VIRTUAL DATE NIGHT

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tourist

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VIRTURAL DATE NIGHT
CHRISTIAN CHAT ROMANTIC INVITATIONAL


Do you have that certain 'special one' prancing 'round your thoughts that resides in the CC Singles community? Now is your opportunity to invite this member for a virtual date, providing it’s consensual, and that the member is indeed single and not married. However, it may be acceptable to arrange a virtual double date night with a married couple. While we are all adults here there really is no need for an exhaustive list of do’s and don’ts but use your own discretion on the appropriate behavior that may or may occur.

Please be advised though that, like Vegas, what happens here stays here. Feel free to burst into song occasionally but try not to sing out of key. The guys may want to consider bringing a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates, preferably dark to set the mood and the tone for the evening.

NO RULES - JUST RIGHT

"Who knows how much further we'll go on?
Maybe I'll be sorry when you're gone.
I'll take my chances,
I forgot how nice romance is,

I haven't been there for the longest time."
 

tourist

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I have extended an invite to JesusLives for a virtual date night in lieu of an actual date night due to a current cash flow problem that is temporary in nature. On a special note - there was no social distancing, wearing of the masks, or hand sanitizer used during the course of events.

It was on a Friday night. No, I didn't bring on the flowers and the chocolates but did spring for a box of Pop Secret. "Honey" she said as I was putting in a bag of butter-flavored popcorn in the microwave, "could you bring me a Diet Dr. Pepper over ice?" The instructions said to put 'this side up', set on high, and allow 2 - 3 minutes or until you didn't hear any more popping noises.

The main activity for tonight is playing a board game. We both chose Jumanji, the home version of the game from the same movie. I splashed some Dr. Pepper in a glass over crushed ice. No straw. Normally, on the festive occasions of date nights I would opt for 2 straws for intimate slurping but Dr. Pepper is not what I'm about, I'm more of a Mountain Dew type man.

It was my turn to roll 'em and the dice came up snake-eyes. The little screen in the center said, "Until you roll a 5 or an 8 into the jungle room you must wait". I was surmising that I might be waiting alone. Before I was sucked into the jungle room my honey said "Now It's my turn" and let the dice fly. The little screen said that it was now 'Show Time".

There was this acrid odor of smoke from the butter burning in the microwave that wafted through the kitchen. The smoke alarm started with the high-pitch chirping shrieks. Very annoying, especially when you don't know how to turn the thing off. Apparently, I forgot to turn the microwave off too.

"Something's burning, something's burning,
Something's burning and I think it's love."


From the jungle room I could hear my wife telling me that she is going to get a movie going on NetFlix. Probably a chick flick. As for myself, I'm still waiting in the jungle room.
 

Lynx

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So is this a fantasy role-play kind of thread? Do both participants need to chip in on this thread with what goes down on this roleplay date? Do I need a 20-sided die? Does the movie have a happy ending if I roll a natural 20 critical?
 

tourist

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So is this a fantasy role-play kind of thread? Do both participants need to chip in on this thread with what goes down on this roleplay date? Do I need a 20-sided die? Does the movie have a happy ending if I roll a natural 20 critical?
Regarding the rolling of dice, a game of Yahtzee might make for a fun date night activity. To avoid hurt feelings and embarrassment it would be appropriate if both parties consented to the date but perhaps only one would jot down the high points and submit a report. Maybe we could just simply ship two peeps together since it doesn't look like anyone is up to setting up a virtual date. It would be most cool if a real relationship could get started as a result of a virtual date. Now, that would be a happy ending.
 

TabinRivCA

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Tourist, you, Bartholomew and I have tried to stir things up in the Single's Forum with minimal results. We know there have been many posts from both sexes who would like to meet their match. What I'm thinking is maybe all the stuff going on right now is putting a damper on the romantical side of life?
 

seoulsearch

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Tourist, you, Bartholomew and I have tried to stir things up in the Single's Forum with minimal results. We know there have been many posts from both sexes who would like to meet their match. What I'm thinking is maybe all the stuff going on right now is putting a damper on the romantical side of life?
It IS kind of funny...

Maybe a lot of us are so afraid of rejection right off the bat that we won't even lead the horse on up to the gate. 🐴

Probably because everyone is really looking for a unicorn. 🦄
 

tourist

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Tourist, you, Bartholomew and I have tried to stir things up in the Single's Forum with minimal results. We know there have been many posts from both sexes who would like to meet their match. What I'm thinking is maybe all the stuff going on right now is putting a damper on the romantical side of life?
It could very well put a damper on an actual meet in the short term.

