Where are all the real Christian men??

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Subhumanoidal

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Hi! I’m in my 30’s and divorced. I’m just wondering why I can’t find any true honest loyal Christian men my age?! Are there any out there or all they all into this new age junk?!
For the same reason men ask where all the real Christian women are?
 

Lynx

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For the same reason men ask where all the real Christian women are?
Yeah... For some reason the last couple of days I've been thinking about that old song, "Where Have All The Cowboys Gone?"
 

ChristianTonyB

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Hi! I’m in my 30’s and divorced. I’m just wondering why I can’t find any true honest loyal Christian men my age?! Are there any out there or all they all into this new age junk?!
Hi, and welcome.

I'm sorry to learn of the difficulty you had in your past relationship.

You have noted that you were saved at age 8. I'm assuming that your spouse was a Christian. That being the case, Christian divorce is a very serious matter, and the people involved need to be careful they don't trip into a new relationship that God would consider adulterous.

Shalom.

Tony
 

Amanuensis

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Hi! I’m in my 30’s and divorced. I’m just wondering why I can’t find any true honest loyal Christian men my age?! Are there any out there or all they all into this new age junk?!
Church of course. Involved in the ministries of the local church. This might require attending a larger church to find one that is single. Where else would you expect them to be?

I am not saying you have to go to a mega church, but you might have to go to a larger one than a 20 member congregation. 150 and larger might be plenty. I don't think it is wrong to look for a larger church where there are people when you would hope to someday meet someone, or even just to have more fellowship and friends to live the Christian life with.

I don't think it is a good plan to go to a small church and just expect some one to show up someday out of the blue. But It could happen. And it is a great plan to go to a small church if God told you to help them grow. Then you might be involved in outreaches and as the church grows meet someone who joins you in those outreach ministries.

If I was wanting to find a wife in the next few years (and I don't) I would attend a larger church. I would focus on being involved in ministry and volunteering to serve help evangelize the community and serve. Then I would expect that a woman who had the same love for Lord and evangelism and serving would be involved in some of the same ministries I volunteer for and out of that friendship something might develop. I think that would be the best, and godliest way to position myself to meet the one that would be a good choice to marry.

I don't know why I am even giving advice. I am heavily involved in ministry and church activities and volunteer for everything but I have no desire to have a girl friend or get married. But I am not the norm. Most single guys that you meet involved in church want to marry someone eventually. I am the one out of 10 million that does not. I know, breaking the ladies hearts with disappointment I'm sure. :p

That's my two cents. It's what I would tell my son or daughter.
 

JesusFreak1992

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Hi, and welcome.

I'm sorry to learn of the difficulty you had in your past relationship.

You have noted that you were saved at age 8. I'm assuming that your spouse was a Christian. That being the case, Christian divorce is a very serious matter, and the people involved need to be careful they don't trip into a new relationship that God would consider adulterous.

Shalom.

Tony
He was an atheist
 

Aerials1978

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Only the Lord can make one a true believer. I love the Lord with all my heart and mind, and I still fall very short. There are some of us out there. Maybe there is that one God ordained for you! Seek His kingdom first.
 

ChristianTonyB

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If he was an atheist, and you a Christian, then why did you have a relationship with him? We are supposed to be unequally yoked!

There's some serious questions about the strength of your own Christianity that needs to be raised here, and also questions asked about your eligibility and suitability for remarriage. I think you're better off questioning that with your pastor and his wife, and/or discussed with a mature Christian lady whose opinion you will respect and heed. They will know where you are at, and help you along the road to recovery and on. It's probably not best to discuss such issues in an open forum where people's opinions can be discoloured by their own experiences.
 

soberxp

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Well

well my ex husband was abusive and made fun of me for believing in God Closer to the end of the relationship. I finally had had enough and left him.
hi,Sisters in the Lord.
Please honestly first.
 

JesusFreak1992

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If he was an atheist, and you a Christian, then why did you have a relationship with him? We are supposed to be unequally yoked!

There's some serious questions about the strength of your own Christianity that needs to be raised here, and also questions asked about your eligibility and suitability for remarriage. I think you're better off questioning that with your pastor and his wife, and/or discussed with a mature Christian lady whose opinion you will respect and heed. They will know where you are at, and help you along the road to recovery and on. It's probably not best to discuss such issues in an open forum where people's opinions can be discoloured by their own experiences.
I’ve already dealt with this. He said he would go to church with me etc. I married young and wasn’t true to my faith. I’ve already repented for divorcing and for marrying someone unequally yoked
 

soberxp

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hi,sis in the lord.
I just want you to tell your story honestly.
I won't use Paul's teachings for divorce.
If what you said is true, it proves that you really don't want to be with your husband. Whether your husband wants to be with you or not, your real idea is that you want to left your husband.
I would say Love others as ourself.This Law applies to anyone and anything.
If I find my true love, then I also hope others can find true love, which also applies to your situation.

So be it.
 

pix

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Hi JesusFreak1992 : ) you might like the chat room, there are lots of lovely people in there too and it's another great place to fellowship.
 

ChristianTonyB

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I’ve already dealt with this. He said he would go to church with me etc. I married young and wasn’t true to my faith. I’ve already repented for divorcing and for marrying someone unequally yoked
That sure is a start, and a most important thing for us to do. However, that doesn't mean you're eligible for remarriage. Have you discussed that with your pastor?
 

ChristianTonyB

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What is that supposed to mean? I just said I was a Baptist
Being a Baptist doesn't make anyone a Christian.

Being born again, ie our spirit being brought alive by God is essential to becoming a Christian. Then, following Jesus' example in life, ie obeying God in everything, is essential to being a Christian. We all need to self assess to see if that is our case.

Sadly many of us have been born into a particular denominational faith and have been taught scripture, and have adhered to our denomination's peculiar religious observances and bias, and because of that we believe we can call ourselves Christian. This is a deception by the evil one.

In my opinion your hope for remarriage lies in the hope that you may yet to be born again by God, and of course it's only He that can do that to you, no man can will it on you. At the time we are born again, we are set free from the past ungodly ways that ensnared us, and what would have been the eternal consequences of those sins. Our life is born anew.
 

Lynx

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Being a Baptist doesn't make anyone a Christian.

Being born again, ie our spirit being brought alive by God is essential to becoming a Christian. Then, following Jesus' example in life, ie obeying God in everything, is essential to being a Christian. We all need to self assess to see if that is our case.

Sadly many of us have been born into a particular denominational faith and have been taught scripture, and have adhered to our denomination's peculiar religious observances and bias, and because of that we believe we can call ourselves Christian. This is a deception by the evil one.

In my opinion your hope for remarriage lies in the hope that you may yet to be born again by God, and of course it's only He that can do that. At the time we are born again, we are set free from the past ungodly ways that ensnared us, and what would have been the eternal consequences of those sins. Our life is born anew.
Dude, that is so awesome that you automatically assume she is not a real Christian. :cautious: