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God hates divorce.
That is probably how any Christian should view it too...
Even though there can be some biblical reason to divorce, it is still never a good end.
Because a marriage is an image of Christ and the church. If we divorce, we are "saying" that Christ will not last with His bride, either.
That is probably how any Christian should view it too...
Even though there can be some biblical reason to divorce, it is still never a good end.
Because a marriage is an image of Christ and the church. If we divorce, we are "saying" that Christ will not last with His bride, either.
C
I believe God can work anything out for His glory. I believe scripture is clear God doesn't like divorce. My wife could have easily divorced me for some things I did before coming back to the Lord. We both committed ourselves to the Lord and He healed our marriage. I'm not saying it is perfect, but we are slowly working on it and I can say it is better than it was and that is because God is the center of our marriage now.
U
Wrong. Getting a divorce does not represent an individual's view on Christ and his bride. That's an overspiritualization of things with an intention to use guilt to hold people under religious bondage. While marriage may be symbolic in that manner it is only a symbol. Not the real thing.
God hates all sin yet I see nearly every regular poster in the BDF reveal sin daily. Pride, arrogance, judgment, slander, attacks. All signs of being religious, which was the very group Christ had to contend with on a regular basis. And who had him put to death. No overspiritualizing requires for that.
Usually people with such attitudes look down on others because they haven't had to experience it themselves. I've known people who were very judgmental about others sins until they had to deal with it as well. It's a huge reality check.
God hates all sin yet I see nearly every regular poster in the BDF reveal sin daily. Pride, arrogance, judgment, slander, attacks. All signs of being religious, which was the very group Christ had to contend with on a regular basis. And who had him put to death. No overspiritualizing requires for that.
Usually people with such attitudes look down on others because they haven't had to experience it themselves. I've known people who were very judgmental about others sins until they had to deal with it as well. It's a huge reality check.
Hello and welcome, HeatherZ...
I am divorced because I chose not to fight my ex to get her to stay. She walked away, and though there were things which I needed to deal with, none of them warranted divorce. However, her behaviour made it clear that was the path she was choosing, no matter what I did. I wouldn't wish that situation on anyone.
If I may, I'll suggest that you do three things: first, get local support from non-judgmental friends, pastors, and Christian counselors (don't waste your time with non-Christians). Second, sign up for the daily devotional from DivorceCare.org. It contains much good wisdom and experience from those who have gone before through this particular form of hell. Third, deal with your own stuff. I'm not suggesting the divorce is your fault. Rather, I recognize that everyone has stuff to deal with, and divorce is traumatic on its own. I spent quite a few hours with a Christian counselor and found freedom from junk which had plagued not only my marriage but all my relationships to that point.
I am divorced because I chose not to fight my ex to get her to stay. She walked away, and though there were things which I needed to deal with, none of them warranted divorce. However, her behaviour made it clear that was the path she was choosing, no matter what I did. I wouldn't wish that situation on anyone.
If I may, I'll suggest that you do three things: first, get local support from non-judgmental friends, pastors, and Christian counselors (don't waste your time with non-Christians). Second, sign up for the daily devotional from DivorceCare.org. It contains much good wisdom and experience from those who have gone before through this particular form of hell. Third, deal with your own stuff. I'm not suggesting the divorce is your fault. Rather, I recognize that everyone has stuff to deal with, and divorce is traumatic on its own. I spent quite a few hours with a Christian counselor and found freedom from junk which had plagued not only my marriage but all my relationships to that point.
Hi Heather,
The only reason for divorce I see in the scriptures is adultery. With an unbeliever you stay married to them unless they want to divorce you.
I suggest seeing what God says in His word because we want to please Him in all we do. And it's not something I'd rush into either. Give yourself time to think it through and also take time so as to allow God to work in a bad situation. He works upon our hearts and can change of from the inside out as we yield to His Spirit.
I would recommend getting alone with God and read everything in the scriptures on divorce before you get one. It's amazing at how many have found forgiveness in their heart for their spouse, even if/when they don't deserve it.
Also, consider separation instead of divorce and counseling might help if you haven't already gone that route. Some things are worth fighting for. Many remarried people will say they wished they had stayed with their first spouse.
I hope for the best for you as you seek God's will and purpose for the lives of all involved!
The only reason for divorce I see in the scriptures is adultery. With an unbeliever you stay married to them unless they want to divorce you.
I suggest seeing what God says in His word because we want to please Him in all we do. And it's not something I'd rush into either. Give yourself time to think it through and also take time so as to allow God to work in a bad situation. He works upon our hearts and can change of from the inside out as we yield to His Spirit.
I would recommend getting alone with God and read everything in the scriptures on divorce before you get one. It's amazing at how many have found forgiveness in their heart for their spouse, even if/when they don't deserve it.
Also, consider separation instead of divorce and counseling might help if you haven't already gone that route. Some things are worth fighting for. Many remarried people will say they wished they had stayed with their first spouse.
I hope for the best for you as you seek God's will and purpose for the lives of all involved!
H
Thank you for this. I prayed a long time before finally making the decision to divorce my husband. It is very difficult but I think there are somethings that you must do. I didn't throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble actually the opposite but I finally got to a point where I had to let go. It makes me very sad and is/was something I never thought I would do or wanted to do but at some point certain things can't be accepted any more.
Is your marriage getting in the way of your relationship with God? God rescued me from my last marriage, she was emotionally and mentally abusive in a way that I did not know could exist. My ex wife admitted to poisoning the coffee, tried to put a hit out on her ex, tried to talk me out of getting baptised, tried to get me to quit going to church, tried to get me to hate my child. She pretended to be a good christian up until after the wedding. Then the claws came out. God comes before your spouse.
I think people rarely take covenant as seriously as it is meant to be taken. When hurt and upset and being pulled by desires, people will rationalize anything. In an effort "not to judge", people will be supportive of almost anything. You can't make someone else responsible for your relationship with God, and you can't make your end of a covenant conditional on the other person. Marriage is not a contract. It's a covenant. There's no comparison. I am deeply grieved that we place such a high value on emotion and so little weight on intimacy with God, that we can't be bothered to do whatever it takes to remain faithful in our covenants. It breaks my heart and I know it breaks God's heart too. There aren't many things flatly listed in scripture that God "hates". Divorce is one of them. It's rarely necessary. But we are often unwilling. We must have grace for one another, but should never encourage one another to pursue what God hates for our own feelings. That doesn't seem okay to me.