As for me the best way I've found to have people believe that I'm not interested in becoming non-single, is to live in a state of mind that's almost completely oblivious to the idea that anyone could consider me as a possibility for a relationship.
I've asked myself the question whether or not it's pointless for me to constantly mention that I'm single and that I want to keep it that way. I think I somewhat asked that question on the Singles Forum as well, but not specifically in those words. The deal is that if you keep repeating something, you most certainly look as though you are actually avoiding something. I suppose I will have to keep this in mind.
At the risk of stepping on some toes here, a lot of your posts have sounded rather frustrated and angry and maybe partly because of that I have a hard time believing that you are single because you want to be single. I'm more getting the impression that you're single because you absolutely positively don't want to be in a relationship ever ever again. And that's the difference between running after a goal and running away from something. Now I could be completely wrong in my impression, but I would suggest that if I'm getting that impression others are too.
I wish these people would ask questions instead of making assumptions. That's what people do, though; they assume first and ask later. Anyway, if I explain into detail why I don't actually want to have a relationship instead of running from one, maybe it will make more sense to the other people on here who think that I'm just like them? 🤔 (All this thinking and I'm about to head to bed....) 😑😪
There were people on here who sent me private messages because they wanted to flirt with me. I'm not the first female to go through that, so maybe that's another reason why I'm so defensive in the Singles Forum. Now it's not so much an issue because I disabled that feature, so the only people I feel safe having PM me are the people I'm following. All is good.
To make a long story short, all my life I have hated being touched by other people. This includes all forms of touch, and very rarely can I handle being hugged at all, but sometimes I can. Even handshakes are bothersome for me. In order to have a romantic partnership, you would have to at least
be open to the idea of someone having physical contact with you on a daily basis. This is why it turns out that, hey, romantic partnerships really aren't for me because this is the last thing I want. It's one thing for someone to be abused and to deal with the trauma of abuse, but to hate handshakes? Nah, there has to be something else wrong with a person to have that sort of issue. I cringe if I have to shake someone's hand and there are times when it really freaks me out. There were many times in my life that I could have dated and had relationships with guys, but I didn't. I dated once in high school and when I figured out that the relationship is going to require me accepting frequent physical contact, that's when I realized that it is not tolerable for me to have that in my life. Now that I'm 27, I'm still the same, and time has ingrained it into my mind that the last thing I want is a partner because of the daily physical contact. I've been this way for years.
Basically, I'm a touch-me-not, and nobody wants to date or have a romantic relationship with a touch-me-not. ... If there is anyone like that, I can't say I know why.
What I do
wish I had is a non-romantic bond with a person who feels like a mother. I don't want to have intercourse with anyone, no matter if I'm married or not. There are times if I wonder if I even have the right to make this decision for myself, since I am a Christian. Is it expected of women to get married and possibly have kids if they are Christian? This is unclear to me. There is a fellow on YouTube who makes videos, encouraging single Christian women to get married, and even explains why most Christian woman are supposed to get married. 😐 ... Hey, I have no idea.
So yeah, I apologize, but I took something to help me sleep, so this may make little to no sense. Typing this makes me feel very stupid. I apologize upfront if this post is not lucid enough. Rest assured, what I ultimately want is to avoid sex and excess physical contact. This even includes my parents, and as much as I love them, even pats on the back or hand touching or arm touching or someone even touching my hair -- I absolutely hate this. It's barely tolerable and it's been like this my whole life.
, this is so hard to type. I hope I make some sort of sense. 😴