Well, I think this thread started off as one to focus on the non-negotiable turn-off(s). To have a list of preferences and anti-preferences, though, I think is good. We should know what we want. But, we also need to be at a point where we can say, "If I can find 2/3 of what I'm looking for, that person's a catch." Reasonable compromise in seeking a mate is good, in my opinion.
I agree and Im not solidly rigid.
Compromise is always negotiable but to settle brings disappointment.
I'm sure I myself could not fulfil another's highest list of desires.
But two must have things in common to be able to bond otherwise they live separate lives.
I also realize each needs their own space and interest....can't find my bookend..😆
I like facial hair,a lot of men don't and won't grow it.
Inside is where I look for the true person....my daughter says I'm naive.