

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How do I cope with it? I have fun with it!

For example: I recently bought a bike and put an electric front wheel on it to help me up hills. I intend to use it to commute to work, which is 15 miles away from my house, more often than I plan to use my car. If I had a wife she would currently be freaking out about this.

Anxiety is caused by wishing you had something and worrying that you may never get it. Loneliness is mostly caused by being bored. Both can be alleviated... not completely solved, but toned down at least...with a perspective shift.
 

maxwel

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I don't have anxiety.

But I think I give anxiety to others.

: )
 

Lynx

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I don't have anxiety.

But I think I give anxiety to others.

: )
I don't have high blood pressure myself... I'm just a carrier. Everybody around me seems to get high blood pressure for some strange reason...
 

egeiro

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I was wondering if anyone had the anxiety or has faced the loneliness of being single and ageing more ?
Dude, you are still in your twenties. You're still a spring chicken.

I think a good way to fight anxiety of being single is to be thankful for what you do have and treat every moment as a gift. You can do powerful and amazing things as a single person and as a married person.

I got married five months ago and as amazing as married life is, being married isn't a fixed problem to my singleness issue. It's a beautiful point in life, but it's part of a larger story and every chapter has an opportunity to say something beautiful.

Appreciating what you do have fills the void of missing what you don't have. Looking at a greater purpose as opposed to your relationship status will fulfill you in so many better ways than fearing singleness.

I think as people we often think that meeting a certain stage in life or certain age or achieving a certain position is going to tip the scales in life and take all the bad stuff away. But it doesn't. I think we just need to make every moment count in the circumstance we are present in.
 

Dino246

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What is this "anxiety" thing you speak of?
 

Ruthwashere

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I can only speak from my personal experiences. I hated it at first. It seemed everyone was coupled and happy except me. I had love but not a "I want the best for you kind of love." It wasn't until Christ invited me into a personal relationship with HIM that I discovered love, contentment, maturity and what it meant to be a servant. I was self-focused and HE transformed me to be Christ-focused. It was a process and it was with tears. But over time, I discovered that although I had normal desires to date and eventually "remarry" I came to KNOW this God who created me on a more intimate level and REALIZED His best is better than my best. SO I hope in the waiting, you are serving the LORD and allowing the spiritual gifts He's given you to advance His Kingdom. May you meditate on Psalm 37::1-7 and allow HIS Son to shine through you and draw other to the LIGHT and Hope that we have. In Jesus' name, Amen! In reference to the anxiety, I hope that you have strong Christian friendships to pray with you and to challenge you in HIs Word. If not, start a bible study with likeminded people on Waiting on the Lord in the single season. There are tons of studies out there to feed your season of life. NOTHING will satisfy like being in the Word of God and allowing HIS truth to meet the places not yet filled. May YOU TRUST in the Lord and do good! Love in Christ, a big sister who cares!
 

Edwin3

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I have to concur with many of the thoughts already given. It is easy to miss the joy and privileges of the present while worrying about the future. Also being single can help you to spend quality time with God like no other phase of life can. However, I also have to say from personal experience that being single can be very lonely and lopsided if you don't put forth special effort to form real relationships. If all your current friends have married and don't have time for you anymore, look around for opportunities to form new relationships that include both opportunities to mentor those younger than you as well as opportunities to be mentored by those older than you. Having a network of friends who are passionate about Christian service can go a long way! Here is a link to a list of additional ideas that I came across https://bit.ly/2giQqtU that might be helpful. I know it can be tough being single (I turned 40 last year), but if you keep an open mind and continue pushing forward you can have a positive impact in the world and be an anchor point for those around you. It's a bit amusing to have my married friends now confiding in me how much they wish they were single. Perspective and hope can make a big difference whatever your walk of life. I certainly don't have it all figured out yet, but I wish you joy and hope in the journey. Maybe if us single people would band together and lead the way, we could encourage our communities to be more supportive of people in all walks of life!
 

AuntieAnt

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I don't have anxiety of being single. I have anxiety of not being single minded. What I mean is, I wouldn't want to be in a romantic relationship that doesn't also afford personal space, individuality and peace of mind. I thrive in my alone times with God, and any man I'd date would have to want that for himself, too.
 

EarnestQ

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This post is to get this thread on my subscribed threads list.