How to identify the right partner for love among your female friends?

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Stranger36147

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Get them all together and play "Eeny, meeny, miny, moe" with them. Whoever is "it", that'll be the one for you for sure.
 
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There is no one answer. People are different. The way they interact is different. What God may or may not want is different.

Some basic concepts would be that you are on the same page in important areas such as having children, how to raise them, spiritual beliefs and even a similar spiritual maturity. Lifestyle interests. Are you both homebodies or do you like to go out a lot. Figure out what you are unwilling to bend on and what you are more flexible with. What about smoking? Drinking?
But be more focused on what you Don't want than what you do. What you want or enjoy can grow in ways you can't imagine. What you don't like won't drastically change.
 

jameen

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Any Christian here give me an advice about this issue especially according to their good experience thanks.
 

Noose

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It is very difficult to marry a friend and the main reason being the normal mutual respect friends have. That kind respect usually comes with great fear of disappointing the friend.
Whereas marriage/dating comes with a 'hit and miss' kind of characterization. You fall in love but you don't really know if they feel the same about you- so you make up your mind and try, if it goes through, well and good, if it doesn't, you move on.

It is never wise to keep a lady as a friend for so long, when the friendship respects settles, it would too much of a heartbreak to disappoint her and always the thought of loosing a friend would be great and weigh you down when it comes to making the decision of moving from friendship to a relationship.

Though friends have married- it is so much possible, the reason they succeed is that it happened they felt the same for each other for so long.
You can try but the good advice is always- make known your intentions from the word go.
 

Tinkerbell725

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Choose the one you can't live without ,the one that makes you want to be a better person, the one that you can't stop thinking about and the one with the same values like you. I think its easy for men to know who. The only problem is if she does'nt feel the same way about you.
 

Lynx

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Well first you can exclude the women who are already married...

From the remaining women you know, pick one and good luck!
 
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There are no rules no methods no tips I could give other than this. Seek Ye first His kingdom. Seek God. Don’t go looking for a wife. God will send her when u are ready for her and vice versa. Blessings
 
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LaVieEnRose

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If you have to ask us, I’d say “none of the above”. I mean, if one girl out of your crew is just the same as another- then that bodes ill for romance. It sounds like they are interchangeable, so look for a woman you find irresistable.
 

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There are no rules no methods no tips I could give other than this. Seek Ye first His kingdom. Seek God. Don’t go looking for a wife. God will send her when u are ready for her and vice versa. Blessings
If you're married please narrate to me how you met your prudent wife.

I never disagree that God gives a righteous man a righteous wife but it does not mean that you will not do anything.

of course you need to introduce yourself to her and befriend her and show your good qualities on her in order for her to fall in you.

it is like God provides for your needs but it does not mean that money/food/drinks will come down from heaven. you need to work for it and God will give you a satisfying life where you will feel that you don't lack anything.
 

Lynx

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Jameen I get the strong impression you are in love with the idea of being married. That is the wrong reason to get married. Well... one of the many wrong reasons. Wait until there is an actual PERSON you are in love with, somebody you love so much you can't imagine being without her... THEN start thinking about getting married. Being married just for the sake of not being alone is a great way to wind up with a terrible marriage. If you never meet the girl you can't live without, well... a life alone is much better than a life with a wife you find out you can't tolerate.

If you have to ask us, I’d say “none of the above”. I mean, if one girl out of your crew is just the same as another- then that bodes ill for romance. It sounds like they are interchangeable, so look for a woman you find irresistable.
Yeah, this.
 
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If you're married please narrate to me how you met your prudent wife.

I never disagree that God gives a righteous man a righteous wife but it does not mean that you will not do anything.

of course you need to introduce yourself to her and befriend her and show your good qualities on her in order for her to fall in you.

it is like God provides for your needs but it does not mean that money/food/drinks will come down from heaven. you need to work for it and God will give you a satisfying life where you will feel that you don't lack anything.
I’m a godly woman who’s met many ungodly men that Satan sent my way. The more I tried the more demonic things became. Think about it. People come into our lives everyday. The bible says if u are friendly you will have friends however there’s a big difference between doing things in the spirit and in the flesh. If u feel you need to work at finding love then by all means go for it. Cause in my opinion that’s works and you’ll surely find trouble. If God wanted to he could send u your wife to live next door to u if he wanted. I’m serious. But maybe none have come your way cause u aren’t ready. You don’t want to make things happen in the flesh like Abraham did with Ishmael. Seriously. The bible says seek Ye first the kingdom of god then all these things shall be added to u. Learn from my mistakes or go make your own. Your choice. But I hope u realise this. That u can find a marriage made in heaven until u first marry Christ. God won’t send us a spouse while we are still dating Jesus and not ready to fully be in Christ 100% and that takes time. Let patience have its perfect work. The devil is always in a hurry. And judging from your angry reply I’d say u feel a bit convicted and are still wanting to rush ahead of God. Jesus said his yoke is easy and his burden is light. You don’t actually need to work at God. In fact the only hard thing about walking with God is dying to self. Hugs
 

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Jameen I get the strong impression you are in love with the idea of being married. That is the wrong reason to get married. Well... one of the many wrong reasons. Wait until there is an actual PERSON you are in love with, somebody you love so much you can't imagine being without her... THEN start thinking about getting married. Being married just for the sake of not being alone is a great way to wind up with a terrible marriage. If you never meet the girl you can't live without, well... a life alone is much better than a life with a wife you find out you can't tolerate.


Yeah, this.
If you married a Godly woman then please tell me your story how did you know her/courted her and soon married her.

so I will have an idea about How does God really give a man a prudent wife.
 
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If you married a Godly woman then please tell me your story how did you know her/courted her and soon married her.

so I will have an idea about How does God really give a man a prudent wife.
Lynx is so right
 

Oncefallen

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If you married a Godly woman then please tell me your story how did you know her/courted her and soon married her.

so I will have an idea about How does God really give a man a prudent wife.
I hope you realize that if you were to ask 200 happily married couples how they met, etc. you would probably get 150 different answers.

My parents met through mutual friends, Jesuslives and Tourist met here on CC, an old friend of mine and his wife met when he worked at a feed store where her parents were customers, My sister and her husband met on a christian chat room, some meet at church or other ministry related activities, others meet at bible college, the list could go on forever.
 
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I hope you realize that if you were to ask 200 happily married couples how they met, etc. you would probably get 150 different answers.

My parents met through mutual friends, Jesuslives and Tourist met here on CC, an old friend of mine and his wife met when he worked at a feed store where her parents were customers, My sister and her husband met on a christian chat room, some meet at church or other ministry related activities, others meet at bible college, the list could go on forever.
I personally think it’s best to meet your spouse at the train station. Lol
 

garet82

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I think by praying and also whom you feel comfortable n happy when you talk with her.