Speaking from my own personal experience, after my divorce in 1984, except for a few very short excursions into the dating world the following year I was single and celibate for 18 years. I guess that after a few years I got set in my ways and didn't want to upset the status quo by starting another relationship. In the end though, it was the loneliness that got to me and I remarried in 2002. Sadly, my second wife died in 2014 a month before I joined this site.

I would say that some are just content where they currently are at this point of their life and not really looking for a lifelong partner. Then again, I believe that it is like I stated in that there are those that are inhibited by fear of rejection or commitment. Some say that they are waiting on God's perfect timing, which, for me, is code for being afraid for one reason or another because fear of the unknown.

I agree with you in that there are probably members here who are open to meeting their match here but don't know how to get the ball rolling.
 

tourist

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It IS kind of funny...

Maybe a lot of us are so afraid of rejection right off the bat that we won't even lead the horse on up to the gate. 🐴

Probably because everyone is really looking for a unicorn. 🦄
I married a unicorn. :)
 

tourist

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It IS kind of funny...

Maybe a lot of us are so afraid of rejection right off the bat that we won't even lead the horse on up to the gate. 🐴

Probably because everyone is really looking for a unicorn. 🦄
Profound. Some have unrealistic expectations and set the bar to high for anyone to jump over. Then again, there are those that set the bar to low and one has to do the limbo to get under it.
 

TabinRivCA

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It could very well put a damper on an actual meet in the short term.

Speaking from my own personal experience, after my divorce in 1984, except for a few very short excursions into the dating world the following year I was single and celibate for 18 years. I guess that after a few years I got set in my ways and didn't want to upset the status quo by starting another relationship. In the end though, it was the loneliness that got to me and I remarried in 2002. Sadly, my second wife died in 2014 a month before I joined this site.

I would say that some are just content where they currently are at this point of their life and not really looking for a lifelong partner. Then again, I believe that it is like I stated in that there are those that are inhibited by fear of rejection or commitment. Some say that they are waiting on God's perfect timing, which, for me, is code for being afraid for one reason or another because fear of the unknown.

I agree with you in that there are probably members here who are open to meeting their match here but don't know how to get the ball rolling.
What do you attribute your finding your match on CC to?
 

tourist

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What do you attribute your finding your match on CC to?
I attribute it to prayer as I believe that God steered me to this site for a reason, and not just for the express purpose of finding the one of my heart's desire even though that, by the grace of God, surely did happen.

I find this to be a fascinating site that is full of exciting possibilities for those so inclined to forming a lasting and enduring relationship.

Mainly, I was just enjoying the fellowship when a certain member caught my attention. She wrote a post about how painful it was to lose her cat named Baby. My reply must have been of a sensitive nature because now I was on her radar too. We wrote many posts about our online romance in my Midnight Confessions and Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band threads. I guess that after awhile it got kind of cloying and the members following our romance lost interest. No problem though because it was at that point that we actually set up a meet and the rest is history.

You can learn a whole lot about a person by their forum decorum and post history. After awhile you can discern the phony for the genuine. This may not be a dating site per se but it is the next best thing.

I love this place. It's like home to me.
 

seoulsearch

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I attribute it to prayer as I believe that God steered me to this site for a reason, and not just for the express purpose of finding the one of my heart's desire even though that, by the grace of God, surely did happen.

I find this to be a fascinating site that is full of exciting possibilities for those so inclined to forming a lasting and enduring relationship.

Mainly, I was just enjoying the fellowship when a certain member caught my attention. She wrote a post about how painful it was to lose her cat named Baby. My reply must have been of a sensitive nature because now I was on her radar too. We wrote many posts about our online romance in my Midnight Confessions and Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band threads. I guess that after awhile it got kind of cloying and the members following our romance lost interest. No problem though because it was at that point that we actually set up a meet and the rest is history.

You can learn a whole lot about a person by their forum decorum and post history. After awhile you can discern the phony for the genuine. This may not be a dating site per se but it is the next best thing.

I love this place. It's like home to me.
Tourist,

May I ask, how far were you and JesusLives away from each other when you met? That seems to be a crucial factor.

