Who Couldn't Date YOU?

[Liamson]

The other thread talks about who you couldn't date but, I'm more curious to know the other side of the coin.


I tend to drive Traditional women up the wall. I ask things like why paint the picket fence white? We could paint it red or Black or even Textured Spackle Rock Spray, like they have on movie sets and like in Disney World.

Needless to say my suggestions don't fly.


Really "Sweet, Cute, Kind" Women couldn't date me. They wouldn't have a reason to, that I can think of.

Like Today, I have 3 roommates and I gave one of them his 30 day notice to move. I wasn't nice, he's basically known it was coming. But the owner of the house, knew that I was only person who was going to be able to have an honest conversation and tell him what was going to happen.

These sort of "Honest Conversations" happen a lot in my life. And some people would simply prefer to avoid them, and therefore avoid dating me. I'm okay with that really. Because I would want someone in my life that was capable of being Frank with me.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Good thread.

Traditional men wouldn't date me. Like you, i'd rather paint things weird colors and do things my way instead of how things usually are done.

Men who like to talk wouldn't date me. I no likey to talkey to much.

Men who are totally normal wouldn't date me. I'm not gonna lie, i'm kinda crazy, and i seriously mean that.

 

[cyphercat]

Good thread.

Traditional men wouldn't date me. Like you, i'd rather paint things weird colors and do things my way instead of how things usually are done.

Men who like to talk wouldn't date me. I no likey to talkey to much.

Men who are totally normal wouldn't date me. I'm not gonna lie, i'm kinda crazy, and i seriously mean that.

You're also a total magnet for guys like me, but I'm learning to not be a jerk about it anymore, so I really have nothing other to say than I hope the right guy finds his way through that minefield you've laid on the way to your heart!
jk!

 

[Jullianna]

Someone without a sense of humor would definitely not like me. I commit random acts of silliness.
Someone who did not like music or children would not like me. I'm a magnet for both.
A couch potato or someone addicted to video games would not like me. I would be rolling my eyes a lot.
Someone who has a problem with neat freaks would not like me, but I'm not nearly as bad as I used to be.
Someone who likes to gossip would not like me. I hate it and I'm not shy about saying so.
Someone who doesn't expect an honest answer to his questions would not like me. If you ask me, I'm gonna tell you as tactfully as possible.
Someone who is looking for a stay at home mom type would not like me. No can do.
Someone who expects me to be his Stepford trophy wife would not like me. No can do.
Someone who doesn't like to travel or try new things would not like me. Life is too short.
Someone who doesn't appreciate what a Steel Magnolia is would not like me.
Someone who thinks women should eat like birds would not like me. I get hungry.
Someone who is not comfortable with affection would not like me.
Someone who does not like bright colors would not like me.

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

No traditional woman has ever been attracted to me nor have I ever dated one. ( there was one "traditional-esque" woman who supposedly liked me,but that turned out to be a bunch of rubbish,as she was just trying to make someone else jealous. )

I am too out spoken most of the time.
I don't like precious moments figurines,potpourri,or religious sayings adorning every wall or doorway of my home.
I like non-traditional colors for things that most people paint white,eggshell,or as I call it...Martha Stewart oatmeal!
I like communication,and whilst many women say that they want a man who's honest & open with his heart & thoughts and communicates what's on his mind...most really don't.

A woman who doesn't appreciate a sick sense of humor couldn't date me.
I can pretty much find a twisted skew on everything.

A woman who can't deal with me just making up silly stories & songs about something like a baby crying or dishsoap...'cause I do that sort of thing...out of the blue,for no good reason.

It really doesn't matter who couldn't date me. I'm doing just fine.

Oh yeah...a woman who doesn't like someone using exclamation marks for no good reason,couldn't date me!!!!!!!!!! <---see

 

[Fenner]

In my past I met a lot of men who couldn't date me. I like my space I couldn't date a clingy person.

I couldn't date someone who couldn't hold a conversation.

This is hypethetical for me, I'm in a long term relationship.

 

[mystdancer50]

I honestly couldn't say. I never really thought about it specifically. I just kind of consider myself forever undatable. I am such an eclectic mix of randomness, I am extremely passionate about things that matter to me (EXTREMELY...I don't think I can stress that enough), I am so deeply into godly purity as I have been called to that I would be considered a prude by even the most upright of Christian guys in the courtship realm...I am the serial single lady. I've been single my whole life, am turning 34, and am just so set in my ways that I think if a Christian man was ever interested in me, he'd have way too much to contend with to truly pursue me. I am complicated. LOL.

 

[seoulsearch]

Who couldn't date me?

Apparently, a solid Christian guy in my age range who is stable and has a regular job!

