Porn, going back to my old ways

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MonicaLopez

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Lately i've been feeling like god doesn't hear me. I go back to my old ways and get mad at my self after wards. But now its like i dont care. Masterbation and PORN is what i deal with. I ask god to forgive me but.. i do not feel nothing. I have a boyfriend. we are both Christian. but i feel as tho iam digging him deeper into sin and far from god. we are not perfect. when he comes over i lose it and we go back to our old ways. we NEVER had sex but oral. I need help, and i seeking guidance and encouragement from some one that understands my situation.
 
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matt99

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I have been struggling with pornogarphy my whole life. I know exactly how you feel when you say you feel nothing when you ask for forgivness. You need to repent, that is different than just asking for forgivness. You have to honestly feel bad and sorry for the sins you have committed. That starts with truly loving god. When you truly love someone you would never want to hurt them. It is the same with god. Once you come to love him it becomes hard to commit those sins because you do not want to hurt him. You are not alone, remember that.
 
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Crossfire

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MonicaLopez said:
Lately i've been feeling like god doesn't hear me. I go back to my old ways and get mad at my self after wards. But now its like i dont care. Masterbation and PORN is what i deal with. I ask god to forgive me but.. i do not feel nothing. I have a boyfriend. we are both Christian. but i feel as tho iam digging him deeper into sin and far from god. we are not perfect. when he comes over i lose it and we go back to our old ways. we NEVER had sex but oral. I need help, and i seeking guidance and encouragement from some one that understands my situation.
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Sexual immorality is one of the hardest habits to break. The only advice I can offer you is what worked for me in my own struggles.

The bible teaches us that what we treasure most, that's where our heart will reside. The only way to free yourself from this sinful behavior that is keeping you in bondage is to learn how to value God more than we value our sinful behavior. The only way to do that is to seek God whole heartedly through prayer, worship and meditation (study) of His word so that His Spirit can transform both your heart and mind. What you need is a revelation of his love toward you and in you. A love far greater and sweeter than the love (lust) of / for any man.

It's apparent that you realize that what you are doing is wrong in God's eyes. That's good, repentance is the first step. Now what you need to realize is that without the Holy Spirit's help you are never going to win the battle against your own flesh. In order to receive the help you need from the Lord, you need to separate yourself from those things which tempt you and cause you to fail so that you can focus on God. That means no more boyfriend. No more hanging out, no more phone calls, no more texting. If you watch porn on tv or your computer then that means no more tv or computer. Basically you need to isolate yourself from anything that might tempt you.

The point of this is what the bible calls "consecration". It basically means to set yourself apart for God's own purposes. In this case, you are seeking God for "sanctification", in other words, you want God to deliver you from this sin. The only way to get delivered from this sin is to encounter God in such a deep, intimate way that both your heart and your mind is transformed in such a way that you no longer desire this sin. In other words, you need to encounter the love of God so that his love become the most valuable thing in your life.

This isn't going to be easy. However, if you are serious, this is the only way I have found that provides real results. I have experienced this in my own life and I have encounter many drug addicts, sex addicts and people who actually cut themselves who been delivered through this method.

I strongly suggest finding a good group of female believers (preferably older) to support you, to hold you accountable and who you can count on to be their for you in your moment of weakness.

You can do this. God does all the work, all you need to do is to give Him the room He needs to work in your life. Seek Him and you will find. Knock and He will reveal Himself to you. :)
 
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love7

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hi friend:) i understand what your going through,and am praying for you.i think you need to personally know God,let him be your best friend,talking honestly and openly with him,to totally fall in love with him
 
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