It's also a little more challenging now for people to PM and get to know each other on a one-to-one basis with the membership fees, especially with so many people facing financial hardships in the pandemic. Many people won't want to or can't pay the $25 (I think that's what it is now?) fee to be able to PM other members, which is more than understandable in these times.

"Back in the day", I think there were A LOT of singles-to-singles conversations/flirtations going on. But unfortunately, most didn't work out, and distance seemed to be the number one factor. The majority of couples broke up, and then one or both would leave CC because they didn't want to run into their ex here (then again, some just came back as other user names to see what their exes were up to.)

Sadly, distance is a very real inhibitor and with all the restrictions going on right now, it would be even more formidable to a new couple trying to meet.

A while back, I was talking to someone (he's not on CC and has no interest in it,) and when we calculated the thousands of dollars we'd have to spend for the few times a year we'd be able to see each other, and most likely the person being visited would be working anyway, we both knew it wasn't going to work.

I'm not trying to crash the party; I'm just saying, it's very rare to find someone online who is in reasonable proximity of where you live, let alone be compatible enough to be willing to navigate a pandemic in order to try to meet in person.

I've seen so many fellow singles run off into La La Land (including me!) chasing what or who they think is the perfect life and "soul mate" (when really, they're just high on the attention), only to crash back into reality broken-hearted, and even worse, flat broke.
 

tourist

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Tourist,

May I ask, how far were you and JesusLives away from each other when you met? That seems to be a crucial factor.

It's also a little more challenging now for people to PM and get to know each other on a one-to-one basis with the membership fees, especially with so many people facing financial hardships in the pandemic. Many people won't want to or can't pay the $25 (I think that's what it is now?) fee to be able to PM other members, which is more than understandable in these times.

"Back in the day", I think there were A LOT of singles-to-singles conversations/flirtations going on. But unfortunately, most didn't work out, and distance seemed to be the number one factor. The majority of couples broke up, and then one or both would leave CC because they didn't want to run into their ex here (then again, some just came back as other user names to see what their exes were up to.)

Sadly, distance is a very real inhibitor and with all the restrictions going on right now, it would be even more formidable to a new couple trying to meet.

A while back, I was talking to someone (he's not on CC and has no interest in it,) and when we calculated the thousands of dollars we'd have to spend for the few times a year we'd be able to see each other, and most likely the person being visited would be working anyway, we both knew it wasn't going to work.

I'm not trying to crash the party; I'm just saying, it's very rare to find someone online who is in reasonable proximity of where you live, let alone be compatible enough to be willing to navigate a pandemic in order to try to meet in person.

I've seen so many fellow singles run off into La La Land (including me!) chasing what or who they think is the perfect life and "soul mate" (when really, they're just high on the attention), only to crash back into reality broken-hearted, and even worse, flat broke.
The distance apart can be an inhibiting factor, although when I remarried in 2002 to my late second wife the distance was over 1500 miles.

I lived in Apopka, Florida which is about 10 miles NW of Orlando. JesusLives lived in Clearwater and the distance is about 120 miles so I would not say that distance was a factor at all.

I understand about the current PM situation and the hesitation or being unable to fork over the $25, especially in these trying times. However, I do believe that a member who currently has conversation privilege's can initiate the contact with a member that doesn't and that member could then communicate back. Private Messages played in important part in the initial stages of our relationship. Later came actual snail mail and nightly phone calls.

What really sealed the deal for me is that I mentioned to JesusLives that I left my bible in Maine and she sent me one through the mail. We trusted each other with our actual addresses and quickly exchanged phone numbers.

No one can afford to spend thousands of dollars a year for a few visits but perhaps for a single visit to see how it went. As far as the working is concerned, each one could probably arrange for the time off. There may be a lot of members that will let the distance and circumstances dictate the situation but perhaps a few who would not find that daunting at all but rather treat it as part of the adventure.

I believe that love, by the grace of God, will find a way.
 

Lighthearted

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So, there's a thread to mingle and a thread to virtually date...
 

laughingheart

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Tourist, you, Bartholomew and I have tried to stir things up in the Single's Forum with minimal results. We know there have been many posts from both sexes who would like to meet their match. What I'm thinking is maybe all the stuff going on right now is putting a damper on the romantical side of life?
VIRTURAL DATE NIGHT
CHRISTIAN CHAT ROMANTIC INVITATIONAL


Do you have that certain 'special one' prancing 'round your thoughts that resides in the CC Singles community? Now is your opportunity to invite this member for a virtual date, providing it’s consensual, and that the member is indeed single and not married. However, it may be acceptable to arrange a virtual double date night with a married couple. While we are all adults here there really is no need for an exhaustive list of do’s and don’ts but use your own discretion on the appropriate behavior that may or may occur.