(I'm trying to make a joke here... But the sad part is it's pretty much true. I tend to attract guys who either want a mommy-type figure to "keep them good" [away from addictions and vices] or "Shady Pines" residents looking for a child-bride--*SHUDDER*.)

 

[CatHerder]

Who couldn't date me?

Apparently, a solid Christian guy in my age range who is stable and has a regular job!

(I'm trying to make a joke here... But the sad part is it's pretty much true. I tend to attract guys who either want a mommy-type figure to "keep them good" [away from addictions and vices] or "Shady Pines" residents looking for a child-bride--*SHUDDER*.)

Just two years and one month, then I'll be half a century!!

THEN I can ask Kim out!!

 

[seoulsearch]

Just two years and one month, then I'll be half a century!!

THEN I can ask Kim out!!

OH NO CatH, you did NOT just go there!!! *Sits and waits for her phone to ring.*

If it's any consolation, the other day I got a view from a 74-year-old.

And no, I'm not just being dyslexic with your age!!

 

[abbiejean]

Liamson, don't know how to answer your question.

What little time I've been on the site and from what I've shared in my various posts, I'm sure some members could answer that question for me.

I don't know. Truly.

I am at a place in my life and in my heart, I'm content. I am not seeking or looking for someone and while it would be great to have that special someone, I am okay alone. I'm not saying I don't have my moments, cuz I do. I just feel I got work to do in a few areas and while I know I have expectations or would like to see certain character traits in a man should one come into my life, I know I need to have attributes and characteristics that would draw someone to me. Or another way of saying it, I need to be likeable or attractive (not talking just physical here) first and at peace with that before I go and say, "I gotta have thus and so with someone else."

I wholeheartedly believe I'm going through a season where God is healing areas in my heart that got a wee bit broken a while back. I so hope and do pray I don't come across as stuck on that or logged jammed in my life in this area. I just know I need time with God to work through some things. I cannot rush this.

I have read many of the threads on the single's forum and yes, have posted to some, but with others I've just read and said, "uh uh, uh uh sounds good. I concur. Great insight. What a nugget of wisdom."

Think I will close with that.

I'm sorry Liamson if this is radically off base of what you were asking for, I do humbly apologize. I gotta be honest and say I've had a twinge or two with a couple of the threads on the site, maybe I'm too old to post on certain ones. Egads, many of y'all are young enough to be a son or daughter. LOL LOL I mean, what does an ole' lady born in the 50's raised in the 60's know??? "They" say times have changed. Boyyyyyyyyyy have they ever. LOL LOL I got sooooooooooooooo much learning to do. I thought I was doing good to have a wee little ipod loaded with songs, now they got the ipad, the nooks, the kindles, the smartphones, etc. I'm doing good to turn on a computer and halfway know where one key is on the whole keyboard.

 

[CatHerder]

I don't know who couldn't date me.

After all, I am.......ME!

 

[rachelsedge]

Someone who is always go-go-go would not want to date me. This goes both mentally and physically. I'm a deep thinker and I love great conversations (he's gotta be able to hold one) but I also sometimes just want to...be quiet and soak in stuff. I don't like chatter boxes. He'd also get aggravated at me when I wanted to be chill and watch a movie or something and not be social-activity-hopping. I like hanging out with people, but methinks my introverted side of smaller groups/calm environments wins most of the time.

Someone who doesn't like being silly or is never serious would not want to date me. I feel that I'm a good mixture, I know when to be serious and I also like being relaxed and fun, but I sometimes slide across the kitchen floor in my socks, dance while doing dishes, imitate noises, am just weird/silly sometimes. He'd probably be embarrassed by it or just not...get it. On the flip side, if he's never serious, he would be driven up the wall by the meaningful conversations I love to have, the hard questions I ask.

Someone who wants a plastic girlfriend would not want to date me. I will not be your maid, I will not sit idly by and let big issues go unresolved (I'm honest), I will not be made a pet or "put in my place" with a pat on the head type of relationship, I will not be your "boo".

Just a few off the top of my head.

 

[kayem77]

Very good question! This is an interesting switch to the dating topic.
I've noticed that I've attracted different kinds of men with different personalities and interests. But I probably wouldn't be good for most of them (or them for me).

I wouldn't be good for a man who never ever questions anything. This would be the guy who was brought up a certain way and never gets out of that comfort zone, nor has he ever attempted to, simply because he believes anything different from that would be wrong. I like to know the reasons behind an idea, I like to appreciate it by myself, not just believe in it because someone else believed in it before me. I like finding things by myself. I like the know the why, and the how, and that certainly can be annoying or pointless for some people.

