Only dating one person your entire life and having them be your life partner

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Auchin

Auchin

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luke15chick said:
A friend of mine once said the hazard of dating one person and marrying that person is that you might wonder from time to time, what would have happened if I had dated others, might I have found a different person that suited me better, that had qualities x, y and z or more of them? I believe that with us females we might tend to think in that direction, when conflict arises with that one person we married. I believe dating around helps prevent divorce, considering divorce happens in 50% of marriages, because by dating around a person finds out what helps in making a relationship works, what hinders and also what traits in a person they do and don't want as well as which ones a person can easily ignore and which ones can't be ignored.
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That is a LIE
do you not know that in the bible,
fornication happens BEFORE adulterary
so if 1 never fornicates 1 will not committ adultiary,
look at that from a biblical sence b4 you give some1 miss leading advice again please
 
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Emily

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well to give an answer to the whole star trek thing and moving to Australia, I'm not gonna do that.Lol. Whoever came up with that? :)
 
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Baptistrw

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Auchin said:
That is a LIE
do you not know that in the bible,
fornication happens BEFORE adulterary
so if 1 never fornicates 1 will not committ adultiary,
look at that from a biblical sence b4 you give some1 miss leading advice again please
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Your post makes no sense to the post you responded to. I actually found that advice helpful, you probably misunderstood it.
 
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Baptistrw

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Emily said:
well to give an answer to the whole star trek thing and moving to Australia, I'm not gonna do that.Lol. Whoever came up with that? :)
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I could see you going Princess Leia.
 
jaylynn83

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Emily said:
well to give an answer to the whole star trek thing and moving to Australia, I'm not gonna do that.Lol. Whoever came up with that? :)
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come on... why not lol That was good advice!
 
Auchin

Auchin

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Baptistrw said:
Your post makes no sense to the post you responded to. I actually found that advice helpful, you probably misunderstood it.
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I understood it she was saying to date around (fornicate)
 
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Baptistrw

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Auchin said:
I understood it she was saying to date around (fornicate)
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That's not what dating around means. It means to go out with different people and does NOT mean anything sexual. You might wanna ask for clairity before jumping to conclusions and making foolish accusations against someone.
 
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luke15chick

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To clarify my previous comment since it seems to be unclear. When I said date around, I did not mean sexual activity, the dictionary definition of date is the following: a social appointment, engagement, or occasion arranged beforehand with another person: to go out on a date on Saturday night. 8.a person with whom one has such a social appointment or engagement: Can I bring a date to the party?
I did not mean for any of this to occur after one is married. I meant for this to occur previous to marriage to aide in the mate finding process.
 
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Emily

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why would I go to a star trek meeting to meet a guy? God will bring the right one in His own timing. I don't have to go Looking for someone to date.
 
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Emily

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maybe I shouldn't have broughten this topic up because it seems to be confusing to some or frustrating
 
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Emily

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all I know is God is in control and He will do what He wants. I don't have to worry about how many guys I've dated or have not dated.
 
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Baptistrw

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Emily said:
why would I go to a star trek meeting to meet a guy? God will bring the right one in His own timing. I don't have to go Looking for someone to date.
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Well, there is human responsibility to go along with God's sovereignty.
 
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Emily

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yes but I don't know what you mean? I am responsible with making friends with a guy and that friendship will last a long time before we ever decide to date. I think people try to rush things to often and they don't take the time to really get to know the person
 
MahogonySnail

MahogonySnail

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I agree it is hard to get to know a person when they are dressed in a Darth Vader suit.
 
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Compassion

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I have only dated one guy, and I am still dating him :) We have been dating for about 5 years. We have definately had our issues....and don't plan on marrying anytime soon lol.
 
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Baptistrw

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Emily said:
yes but I don't know what you mean? I am responsible with making friends with a guy and that friendship will last a long time before we ever decide to date. I think people try to rush things to often and they don't take the time to really get to know the person
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That means that you can't just sit at home and expect Mr. Right to come knocking on your door.
 
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LynnJ

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I have held a high standard for the one I would decide to marry. One of my mottos has been, *I'd rather be single than settle.* But for me, trying to find someone who had never dated before was irrelevant. I wanted someone who loves the Lord and loves me. Then I left it in God's hands, and He brought me that person.
 
jaylynn83

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LynnJ said:
I have held a high standard for the one I would decide to marry. One of my mottos has been, *I'd rather be single than settle.* But for me, trying to find someone who had never dated before was irrelevant. I wanted someone who loves the Lord and loves me. Then I left it in God's hands, and He brought me that person.
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I couldnt agree with you more.......... I settled once, got married. And i think that was the biggest mistake of my life, I never prayed about it and asked god, if i would have i know he would have given me a resounding NO lol Me and him are no longer married, he decided that marriage wasnt for him. So i urge you to take your time.... be picky, pray pray pray about it. definantly take your time
 
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LynnJ

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I'm sorry for the grief that you have suffered from your broken marriage, but God bless you for sharing your experience here in order to encourage and exhort others.
 
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Emily

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Of course he's not gonna come knocking on my door. As I get to know Christian guys I will be able to figure out which ones are serious about their relationship with the Lord and then we will grow a friendship and then one of those guys might be the one I date. You know?
 
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