So fustrated with being single...

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zeroturbulence

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Man I wish someone would have told me that years ago, I had relationships broken down into a science
I wish someone had told me it too when I was younger. I only figured it out much later in life. I also over complicated things like a lot of guys do.
 
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God does not just give you a wife. If you want a wife you have to find yourself one. From all these threads, I see that your problem is that you are just too afraid to try. Stop worrying about being rejected or whether your words will make it or break it with a girl. Just start looking and take the blows as they come. An eagle can't learn how to fly until it has the courage to keep jumping and falling out of the nest until that day when its finally successful.
Actually, I am trying nowadays.(I can actually talk to girls a little more comfortably.) But I still do the fear of rejection. Basically, I'm progressing, but just not as fast as I want to be(which is why I made this topic.)
 

GreenNnice

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Yeah, it really starting to become that want for a wife is preventing me from finding a wife. Basically, It's becoming obvious that I need to put God first before looking for a wife. Anyway, I'm starting to ask God to help me put him 1st and looking for a wife 2nd and asking him to prepair me to be a good husband.
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Yes.
 
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hellobacky

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have u ever thought how you would encounter your Ms/Mr.Right?
 
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Trax

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Basically, waiting for God to provide me with a girlfriend is getting really hard. I'm trying to do my of part of looking by trusting in Jesus to give me the social skills, boldness, words to say to girls.(No, I'm not blaming this on God). But I'm still not really getting anywhere, It seemed like things where getting better for a little while, but now it just seems that it's going back to normal again. I'm not sure if I'm not getting anywhere by trying to hard, and just not letting Jesus work through me or something, or if I'm not doing enough.
I used to pray for a wife. I didn't know any better either. I'm much wiser now and glad God
never answered my prayer. I have listened to many hours of Christian programing on marriage,
on Christian radio. It depresses me, to hear how much work, a marriage takes. I could never
have made it. It would drive me insane. A lot of people can handle the work required for
a successful marriage. I'm not one of them and God kept me single.
 
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LANCY

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The statement "I want to be married by 25" is part of your problem. 1. Let God make the plans for your life rather than trying to plan it yourself.
2. Desperation is not attactive to women.
 
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I used to pray for a wife. I didn't know any better either. I'm much wiser now and glad God
never answered my prayer. I have listened to many hours of Christian programing on marriage,
on Christian radio. It depresses me, to hear how much work, a marriage takes. I could never
have made it. It would drive me insane. A lot of people can handle the work required for
a successful marriage. I'm not one of them and God kept me single.
Yeah, I've been listening about stuff about how to have a good Christian marriage. It actually only made me more excited about it.
 
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hellobacky

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i am a shy girl and feel inferior,I am not feeling well speaking in front of people.I always worry about how people think about me,whether i look riduculous? Praise Lord,God teach me message like" i am beloved child of God,previous pearl in His hand!"i feel much better. However,the inferiority rooted in my heart such a long time that it's not so easy to take off.I want to know how i can do next to be more confident and act more like God's child with joy/assurance.Thank you for your sharing. ;-)
 
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Even though it looks like I am putting God on a higher level than wanting a wife. But it still doesn't make things much easier.
 

GreenNnice

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Even though it looks like I am putting God on a higher level than wanting a wife. But it still doesn't make things much easier.
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You have to inherently want to please God , dothack0, more (so infinitely much more !) than pleasing your self. And, you're right, it is not easy, it is like a tug of war against the biggest , baddest anime dude you can imagine...And, know this, too, my prinny disgaea friend, with God pulling on your side, it is easy
to win the war against the brutest of battlers your mind can conjure :)
 

PopClick

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Even though it looks like I am putting God on a higher level than wanting a wife. But it still doesn't make things much easier.
If it isn't any easier, ask God again to make Himself first in your life. It's going to come up again. Put your priorities in God's hands, ask Him again to put them in the right order. Again and again, until there's peace about the whole situation. :)
 
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Well, I've gotta say that God has gotten me to point where I want him as as a girlfriend, and probably even a little bit more.
 

GreenNnice

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Well, I've gotta say that God has gotten me to point where I want him as as a girlfriend, and probably even a little bit more.
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Dothack0, whatever do you mean?

God is your Saviour, your provider, your friend, who holds the future and He knows your best future. Choose Him and you will have chosen 'it.' (your best future) :)
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DotChristbro, I want you to read this book I am about to mention, if you have time between Xenoblade video gaming :D The book is 'Passion and Purity' by Elizabeth Elliott. Pray about it being a good time to read it , it is well worth reading , I feel , based on your time in life now is why I now recommend it. It is my all-time favorite book, the story is told from a girl's perspective and it is good for guys to see that side, I think.

I see much maturity in your relationship understanding of God's best for you the last few months , dotbuddy. You are honest with your struggles and that is so big for God being able to bring you great new choices for your life . :)

Be patient in Him, read the great words of The Word in this time, and, draw closer to Him in all you do, and, God will show you great, amazing things, in His time, but IF you are ready He will assuredly show you. :)
 
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blah, I wish God would revel to me more about my future wife. Basically, my friend out that his wife is comming a lot sooner than he think she is. But as for, I have little to know info about wife. I keep asking God about mine, but he's just not talking about it. :(
 
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rock_built

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look man I completely get it, I havent had problems getting a girlfriend in the past but a girlfriend isnt what I wanted I wanted a good woman to be my wife. but after countless attempts with less than satisfactory results I completely stopped trying. I think alot of it has to do with the way society is geared today, I wont go to far into this subject for the sake of starting 1000 arguments but read the Bible and see how relationships and families are supposed to be set up and compare that with what we have today...everything is completely backwards from how its supposed to be and it shows in the 50% divorce rate and the people that stay married 9 times out of 10 arent happy.honestly its a blessing to be single in the times we live in. just read what paul has to say about marriage in 1 corinthians chapter 7, it will help you out. this verse kind of sums it up 1 corin 7:38 So a man who marries his fiancee does right, and a man who does not marry does better. heres another one I love from proverbs...pro 25:24 It's better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.....I wouldnt be to quick to rush into a relationship, your probably already on a much less stressful path if you would just learn to enjoy it
 
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Sunflower90

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Dot, you have to stop thinking about how to get a girl. The more you think about how you're supposed to do it, the more complex you will make it in your mind. If you like a girl just be nice to her and if she seems to like your being nice, ask her out. That's all there is to it.

Preach it bro. :)