Would you trust him again?

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ServantStrike

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Jullianna said:
Two keywords: fiancé and sexting

You were in a serious, committed relationship, so for me that equals cheating...

If it were me, I would not trust him again. But only you can make this decision for yourself.
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Remember when the internet was just getting really big in the mid 90's, and there was a huge debate over whether or not cybersex was cheating?

It's like people want to push things as close to the line as possible and say it's okay.

We had a guy here who got caught texting another woman and wrote about it. He said he was happy he got caught, because he's not sure he'd have ever told. Yuck.


People who cheat need to be a man (or be a woman) and accept responsibility for their actions. Just throwing that out there, both sexes cheat.


Grace-Like-Rain said:
If you were married I would say definitely try to trust him again. But since you've not married him yet, my advice would be to let him go... As terrible as this was while engaged, imagine how much worse it could be after you are married and have children with him. This is a HUGE red flag and it's a blessing that you found out about it before marrying him.

Also: "Caught" is a key word here too. When you have to "catch" them (as opposed to him coming clean with you on his own) then you'll always have to wonder what else you haven't caught him at.

Sorry to be such a downer! Forgiveness is of course important. Definitely forgive him. But tying yourself to a man is something entirely different. You can forgive him and even still love him, and still be discerning and make decisions based on what is best for you at this point. (((hugs)))
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Yes. Very yes.

And I really question the spiritual maturity of a man who cheats too.

Seriously it sounds like an unequally yoked situation in the making.




OP, those here who mention forgiveness probably have the best of intentions, and I'm not saying it isn't possible, but this needs time, a lot of time. You need to tell this man there isn't going to be a wedding any time soon because you need to see genuine biblical repentance.
 
rachelsedge

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Is he remorseful that he did it or remorseful that he got caught?

Great advice here, so I have nothing more to add besides that question.
 
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