Please be advised though that, like Vegas, what happens here stays here. Feel free to burst into song occasionally but try not to sing out of key. The guys may want to consider bringing a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates, preferably dark to set the mood and the tone for the evening.

NO RULES - JUST RIGHT

"Who knows how much further we'll go on?
Maybe I'll be sorry when you're gone.
I'll take my chances,
I forgot how nice romance is,

I haven't been there for the longest time."
I picture this scenario.
Nervously the applicant for the C.C. dating show edges her way onto the stage and sits awkwardly in the wobbly, folding metal chair. "Hello, my name is, well it says it on the form and my name tag, ha ha." There is no response. She clears her throat and begins again. "I guess I'm here to see if there is someone out there who loves the Lord, and has a sense of humour. What? No I don't mean a sense of humour about loving the Lord. Those are two separate things. I mean that this person would have the ability to see the absurd, the miraculous, and the beautiful in life." More silence. She shifts uncomfortably. "What's that? No I don't want to talk politics, or debate theology. Sorry? No, I mean I do love exploring the scripture but rather than try and score points I'd rather talk with God, admire his handiwork by walking in nature. Pardon? Yes politics is important but I'm Canadian. Yes I'm sorry. Why? I don't know, it is just something we do." She tries to block the glare of the lights and see who is sitting in the seats. It is so quiet. She crosses and uncrosses her legs and knocks over her water bottle in the process. She watches it roll along the stage and drop over the edge.
The silence stretches on. "Right. I think maybe I'll go home and bake some strudel shall I?" She gestures to the exit. I'll just see myself out" She retrieves her purse from the floor and tries unsuccessfully to make a dignified exit. Her coat sleeve is stuck in the chair. Rather than stay there and struggle she drags her coat and chair off stage. Sadly, this was one of her better Friday nights.
The end
 

tourist

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I picture this scenario.
Nervously the applicant for the C.C. dating show edges her way onto the stage and sits awkwardly in the wobbly, folding metal chair. "Hello, my name is, well it says it on the form and my name tag, ha ha." There is no response. She clears her throat and begins again. "I guess I'm here to see if there is someone out there who loves the Lord, and has a sense of humour. What? No I don't mean a sense of humour about loving the Lord. Those are two separate things. I mean that this person would have the ability to see the absurd, the miraculous, and the beautiful in life." More silence. She shifts uncomfortably. "What's that? No I don't want to talk politics, or debate theology. Sorry? No, I mean I do love exploring the scripture but rather than try and score points I'd rather talk with God, admire his handiwork by walking in nature. Pardon? Yes politics is important but I'm Canadian. Yes I'm sorry. Why? I don't know, it is just something we do." She tries to block the glare of the lights and see who is sitting in the seats. It is so quiet. She crosses and uncrosses her legs and knocks over her water bottle in the process. She watches it roll along the stage and drop over the edge.
The silence stretches on. "Right. I think maybe I'll go home and bake some strudel shall I?" She gestures to the exit. I'll just see myself out" She retrieves her purse from the floor and tries unsuccessfully to make a dignified exit. Her coat sleeve is stuck in the chair. Rather than stay there and struggle she drags her coat and chair off stage. Sadly, this was one of her better Friday nights.
The end
The end... of the audition but not the night because while she was making her way off the stage one gentleman stood up and gave her a standing ovation. At least there was one person that got where she was coming from. Maybe he was he one. Or maybe not. At least he was smiling while he was looking at her in a humorous sort of way. Suddenly, the fire alarm went off.
 

Lynx

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And a silent lynx emerges from the shadows and pads quietly after her to see what kind of strudel that is... :cool:
 

tourist

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And a silent lynx emerges from the shadows and pads quietly after her to see what kind of strudel that is... :cool:
I believe you might have been the one that gave her the standing ovation I mentioned in the previous entry.
 

Lynx

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I believe you might have been the one that gave her the standing ovation I mentioned in the previous entry.
That is mutually contradictory with the "silent" part. If I make noise she gets scared off and I don't find out what kind of strudel it is.