Hey Everyone, After being called a Gold Digger in one of the threads... it made me laugh a little and got me thinking... what have your experiences been with this? Do you have friends who have been gold diggers? Have you confronted them? Are you a reformed, remorseful, or repentant digger? Has someone "digged"/ "dug" on you? How did you handle it it/address it/stop it as a Christian? How would you handle it if you found someone always asking you for money or favors? Most of you out there already know my sad story of being dug as a mother for an alcoholic's two children so I won't repeat myself... let's hear about YOUR experiences and thoughts! Grab that shovel, "dig" out your stories and share them with us!
I'm not trying to sound strange, but I do think men, especially non-Christians (and of course, some Christian ones as well) have the mentality that women are expensive things to be bought... and the more money they spend, the more they'll get out of the relationship (thanks to the strip club mentality--the more I pay, the more she'll spend time with me... the more intimate she'll get with me, etc. NOT just with sex but with emotions and "closeness"--the more I spend, the more attached she'll be to me, the more she'll adore me...) I'm NOT saying all guys are like this at all!! But I do think some even well-meaning guys, especially older, feel as if money is their security ("maybe she won't notice I'm not the best-looking or that I'm not as talented as the next guy if I keep shelling out the dough.") I told this story once before... I was at work and this OLDER guy (probably 70--no joke) said he wish I'd "follow him home like a little puppy." He said, "I would buy you jewels, furs, cars..." And I said, "Sir, as you can see, I have a JOB. Anything I need or want, I can work for it myself." He looked at me like I'd slapped him. 