I Can Make a Killer Grilled Cheese (the Secret Super Powers of Singles.)

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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Hey Everyone!!

What things has God enabled you to do or has shown you that you can do while you've been single?

What I mean is, are there things you now know about yourself or have experienced or done while you've been single that you might not have learned if you had had a significant other the whole time?

For myself, I've tried many different things--traveling to other countries, visiting family, participating in volunteer work at prisons, a war veteran's hospital, homeless shelters, and am going to Ukraine this fall to work in orphanages for a few weeks... and I would have never known I were capable of doing any of of this on my own if God had not pushed me into being single. (It was not something I wanted at all, God definitely had to kick out all my crutches from under me.)

What are you most proud of and thankful for that God has empowered you to do as a single person? I'm proud that I can navigate through airports and so forth on my own... but I'm most proud of the fact that I am overcoming (it's still a process) the fear of eating in a restaurant by myself--HUGE accomplishment for me.

Now I still have to conquer a Friday night alone at the movie theater...

How about you? Tell us about some of your super secret skills as a single... and maybe some things you're afraid of and need some encouragement to try.
 
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mickimadness

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Well, I had a relationship for about six months last year (I know, very short if I compare it with the rest of my life). When my boyfriend broke up with me, I felt a bit lost because we used to go places together.

A few weeks ago I went down the main street by myself. I had no choice - one half of my friends were at Uni and the other half I couldn't get in contact with. I went into a coffee shop and bought a drink and a cookie, and sat in the park by myself. It was kind of lonely, but I really enjoyed the time that I had by myself...if that makes any sense.

Next year I'm moving an hour away from home to be closer to Uni when I start. It's kind of scary, because it's a girls boarding place, and I don't know ANYONE going there. But in some strange way, I'm looking forward to it because of the independence I'll have.

I've made a big thing about lunch at work. If I am sitting in the staff room eating lunch with someone I haven't met before, I go and talk to them. I know, it's weird, but I never had the confidence to do that before when I still had a boyfriend. :D Yay for confidence!
 
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SamIam

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I have no idea what mine are yet... but believe me. i have yeaaaaaaaars upon yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaars upon yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaars (basically till i die) to figure that out.
 
grace

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I have realized just how truly strong I am!
 
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MusicalMe

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Since I've been single, i've learned I can start and reply to threads on the Singles forums
 
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missy2shoes

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SamIam said:
I have no idea what mine are yet... but believe me. i have yeaaaaaaaars upon yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaars upon yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaars (basically till i die) to figure that out.
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Hahahaha Sam this cracked me up :p :D

Love the title of this thread....makes me hungry......
 
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Nicsk101

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seoulsearch said:
Hey Everyone!!

What things has God enabled you to do or has shown you that you can do while you've been single?

What I mean is, are there things you now know about yourself or have experienced or done while you've been single that you might not have learned if you had had a significant other the whole time?

For myself, I've tried many different things--traveling to other countries, visiting family, participating in volunteer work at prisons, a war veteran's hospital, homeless shelters, and am going to Ukraine this fall to work in orphanages for a few weeks... and I would have never known I were capable of doing any of of this on my own if God had not pushed me into being single. (It was not something I wanted at all, God definitely had to kick out all my crutches from under me.)

What are you most proud of and thankful for that God has empowered you to do as a single person? I'm proud that I can navigate through airports and so forth on my own... but I'm most proud of the fact that I am overcoming (it's still a process) the fear of eating in a restaurant by myself--HUGE accomplishment for me.

Now I still have to conquer a Friday night alone at the movie theater...

How about you? Tell us about some of your super secret skills as a single... and maybe some things you're afraid of and need some encouragement to try.
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Well... I think thats awesome that you're able to enjoy yourself by Yourself... I know that many people say that they would never do this or that alone.. But the fact of the matter is we're never really alone. I remember the first time I went to the movies by myself.. and it ROCKED! I was still laughing and enjoyed myself as I would if other people were with me..
Being Single has empowered me to look to God and its actually forced me to go directly to Him as far as my problems and everything else that concerns me. i'm also discovering that I'm capable of doing ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING that God has for me... The sky is not even the limit anymore... I can go farrrrrr beyond that.
 
taggerung

taggerung

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i can dye my hair, or get a tattoo without having to get the approval of my boyfriend or husband lol
 
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GodIsMightyToSave

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I love being single, probably because I'm in the exploration season of my life, love-wise. I guess it's different for people who have been in a deep relationship or may still feel committed to their last relationship.

