+when a man (or anyone) reveals himself to you, it's best to believe him (as opposed to ignoring his words and actions)
+that i would've been so much better off waiting to have sex. that i should've guarded myself with greater earnest. that i deserved to be worth the wait.
+and that regardless of making the mistake of premarital sex, the correction is not to become engaged (or married).
+that the pain of hurting someone else would be so much worse than being hurt by someone.
+i wish i'd known that i had no business being in a relationship, period, until i sorted through some of the issues that i finally dealt with in my late 20s/early 30s. that the pursuit of healing and wholeness should always supersede my desire for a relationship.
+that no relationship is FAR better than a crummy relationship
+that simply avoiding the cautionary tales you've witnessed (or even experienced) in your life isn't enough, i.e. "i never want to be just like ____". you actually have to know what you want, otherwise, you just wander aimlessly without concern as to what you actually need/want.
it's like learning to ride a bike - whatever you try not to focus on will never leave your periphery. you have to replace it with a vision and roadmap.
+no man can make me feel: whole, healthy, worthy, or enough. that's not his job, it's mine. and the solutions is found in God.
+not being in a relationship can be a wonderful thing, full of its own blessings