Online long distance relationships - the pros and cons

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Robertt

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Well as I said I don’t ask for it expect forgiveness . I don t claim to be a Christian certainly my acts show my faith.is lacking . No fear of God sadly . And that is the beginning of wisdom and I show I lack wisdom in all I do

One day I may find the God of my prayers and maybe He will give me new birth

But before that I need to somehow believe in the One and due to sin in my life I have a wall that I can’t see through or hear .

So yes people pray fir me or bash me . Whichever your God leads you to do

In the end onky Gid knows what is truly in my heart . I want to find him but I struggle with belief . Seems so many here believe and that is great .I wish I had that same belief . I only hope in God , not believe

I hurt my ex wives by not being able to accept them as they are . So now I am with a women of different faith , she believes in her God more than I do in mine . So perhaps she can teach me how to find belief

Until then I only can hope
 

Lanolin

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human trafficking comes to mind when discussing online relationships.

Did you know that some people get paid to go in chatrooms and chat up strangers, the more they are online the more money they can get from them.
 
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Arent you the same one who said anyone not following Christ by default is following Satan? So its a choice for you to follow the world. I think your bible knowledge is sound but for some reason you choose not to apply it to your life?
I tried to help you supporting your Christian walk but to no avail and it doesnt help you that you are your biggest stumbling block.
You expect others to always pray or do for you while you do nothing.
Youre with a muslim lady now. You met her, had sex with her on first meeting, now you are dating her or so the story goes. She probably had no idea you were with me because you would have kept that a secret to get the carnal.
So you are her problem now. 👍She can deal with your history of lies, deception and contradictions as you made your bed you lay in it.
 
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I hope that the person you're referencing hasn't come to be representative of Christian men and online dating in general, but I deeply sympathize with the obvious pain you have here. My prayers are with you!

That being said, as a Christian man, I was in an online relationship with someone in Vietnam (VN) for about 1 year before I actually went there to meet her. I went all out, too. Quit my job, left my family, friends, and left my firmly-rooted life in the USA on nothing more than a wing and a prayer. I worked in VN as an English teacher and enjoyed it, but ultimately I was legally required to come back to the USA. I'm still trying to recover.

Remember something, love never fails. That's how you'll know true love. God bless.
So what happened when you got to VN? Did you meet her? Was she different? You have me on the edge of my seat. (Sorry if you've already answered this is the thread, i'm just replying as i'm reading this)
 
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I hope that the person you're referencing hasn't come to be representative of Christian men and online dating in general, but I deeply sympathize with the obvious pain you have here. My prayers are with you!

That being said, as a Christian man, I was in an online relationship with someone in Vietnam (VN) for about 1 year before I actually went there to meet her. I went all out, too. Quit my job, left my family, friends, and left my firmly-rooted life in the USA on nothing more than a wing and a prayer. I worked in VN as an English teacher and enjoyed it, but ultimately I was legally required to come back to the USA. I'm still trying to recover.

Remember something, love never fails. That's how you'll know true love. God bless.
You gave it your best shot that's for sure.
 
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As the resident fuddy duddy it is my duty to say:

This seems like something for private message, not for a forum thread where we all gather to bash Robertt.

Or perhaps it is a matter to take up with a moderator.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not taking Robertt's side, or anyone's side, on anything. I'm just thinking maybe we shouldn't be bashing him like this.
I tend to agree with your position.
 

Runningman

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So what happened when you got to VN? Did you meet her? Was she different? You have me on the edge of my seat. (Sorry if you've already answered this is the thread, i'm just replying as i'm reading this)
I had arranged in advance to get an apartment in Vietnam. So when I finally got there I took a taxi from the airport to my address. When I got there she was waiting for me.

I started working shortly after that teaching English to children. She was basically the person I expected her to be when I got there, but didn’t take long for things to change. I was prepared for the cultural differences, but I wasn’t prepared to be walking on egg shells most of the time so to speak.

I would characterize her personality as more authoritarian, but that isn’t who I fell in love with. I got to a point where I was in one of those catch-22 situations where if even I was doing my best I was still not good enough or if I withdrew that was a problem too.

I eventually had some visa/residency issues even though I paid a lot of money to get the paperwork required to be a resident. I ended up with no paperwork, lost my money, then I was sent back from whence I came.

Overall an unfortunate situation, but I learned things I probably couldn’t have learned unless I experienced this difficult failure.
 
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Time to save some money and do something else crazy within the next year, or so, Lord willing. 😁😆
I have always believed that life is an adventure, regardless of the circumstances. Your experience is quite interesting. I'm sure you learned a few life lessons on this portion of your journey.