I think God gives us the right seasons and the right times - like you said! You got to do so many things... and it's probably to do with the fact you're older and more mature, too. I doubt that you would be able to receive the same opportunities the way you have if you were single and younger. So I humbly and patiently wait for God's time - the only time that is perfect.
 
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BettyFuLL

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I just came from a break up of a three-year relationship. It really devastated me... And guess what, that was really the time when my eyes were opened towards God... That was the time when the light was shone upon my heart, and I had realized how great is God... Though I was in pain, God gave me the strength to continue and move on, and though I am hurting still, I was able to see the beauty of having a closer relationship with Jesus Christ...

As a single, it was my first time to join a Christian fellowship ministry, alone... It was a great experience, because I was asked to introduce myself and tell them who invited me in the fellowship... There were other two newcomers besides me, and I have no one to name as someone who invited me there! I just came to know about that ministry through the internet, when I realized that it was a Friday night, and I don't want to feel the "lonely Friday blues"...
 
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Kyra

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Seoulsearch you rock! I love the part about hitting restaurants solo! I also had to conquer that fear. I've picked up savy on cars, learned how to use tools around the house and can wield a rototiller like a pro! lol





 
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dietolive

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I Can get Closer To God!
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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Kyra said:
Seoulsearch you rock! I love the part about hitting restaurants solo! I also had to conquer that fear. I've picked up savy on cars, learned how to use tools around the house and can wield a rototiller like a pro! lol
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(I now have secret plans to try to convince Kyra to come to my house and rototiller my weed patch, er... yard... :). And afterward we can go out to a killer restaurant!!)
 
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Narn

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I discovered that I am a really really horribly boring person. That an evening spent creating a spreadsheet is exciting... or going to bed early.
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Narn said:
I discovered that I am a really really horribly boring person. That an evening spent creating a spreadsheet is exciting... or going to bed early.
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Hey, spreadsheets can be very cool... and being able to gather, sort, and organize information is definitely attractive, not boring (not to mention a valuable work skill.)

And there's nothing wrong with going to bed early! I myself have always been a morning person... but in order to get up at 5:30 in the morning... yes... one generally has to go to bed early. No shame in that! (They need to start early-morning social places and events for us early birds.)
 
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Narn

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seoulsearch said:
(They need to start early-morning social places and events for us early birds.)
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Hey! yeah we could be pioneers in the early morning clubs!
But knowing me I would never Go lol
 
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christiancollegegirl

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I'm a go to bed late get up late kind of girl. I'll get up late if I have to, but that doesn't mean I'll like it.
 
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Leilaii425

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Ive been able to be even more rude to people than usual since being single...
 
J0Y

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ok ummm, my list:
1) I can check the oil and water in my car
2) I can change a tyre
3) I can change the oil and filter in my car - - - hmm, that reminds me, I need to do that....
4) I have 'blocks' in which to drive up on to change the oil too (no trolley though....)
5) I have owned a sports car
6) my Dad is a bit of a 'Mr Fixit' I think I have a lil of that myself...
7) I can pack up and go anywhere, at anytime for any period! (subject to Uni commitments at present tho)
8) Im ok with grocery shopping on my own...(infact, I prefer it!)
9) I have lived in various places around NZ - just up and went....
10) I have lived cross-culturally as a missionary which was a HUGE mission and faith stretching experience! God really did sustain me when I was out there all alone!
11) I have served on short-term mission trips
12) I can live as a skint student and do Uni
13) I have negotiated many an airport, taxi, bus etc on my own
14) I have survived a miltary coup with God's assurance!
15) I have the ability to be there for friends if needed cos of being unattached.
16) I have been free enough to support a friend through family violence/Womans Refuge/ separation and just recently - divorce.
17) I have the ability to say - ok God, wherever you want me I CAN go...nothing holding me back!
18) I have toured NZ and the South Pacific for a year in a band....something I wouldnt do if I was attached
19) and maybe one of the important points - I spend my own money and dont have to justify it! (not that I have much at the moment anyway!) LOL
20) there is a continual process of refinement....where you are still adjusting to being ok in your own skin and a significant other does NOT define you.

and I think that about completes the list. I wouldnt go to the movies on my own cos I want to share the experience. I still find it hard to go to functions on my own. I struggle with 'couple' meals or just 'couple' environments. Im beginning to accept that all my close friends are breeding at the moment and they are entering a new phase of their life I cant share in.
 
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