On the other side of the spectrum, I wouldn't be good for a guy who needs constant change and despises everything that's old or ''unchanging''. Even though I like to question the reasons behind old and new ideas,I don't oppose them necessarily. I find value in some traditions. Even though I'm not the most traditional woman compared to others, I do appreciate traditional families and traditional values. I believe in having a family, serving in one church, serving in a local community. A guy who can't stay in the same city for more than 3 years probably would be frustrated with that life.

I also wouldn't be good for a loner. I like people. If you ask me how I would picture my perfect home if I ever get married, I would say my home would be open to anyone in the church or family and friends (not ALL the time of course, I do need moments of solitude). People would come over just to spend some time, or when they have a problem. I've seen families in church opening their houses for people, and it's something I admire. I also like to spend time with friends, and I obviously would love spending time with my husband doing different activites. If he was a loner, this would drain the life outta him.

Oh, I also wouldn't be good for a guy who doesn't like doing anything fun. Or if his definition of fun was watching tv all day. If it were up to me and had the financials means to do it, I would be traveling all the time, or outdoors finding something fun to do.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Great question!

A guy who needs lots of time and attention could not date me. I need my space...

A guy who is very into schedules and habits probably wouldn't date me. My job(s) are very flexible and never look the same from week to week. I am not a 9-5 girl.

A guy who liked to splurge a lot wouldn't date me for very long. I am rather frugal.

A guy who wants to feel needed wouldn't date me for long. I'm pretty independent.

A serious spectator sports freak wouldn't date me. I just... don't get it.

A rebel wouldn't date me. I care too much what others think of me to do anything very crazy or wild.

 

[wisebeardman]

if you want to have people over all the time.
want me to watch a lot of crap on tv or crap movies
want me to always be out and about. (not going to happen I HATE leaving the house)

I am VERY set in my ways, I do not like being bothered. I have been alone pretty much ALL of my life. it is what I am used to and it has defined me in not liking people in general.

Dont try and string me along with a lot of crap, I will see though you and call you on it.
And no I wont trust you overnight ether, It will take YEARS for me to trust you. and if you screw me over you will never get on my good side again

I am a night person. if you try and make me a day person it will not end well for you.

I am also a tightwad. and NO MADE IN CHINA JUNK. buying china made crap to me is treason.

Must also add. NO CELL PHONES. period. get rid of the NSA spy device or I will not be around you.

 

[garet82]

Who Couldn't Date YOU?

hmmmm i think when


@ he isn't christian .. coz im very strict with my own faith n myself
b he is act as if he is mr right ( lol that mostly happen here )
c he is too fussy ( lol coz i think i am fussy enough at school to my students )
d He just give me fake promise ( say yes if you are able to do it or no if you can't)

others hmmm not really big deal

 

[Loveneverfails]

If I were available and looking:

a man who doesn't like kids or music couldn't date me. I love both and invest much of my time in both.
A man who spends his money on lavish unnecessary things couldn't date me. I'm a thrift-store, coupon-clipping kinda girl.
A man who is too far on either side of the "spontaneous-organized" spectrum probably couldn't date me. I'm pretty much right in the middle on that spectrum. There's a time for being whimsical and a time to plan ahead.
A man who hates dancing couldn't date me.
A man who's only concept of a good time must involve large groups of people couldn't date me. I'm moderately introverted.
A man who scoffs at the idea of a stay-at-home-mom couldn't date me.
A man who thinks that a Sunday morning service is all the Christian fellowship one could ever need couldn't date me. I fellowship wih my brothers and sisters all week long in one way or another
A man who doesn't respect my mother's native culture couldn't date me.
A man who doesn't have a good sense of humor certainly couldn't date me. No uptight fellas for me!

 

[MissColdasIce]

1. Immature.
2. A guy who doesn't like to be around children.
3. A guy who thinks I ALWAYS have the better idea. Boring.
4. A guy who doesn't know when to talk, when to listen, and when to shut up. Insensitive.
5. A guy who can't rule his emotions.

 

[MissColdasIce]

1. Immature.
2. A guy who doesn't like to be around children.
3. A guy who thinks I ALWAYS have the better idea. Boring.
4. A guy who doesn't know when to talk, when to listen, and when to shut up. Insensitive.
5. A guy who can't rule his emotions.

Guy no.1 would think I'm a killjoy or that I'm too sensitive or too respectful (if there's even such a thing)
Guy no.2 and me just wouldn't work. A difference that's impossible for me to work out.
Guy no.3 wouldn't like me when I'm bored. I can't hide it when I lose interest.
Guy no.4 is like a cousin of Guy no.1, aint gonna work. Waste of time.
Guy no.5 been there, done that. Chaos.