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Mands

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Hey everyone.

I'm brand new and this is my first thread - and after kinda browsing through all the topics and the chat room, I see a lot of people talking about finding the "one". So my question is (just outa curiousity) what are you looking for in a person? If your single (and even if your not) what makes someone attractive to you? What would you hope in a man/woman someday?

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missy2shoes

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A heart for God and a ripper sense of humour :D
 
eugenius

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intelligence, kindness, Christian values. The opposite of Britney Spears and those other ho's.
 
Sharp

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Someone who has the same blood type as me and organ compatibility. Life is dangerous so its good to have spare parts when you need them.
 
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Jared_Jared

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I am looking for someone who is honest, and with great personality. I want someone who believes and trusts in God. The rest is all just perks :)
 
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bessie

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Sharp said:
Someone who has the same blood type as me and organ compatibility. Life is dangerous so its good to have spare parts when you need them.
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Well, this is sure a good way to look at things!! I have never thought of this. Anyway, this is cute. God bless you.
 
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Narn

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Someone who is a Christian first thing. Then someone who shares the same goals and passions. They don't have to be exact or the same thing, but passions and goals I can support and be a help to achieving, and of course the same on here end. Thats what its about becoming a team that makes each other better than before. Also someone who is dedicated to me as much as I will be dedicated to them.
It don't really matter if they have the same blood type to me.... I'm not getting married to get spare parts.
 
Chopsui101

Chopsui101

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got to be a 20...on a scale of 1-10...lol
 
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JDawg

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She is got to be on FIRE for God! Totally in love with God. A woman who doesnt need me but wants to be with me. A Proverbs 31 type of woman! Funny, honest, trustworthy. She has to be willing to submit to me (this applys to marriage and not saying that to be a jerk or a controling guy). Beautiful of course because I dont believe I am an ungly either. She has to love me for who i am. She must either have the same calling as me or in close to my calling because u just cant try to be with a woman who is going to be a missonary and Im in music. She has got to be willing to talk about whatever. I can talk when I want to so she has got to be all ears too! She cant be affraid of the supernatrual because I believe in the things of the supernatural. Has to be religious free!(Its not about religion! Hit me up if u want to know what I mean.) She has love music because i love listening to music like all the time! The is probably more but I cant think of any right now so Im out! God Bless
 
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MusicalMe

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Christian, but not a jerk Christian, like some guys I knew in college. Intelligent and witty. Fun to be around. Good hygiene, but within reason (I once dated a guy who took three showers a day and was almost constantly grooming. That's a bit excessive.) Wide range of interests. At least some musical knowledge or ability. Not necessarily playing an instrument but knowing some musical terms and willing to learn more. Patient. And of course, someone who's just as in love with me as I am with him.
 
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Narn

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I have a question.
Why is it that you have to be specific about that special someone you know?
I mean I love gardening I am a Professional Landscaper and I own my own business. That does not mean my wife has to love to garden or love business and be fascinated by all of it. But she love me or who I am and what I do. I may not do her favorite things but yet she is interested in that. For instance I don't really care for law or drama all that much , but if my wife was I could enjoy watching a drama with her and maybe when we are done we can go do some gardening together. That's how I see it anyways. Anyone get what I mean?
 
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MusicalMe

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Narn said:
I have a question.
Why is it that you have to be specific about that special someone you know?
I mean I love gardening I am a Professional Landscaper and I own my own business. That does not mean my wife has to love to garden or love business and be fascinated by all of it. But she love me or who I am and what I do. I may not do her favorite things but yet she is interested in that. For instance I don't really care for law or drama all that much , but if my wife was I could enjoy watching a drama with her and maybe when we are done we can go do some gardening together. That's how I see it anyways. Anyone get what I mean?
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My list comes from experience... I've dated guys that I didn't have enough in common with, or that were completely different personality types from me, and it just wasn't a good idea. Naturally, there need to be some differences, but there are good differences and bad differences.

I can't speak for everyone else, but my list comes as a result of failed relationships - each one taught me one or more things that I need in the person I end up with.
 
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Narn

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MusicalMe said:
My list comes from experience... I've dated guys that I didn't have enough in common with, or that were completely different personality types from me, and it just wasn't a good idea. Naturally, there need to be some differences, but there are good differences and bad differences.

I can't speak for everyone else, but my list comes as a result of failed relationships - each one taught me one or more things that I need in the person I end up with.
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It just seems you really limit yourself when you make a list of "must have". You must love dogs and have clean finger nails 24/7. Honestly I think you cut yourself short and God because you say well unless this is like this then NO WAY
 
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MusicalMe

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Narn said:
It just seems you really limit yourself when you make a list of "must have". You must love dogs and have clean finger nails 24/7. Honestly I think you cut yourself short and God because you say well unless this is like this then NO WAY
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I think most people have a fairly short 'must have' list, and a fairly long 'I'd like it if they had' list. There's always negotiables. For example, he MUST be Christian. I'd LIKE it if he had some musical knowledge.

God's probably not going to give you someone you're not attracted you. So it's nice to think about the qualities you find attractive because chances are, they'll most likely be there. Not all, but the big ones.
 
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Mands

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I agree with Narn on this one. I have tried to keep my mind focused on the ONE must have - that he be a christian, and someone who truly loves the Lord. But as for anything else, I am leaving it totally up to God to decide who he brings into my life - so its not like I'm grading men I meet saying "ok he's a maybe," "definatly not!" "perhaps." Its not only not fair to the men, but its distracting. I look at the ppl I meet, and try to see them as potential friends. Anything after that is always and completely up to God. I think you agree MusicalMe...and I totally understand where you are coming from as in you've dated other men, but now know what you definatly don't want, right? And there is nothing wrong with having a preference. Thats why maybe, some of us will remain listless :p and others will know a bit more clearly what they would like and what they wouldn't. There really is nothing wrong with dreaming a bit - but always remember to keep your mind and heart open. You never know when God will bring someone along that maybe you wont think of like that at first, until God begins to work in your heart.

Some ppl may prefer similar likes and passions, maybe it makes it easier to relate and understand one another - others may see the true beauty in being a complete individual, and having someone else different in likes and dislikes is a good thing. As long as you have the number ONE passion right - God, and you put him first, and if the relationship is his will, he will help you through all the other perks and annoyances lol

I guess what I'm saying is to each his/her own. If you feel like you've experienced certain things, and you know they weren't positive - then its natural to know what you would like to find. And I think thats more what MusicalMe is getting at, not so much that you like the same things or that you have to be this or this or this..... I think maybe she just has a clearer picture of what she thinks the Lord would want in her life. It's for her to know :)

As for the other perks ;) lol sometimes its fun to think about it all and dream it up - like i said above, just remember to keep your heart open for God's work. :) I for one, have two preferences lol that he be a Christian for sure, and he for sure must be taller than me :p


ok sorry for writing so much... hope you don't mind I used you're thoughts and added some of my own MusicalMe and Narn


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Hethr

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Strong Christian
Funny.. I love a sense of humor, he should also understand sarcasm.
Manners
Good grammar, it's a turn off to read a poorly written letter.
Animal lover, esp dogs/cats.
Similar interests to mine but also has his own interests and friends.
Non smoker
Social drinker but no getting drunk
Active. I don't want a guy who never wants to go anywhere.
Secure. This is subjective, someone who knows what he wants, can pay his bills, etc. I don't mean he's rich or anything.. someone who can handle his finances.

Bonus: Can at least impersonate a Scottish accent.
Can cook, as I'm not a good one.
Can sing. loove a good singer.

What am I missing :)
 
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faithwarrior

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I want someone who loves God with all his heart, soul, and mind. I want him to love me for me.
 
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Laiahna

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According to scripture. Setting the husband up as the head of the family like Christ is to the church means husbands are meant to teach, lead, guide, and be head of the spiritual development of his family. Eph 5:22 - 28

Eph 5:5 - 7 We are not to be with any that are not as discribed here.

Prov 31:30 Is how I feel all true chistian men think

Gen 2:24 Very explanitory of husband and wife bond.
 
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Golfaholic30

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MusicalMe said:
I think most people have a fairly short 'must have' list, and a fairly long 'I'd like it if they had' list. There's always negotiables. For example, he MUST be Christian. I'd LIKE it if he had some musical knowledge.

God's probably not going to give you someone you're not attracted you. So it's nice to think about the qualities you find attractive because chances are, they'll most likely be there. Not all, but the big ones.
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I don't think there is anything wrong with being specific. I'm a sports person, it would be nice to marry someone who wouldn't mind watching a football game with me every now and then. I like to exercise a lot, I don't want to marry someone who doesn't care about her health. She doesn't have to run 6 miles with me, but it would be nice to have someone who has some desire to be healthy. I once had a college minster that said be as specific as you want to me. While I dont' think there should be 1500 things on ur list of things you look for a guy, I think it's ok be more specific than just simply being believer.
 
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MusicalMe

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Golfaholic30 said:
I think it's ok be more specific than just simply being believer.
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Yes! Because believers come in all shapes and sizes and personalities, and not all of them are going to be a good fit!
 
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